Karmanye Vadhika Raste ..
The species of human beings is very peculiar.
Four incidents triggered me into writing this piece.
A group of young boys live exactly opposite us. Good and decent boys ' friendly and always courteous. These boys would often ask us for water or tea. We willingly gave it to them and always with pleasure. It was an extremely hot summer and one day they returned home late in the night and asked us for cold water. We gave them the 'matka paani' ' with a smile ' politely, honestly and sincerely telling them that none of us drank refrigerated water. They looked at us strangely ' and probably thought that we did not want to give them refrigerated water ' well what they thought was their matter ' we knew we were honest and just let the matter rest. Incident cleanly forgotten ' a few days later ' on my way out I saw them borrowing a bottle of cold water from another neighbour ' I smiled and wondered- .I wondered- and smiled.
Our next door neighbour has two girls ' aged 5 years and 8 months respectively. They did have a tough time managing both of them during the summer vacation. The father did all the vegetable shopping for the family as the mother had her hands full just managing both of them. They would frequently borrow from us ' a lime today ' a tomato on another day ' chillies ' little things ' never of much consequence ' and we willingly gave it to them ' we understood their predicament ' and all was fine till one day they asked for a lime and I did not have one. Another day ' it was a tomato ' and bingo ' I did not have that too ' and all of a sudden the borrowing has stopped.
The girls fell sick ' one after the other ' during the summer ' and I played the role of a Good Samaritan and looked after them when the mother was visiting the doctor. But the next time the 8 month old fell sick ' I had a lecture to deliver ' and said as much ' and ' yeah ' you guessed right ' the baby sitting duty while going to the doctor has stopped ' pronto! It took a different turn - but ' when ' often the mother had to buy something from the market ' she would enquire if I was free and leave the kid with me. One fine day ' the normally quiet 8 month old 'simply started bawling her lungs out ' she clearly wanted her mamma and refused to be consoled. I was at my wits end ' not knowing what to do ' even the maids pitched in to console her ' but in vain. On her return the mother herself witnessed the fervour with which she was crying ' but incredulously ' both the kids ' have now stopped coming home.
I had to use two sensible family members as a sounding board before I could sort out my thoughts. I recalled how happy I had felt when one of my ex students made a long distance call one fine evening just to say that she quite often thought of me and that she missed me because now had no one to edit her articles and send it to the local newspaper. I had touched a young girl's life in some positive way ' and she had called me up to thank me for it. What a beautiful virtue ' gratitude is ' I mused to myself .
Suddenly everything fell into place 'helping people when I could was within my control ' what they think of me when I cannot help them is beyond my control ' and the Bhagavad Gita's verse came to my mind ' Karmanye Vadhika Raste ' Maha Phaleshu Kadachana ' It was my duty to help people when I could - but never to expect gratitude or understanding. On my part -I knew I was not trying to teach anyone a lesson and that thought brought me peace And so life goes on ' I've learnt one more lesson thoroughly' You do your duty but don't expect gratitude and understanding from anyone ' at all!
Brinda R Shah.