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Unhappy People Convince You To Be Miserable

Satsang by Swami Sukhabodhananda

How can i get inspired? My boss heaps abuse on me daily.

One can give only from what one has. When you understand this, you will be kind. You cannot expect a scorpion to kiss you. People around, with their hurt bodies, create pain for others. Their minds are so noisy that they create noise. Quite often, we hold on to the pain for a week, a month and create a hurt body in us. We cannot shake it loose from our memory. The hurt body starts eating our joy. It starts reliving the experience of abuse and creates a mountain out of a molehill. We have a choice to nurture abuse within us, reliving those moments or we can simply shake it off and move on.

Why do we suffer pain by recreating it moment to moment?
Thought creates energy. If thought is negative, then energy is negative and that creates pain. A hurt body looks at the world through pain. A hurt body will try its best to sustain pain. It is a matter of survival. So, it loves to attract pain and sustain pain. It will use logic to protect it. Look at unhappy people. They will convince you to be miserable. All that you can do is to create a bliss body in you. There are five layers in you: the physical body, the pranic body, the breath body, the mental body, the intellectual body and the bliss body.

All these layers in us have energies. It is in potential form. Just as there is latent fire in wood and by rubbing the wood it is invoked. In the same way you have to awaken the physical body through exercise, yoga, dance and a balanced diet. Keep the body alive and enthusiastic. You will then kindle a happy energy through the body. The pranic or breath body has to be awakened. Breathe deeply by doing pranayama and find a different kind of joy surfacing in you. Shallow breathing creates lower energy field while deep breathing enhances one's aliveness. The mental body can be awakened if you keep your mind calm. A calm mind has a different joy; a noisy mind is an avenue for energy leakage. When your intellect is open and receptive, yet another dimension of blissful energy arises. One who is open and receptive is always learning. In deep sleep, the bliss body opens up naturally. In the waking state, if one is committed to be happy and learns to look at life as a celebration, the bliss centre will be awakened.

Could opening these five bodies help improve a marital relationship?

If we are depleted, there is leakage of energy. We then try to draw energy from our partner. Each one starts sapping the other's energy and we become dependent on the other. Both feel miserable. When there is resistance to restriction of freedom, the partner feels rejected and dejected. You wait to settle scores at the opportune time. There is a war of roses.

However, if you have tapped all the five layers within you, you will overflow with joy. You will not sap the energy of the other as you are overflowing. You will not be dependent on the other but you can learn to be interdependent, there is a sense of belonging. The relationship will reach new heights when you open your body, prana, mind, intellect, bliss centres.

An article that I read in the newspaper….just like the cat knows when to water the plant you should also be able to……….

KNOW WHEN TO GIVE

It is a lie to give when you do not feel like giving. It is the worst blasphemy as you are denying who you really are and your feelings, says Roy E Klienwachter

Giving is the greatest opportunity for you to express who you are and how you see yourself in relationship to others and your environment in the moment. When you walk by a beggar and ignore his outstretched hand-you are making a personal statement about yourself, how you feel about the beggar or what he is doing.

We make judgments about the situation based on our own perceptions about the one asking for the handout. There are very few of us who could not give him something, if only a few words of encouragement.

My own personal view is I would much rather teach a man to fish, than to feed him. In other words if there is the beggar, a volunteer who would go out and fish and give his catch to the beggar, and the one who would teach the man to fish ? I'd rather give to the one who would teach.

The beggar doesn't give a damn about being taught how to fish, if his immediate need is to satisfy his hunger. So giving to the one who would teach is the least desirable course of action in the moment. Giving to the volunteer who would go out and fish and give away his catch does little for the immediate needs of the beggar who is hungry ? now.

Now giving money to the beggar may not resolve the hunger issue if the money is really needed to buy drugs or something else. Can you trust a beggar who has learned to lie and come up with unique stories to get your money-can he be trusted?

Giving to the one who would go out and fish and give away his catch would seem to be a better solution. However, if there are beggars on the street starving, where is his catch going? How much of the donations going to him are being spent on his overhead and personal expenses-can he be trusted to use the money to return fish to the hungry?

So maybe it is wiser to use your money to support the one who would do the most good in the first place. Give it to the one who would teach the beggars to fish, so they would no longer have to beg for food and be self sustaining.

We all have heard about programs to help the hungry. Money donated to these groups or individuals is funnelled into their own pockets and the needy do not receive benefit from your donation. None of these people seem to be responsible.

There is only one person who can be responsible, and it is you. If you see yourself as a giving or caring person in the moment, then it would be incumbent upon yourself to give when the opportunity comes up-not for the sake of the one who is in need, but because it is an opportunity for you to express yourself as caring or giving. All life declares itself as "this" or "that" in any particular moment. Guilt should never be part of the equation of giving. It is a lie to give when you do not feel liking giving. It is the worst blasphemy-you are denying who you really are and your feelings.

In the true spirit of giving, you give to yourself-not to the other. You receive the greatest benefit from giving, if it is done from the heart and in the moment. You receive an immediate benefit in the act itself. It is only when your mind starts to contemplate your action do you feel anything else. If you give for yourself first, then it doesn’t matter that your donation is going to be used to buy drugs or cigarettes, alcohol or anything else. Your giving was a true expression of how you felt in the moment-it is life expressing itself in all its glory.

Over the last six years my web site has cost me thousands to operate and maintain. Three years ago I added a link for those who felt the desire to donate. When I started this site I was aware of the expense of maintaining it and the site survives. I added a link as a gift to those who could see value in the material and purpose of the site. I added it for their benefit, because they have realised the value and wanted to donate something of value in return. It was an opportunity to declare their value and appreciation.

It was the greatest gift I could give to my visitors. If one appreciates value then one gives value back because they are aware of their own value. If one does not see value, they do not give value back-they see themselves as valueless in the moment. If you do not see yourself as having value, then you cannot give value. Value can only be experienced when it is given. The next time you are given the opportunity to give, respond to your intuition first and act on it immediately. Simply give or do not. But the most interesting thing, is to listen to your internal dialogue if you do not give. It will be a reminder of how connected or disconnected from spirit you really are.

Who gives the greater gift, the one who is in need or the one who needs to give-the one in need of course? When you stop to think before giving, what you are doing is questioning your own value. This is neither a good thing nor a bad thing-it is a simple recognition of how you see yourself in the moment.

When you give because it is your true nature to do so, you will always receive an immediate reward-recognition of self. It is the greatest gift anyone can receive-it is a gift of life. Life always seeks to declare itself as "I am". The donations themselves become meaningless to you-once given, it is no longer yours-neither are any expectations. Donations are not donations if there is an expectation they become payment in advance for something you seek later.

Never miss the opportunity to give-you will always receive an immediate reward. If you want to feel good now, go out and look for someone to give to. Give to yourself first and others will benefit.

This is a wonderful article which I came across in the Times of India a year back on 16^th March 2008.

Its really worthwhile going through the same.

Maybe you may find it a bit lengthy but worth going through once.

I have experienced the benefits of it and still reaping the fruits of following what the writer advocates in the few paragraphs.

Have a wonderful day. God bless you with a smiling day.

The gifts of surrender

Once you start praying for others, you are letting go of your ego and surrendering

M Deskins

Sometimes, no matter how much we want something, we won't get it. It doesn't seem to matter that we spend time doing things we love in order to raise our vibrations, it sometimes doesn't matter that we believe with all of our hearts that everything will be ok. Sometimes they don't. Why, then? What more can we do? The answer, although i know it's easier said than done, is to just surrender. If you’re at the point when you start to feel frustrated, then surrender. And by surrendering, i mean doing it truly. It’s more than just to say, “It’s in your hands now, God”. No, it takes more than that.
By truly surrendering, you must not only surrender your desires, but your ego. It’s ok to be a little vain sometimes, I’ve mentioned it before in my other articles, but sometimes our ego becomes so large and we don’t even realise it. Our ego may be trapped inside of us subconsciously without our even knowing. So in order to truly manifest, sometimes we have to realise that our ego is too big and we must let it go.

If you have done every thing possible to manifest something or someone, and have seen no evidence that it is working, then you can do nothing else but surrender. But like I said, it is easier said than done.

So how do you “let go” of your ego? How do you surrender it to the Universe? First things first, I want you to think of the worse case scenario should you NOT get what you are trying to manifest. Think of the worse thing that would happen if you don’t get your way. Does it fill you with dread and fear? Sadness? But guess what, that “worse case scenario” hasn’t happened yet, has it? No matter what you are experiencing now, it could always be worse. Remember that. No matter how badly off you are right now, there is someone else out there experiencing an even worse scenario. So how can you avoid something even worse happening to you? If you have been fighting and fighting and still see no signs of winning, then what’s stopping you from surrendering? Your ego won’t let you? Well obviously you need another tactic since whatever you’re doing now isn’t winning you your prize. Are you going to keep on fighting a battle that you can’t seem to win, or are you going to surrender and let the Higher Powers of the Universe take care of it?

One very important path to take in surrendering, is to offer your help to others in similar situations as you. You don’t have to necessarily help them with money, but offer kind words, prayer, support, love, etc… to them. Something that may seem simple and trivial to you may mean a lot to them. When you do this, you are letting your own ego go long enough to put others before yourself. Sometimes when I struggle, I write articles like this that may (or may not) inspire people. I simply write and put my articles out there for free to share. I also visit online support groups and forums and offer advice and prayer to others in similar situations to me. I offer no personal opinions to anyone unless I am asked. Remember the “worst case scenario” I talked about? I have met people who are experiencing worse than I. I pray for them most of all. You can do it as well. Offer all the time and support you can to others. If their struggles start to remind you of your own, push it aside. Do not pass personal judgement on to them, or you will be letting your ego out.
After time, you will find yourself worried less about your own problems. By helping others, you will also be getting rid of any stored bad karma you may have. You will also start to feel more grateful the things you do have. Your wants and desires will become less important to you, you will just be happy when those you have helped are learning how to heal. You yourself will find yourself healing as well. You may not even realise it at first. By helping others, you are helping yourself. It doesn’t always have to be other people, you can help animals as well. If you find an insect in your house, don’t kill it. Remember that all life is sacred and that this world belongs to all creatures, not just you. Once you start praying for others more than yourself, it is proof to the God and the Universe that you’re letting go of your ego and that you are truly surrendering.

A worthwhile article which appeared in the Times of India a couple of days back. Since I was unable to send thoughts in the morning due to problem with net connectivity, here is an article which I feel might be useful to you.

An article by

Siddhi Srivastava

that appeared in the

Times of India on Valentine’s day.

Love is the most natural emotion of life. Love is the most euphoric, ecstatic, overwhelming joy one can ever experience. God has just dipped us into the nectar of love, which is the spice of life. Why does a newborn baby start crying the moment she comes into this materialistic world? How does a baby recognise her mother? Why does she sleep peacefully in her mother’s arms?

A mother’s womb for a baby is nothing less than a temple, for there is only love. Enjoying life in such a sweet atmosphere, the baby feels safe in her mother’s womb. God resides in a temple, so a foetus is regarded as an incarnation of God. And when a baby comes into the world, she is separated from the spiritual world of freedom.

Every breath of the mother is connected to the breath of the baby. Every beat of the mother’s heart is connected to the heartbeat of the baby. Why then shouldn’t she recognise her mother? This is true love. When the universe was created, God showered his pure love on everybody. His love for us is boundless. We pray to God because we are grateful to him.

We tend to forget God in times of happiness. Most of the times we do not show kindness to others once we get happiness. God wants us to put our feet on the ground and live a life of love. Serving the children of God is the best way to love God. No human being should be deprived of love and kindness.

Kindness and courage both are different dimensions of love. Kindness is the virtue of being compassionate and merciful towards others, be it to our own baby or someone else’s, be it our friend or a stranger. Every living being in some way or the other is an image of God. By showing love towards all we can hope to achieve this quality. In the same way, courage in troubled times is not everybody’s cup of tea. Just as we should love others, it’s also important to love ourselves and the life given to us by God. The holy spirit of God within us is called the soul. Hence, it is God who is responsible for every good deed that we do.

Joys and sorrows are like day and night. Joys or sorrows… we must welcome every emotion that God wants us to experience, with courage. Nothing is permanent, neither joys nor sorrows. No matter how dark the night, it is followed by day. No matter how painful the sorrow is, joy is bound to follow. Overcome sorrows with courage.

Nowadays there is terrorism in the name of religion. Terrorism is a dimension of hatred. God is a symbol of love. Spreading hatred for the sake of God is not justified since God can never ever be happy to see bloodshed. Gandhi fought for love and unity through the peaceful way of satyagraha. Unity cannot exist without love. Anything that brings us closer to God is love. Classical dancers worship God through their dance. Through this they gain wisdom and attain the highest spiritual freedom.

All her life Meerabai loved Krishna, she worshipped Krishna. She did not bother what the world would say about her. She just wished to be close to God, she just wished to be close to love. She is remembered as a great devotee of God. One should always choose the right path and then have the conviction and belief to tread it. This is what Meera did. Think of Krishna, and Meera comes to mind. True love brings us closer to God. God is love. Man, too, can become love.

A friend 4 ever
Always take extra care of 3 things
in LIFE
a) TRUST
b) PROMISE &
c) RELATION.
Becoz they don’t make noise when they break.

A friend 4 ever
Always take extra care of 3 things
in LIFE
a) TRUST
b) PROMISE &
c) RELATION.
Becoz they don’t make noise when they break.

A friend 4 ever
Always take extra care of 3 things
in LIFE
a) TRUST
b) PROMISE &
c) RELATION.
Becoz they don’t make noise when they break.

Due to constraints of time, could not find a better article than this one to share with you on this Tuesday - an abstract from “The fall of human intellect” by Swami Parthasarathy which appeared in the newspaper last week. I am trying to get a recording of the lecture on Life Management. It was really a lecture that was not to be missed….the flow of words from the speaker left the audiences spell bound during the course of the one hour ten mins speech. The organisers are trying to hold a one day seminar on the same topic. Anyways hope all of you had a wonderful extended holiday. Have a wonderful week ahead at work.

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A friend 4 ever
Always take extra care of 3 things
in LIFE
a) TRUST
b) PROMISE &
c) RELATION.
Becoz they don’t make noise when they break.

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A friend 4 ever
Always take extra care of 3 things
in LIFE
a) TRUST
b) PROMISE &
c) RELATION.
Becoz they don’t make noise when they break.