12 Apr 2008 @ 11:30 PM 
 

Revenge or Gandhigiri

 


Revenge or Gandhigiri?

Yesterday evening, I was the victim of road rage of sorts. And, while my heart and soul sought revenge, I desisted from exacting it.


Let me tell you what happened. I was driving home from work. It was early evening and I was in the lane on the right, and right on track behind a bus. At a point slightly ahead, the road became single lane because of some road works. Suddenly from the left came this beaten up white Alto, driven by a young surd. The lad tried to nose his car between me and the bus. I just ignored him and continued in my lane. He tried to get in three or four times, getting more rash each time. Each time, I continued sticking to my lane, and my place behind the bus - unconcerned at his antics.

Immediately after the road works was this circle, where I was to turn left. The bus took a left turn and so did I. As the bus turned, this lad revved his engine and tried to get between us yet again. And once more I stuck to my guns. He had to slam on his brakes to avoid brushing my car.

About 200 meters ahead, the bus took a right turn and went away, while I continued straight down the road. By that time, this lad’s car was tailgating my car. His ego must have been smarting so hard at not being allowed to butt in by a mere woman. I knew I should expect fireworks soon.


As expected, this guy revved his engine, swung hard to the left lane, brought his car parallel to mine, stuck his head out of his car mouthed some things (not complimentary, i bet - but alas, the words lost their effect on me as my windows were rolled shut, and the AC and music system were on). He overtook my car from the left, and swerved hard into a position bang in front of my car. Then he deliberately slowed, forcing me to slow down. That’s what I had expected… and that’s exactly what he did.


I am generally cool up to a point, but when I see red, I see RED. I am a much better than average driver, and do not take incursions of this kind lightly. My first (gut) instinct was to teach this lad a lesson that he would not forget easily. I was capable of doing the same thing to him, and leading him slowly and straight into the police station - as I have done once in the past. [:P]


This time, strangely, although I was mad at his gumption, my next thoughts were ‘Hey, look at that car’! It was so badly beaten up, and bore so many stamps of past encounters with immovable objects - dents, scratches, damaged paintwork, and rust showing through.


I consciously slowed my car to a crawl behind his. The fast track red blooded guy that he was, he could keep up to this slow pace for no more than 2 minutes, then he could bear it no more. Perhaps he felt I had given up, and feeling very happy (this is my wild guess) that he had taught the old biddy a lesson, he va va vroomed away.


Take home message: The Appy of today is wiser than the Appy of yore. I pretended to be slower (dumber on the road) than I will ever be, and let him feel he had got the better of him. This act (gandhigiri of sorts?) was wiser in the long run. His badges warned me to steer clear and avoid a conflict through which I might have come out a victor, but could have left me with a hefty bill - that would have mighty well pleased him.


Moral: While revenge is sweet, it’s better in the long run to be wise.  :-)


Tags Categories: This is Life Posted By: a b
Last Edit: 14 Mar 2011 @ 08 37 PM

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  1. nice reading. smart thinking too, ma”am.

  2. Jo P says:

    poor nissan, honda jerk! - is what i could say at first sight of the pic. ur still in good shape i suppose, and ur reflections on this event count the most, all in a day’’s traffic! :)

  3. Zebunissa says:

    very true.. u acted well

  4. a b says:

    @ cubes 3B: u seem to hv confused urself silly, reee !
    let me lay down facts again…
    as u dont seem to hv understood them correctly the first time.
    A. i was in the proper lane, driving at the proper speed… that is, i was not driving slowly in a fast lane, that is i ws not holding up traffic behind me…
    B. he was NOT faster than me.. what he did was cut in very RASHLY… and tried to do it again and again…
    C. what leads you to assume that a driver who is rash is that way cuz he is rushing to get to a hospital… in fact it is such behavior that CAUSES accidents and takes ppl to hospitals.
    D. i am a busy professional and my time is VERY vital to me.. i am not on the road to dawdle or waste time giving way to rash young brats who are in a tearing rush to go from rich dad’’s plush pad to the bowling alley… or coffee shop .. or pub.
    E. trust me… i can read body language and hand gestures… even if the window prevented me from hearing the actual words said.

  5. Cubes 3B says:

    Maybe you should have given him the way in the first place. Sometimes people need to do like that in order to reach places like hospitals or emergencies. So if you are in no hurry, then its good to let down your soo called ego and let other person pass. As it is he was going faster than you. That would be much better than your so called gandhigiri ! You never could know what he was saying. Maybe he was asking you to give side rather than abusing you. So MAYBE you were completely wrong in the first place !
    I am not saying if you were right or wrong, but thats just another thought I would like you to think over ~ Cubes3B.

  6. Teddy Bear says:

    you did exercise a lot of self control there.. good for you.. Ted

  7. sweety says:

    very nice

  8. amr snh says:

    very nicely narrated a pragmatic approach

  9. you did right thing. because to take revenge you have to go to that person level . it is no use fighting the fire of insanity. let it burn with itself, which you did. good.

  10. Baap re appy…sucha stupid sod…but there are so many like him out there…but there’’s only one appy…and you did the right thing! :)

    Appy rulzzzz

  11. Xoticaa says:

    Very true breathlessant!? Civil sensibilities is zilch in the youth of today. But you did the right thing. TC.

  12. kuldip gupta says:

    Hi alpana
    U r a sensible person.

  13. INDER VIG says:

    TUFANO MEIN BHEE DIAEY JALAEY RAKHNA EK KALA HAY JEE….AKALMAND HEE AISA KUR SAKTAY HEIN..

  14. Kush A says:

    Ya, revenge is the dish that tastes best when served cold. lolz…

  15. BEST FRIEND says:

    You did the right thing……must have been an arrogant person and from a family where money must be flowing like a river…..anyways controlling your anger and let him feel that he had won the battle was the right thing. Else who knows what would have been the effect of your anger on your own self and that too on a spoilt brat like that fellow.

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