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Cross Culturial Relationships
Posted by Carl in Blogs, Love, Personal, Uncategorized on June 27th, 2011
Interestingly, it’s much rarer to find an Indian woman with a foreign man, than a foreign woman with an Indian man. A white male friend of mine from America attempted to date an Indian girl and failed dismally. I also know of dozens of white woman-Indian man couples in Mumbai, but very few of the reverse. It seems that not many Indian women are interested in having a white man for a husband. A large part of me wonders whether it is due to the cultural expectations placed on Indian girls. Some Indian girls do marry foreign guys though. And what is it about these foreign men that Indian girls fall for? A recent article in the Bombay Times section of the Times of India shed some light on the matter. The article featured a number of interviews with high profile desi girl-pardesi guy couples. Actress Sweta Keswani, who married half Dutch-half American Alexx O’Neil, says that she likes the fact that he doesn’t expect her to cook for him or clean up after him, like the typical Indian man who’s seen his mother do that all her life. According to Sweta, Alexx happily makes his own food, buys groceries, and is thankful to her when she does cook and serve him. Sweta also appreciates Alexx’s lack of possessiveness and narrow-mindedness. She says that she couldn’t even hug a a male friend in front of the Indian men that she’d dated. They also tried to change her, after initially liking her for the way she was. Alexx gives her much more space and liberty to be herself. Singer Manasi Scott married half Indian-half Australian Craig Scott. She likes the fact that unlike most Indian men, Craig loves the outdoors and is a very sporty guy. He’s also much more supportive of her career than most Indian men would be. However, she has had to adjust to his lifestyle in other ways. She explains that she’s a proper vegetarian and he’s a complete meat eater — so she’s had to learn how to cook the food he likes. Does anyone else have any experiences to share?
There has been plenty of discussion on how Indian men feel about white women. Now, lets take a look at the opposite: desi (Indian) girls with pardesi (foreigner) guys.
My Father - My Life
Posted by Carl in Personal, Philosophy, Poetry, Uncategorized, Writing on June 27th, 2011
I remember, it was a morning, in summer, I could see my father at the end of the garden. He was motionless, looking for something, I could not tell what, or where, beyond the world, His body was already bent over, but his gaze Was lifted toward the unaccomplished or the impossible. He had put aside his pick and his spade, The air was fresh on that morning of the world, But even freshness can be impenetrable, and cruel The memory of the mornings of childhood. Who was he, who had he been in the light, I did not know, I still do not. But I also see him on the boulevard, Walking slowly, so much weariness Weighing down the way he now moved, He was going back to work, while I was wandering about with some of my classmates At the beginning of an afternoon still free from time. To this figure, seen from afar, moving on its way, I dedicate the words that cannot say what they would. (In the dining room Of the Sunday afternoon, in summer, The shutters closed against the heat, The table cleared, he suggested Cards, since these are the only pictures In the childhood house to satisfy The needs of dream, but he leaves, And when he does, the child clumsily takes the cards, He puts the winning ones in the other’s hand, Then waits feverishly for the game to begin again, And for the one who was losing to win, and so triumphantly That he might see in this victory a sign, something to nourish some hope the child cannot know. After this, two paths part, and one of them Vanishes, and almost immediately, forgetfulness Sets in, avid, relentless.
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I invite my refdiff friends to visit my work on “Ma Promenade” (My Walk) so take a little walk with me 
I have just done a post on the Castles of France and I was fortunate to be able to feature the one where de Vinci lived and died.
Leave a comment there..tell me what you think..Thanks..see you at the castle:)
“Fascinating, romantic, and endearing, Ma Promenade is a compilation of French culture and history to include, art, music, tradition, Fashion, culinary experiences, wine and is an avenue of discovery.”
Do We Forget The Past?
My thoughts :
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
Some of you believed the statement to be true for them just as it is stated. Others believe that all things do not have to be perfect and nice. That we need to just "make the best of what comes are way" or "to take life as it comes". To live in the moment as they say. Yet others put value on the past, painful or good, to take from it lessons so that we learn from the past.
When I read this I saw it in the form of 2 statements:
1-The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past.
2-You can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
With the first statement I disagree. Reduced is the assumption: Past = (failures+ unhappiness)
This is such a dark prospective I believe this to be not only untrue but impossible. One cannot just forget what they have experienced since all things are logged in the subconscious mind and effects our behavior and responses to our world and others daily.
Short of "forgetting" the past one "represses the past" instead. When emotions are pushed down deep inside you, over time they affect our spirit and color our ability to relate to others. The repressed feelings can be pushed down in one place but will always pop up in another. So for me this is not good or healthy for us.
As for the second statement one cannot simply "let go" of failures and heartaches and I am not convinced that this is good to do. If we did this that we would repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Instead we learn from our failures and they become life's lessons for us to take forward in our lives. Not to ruin our live but to enhance our life with the wisdom of living.
As for what we do with the pain or trauma of the past. How can we go forward if we carry too much pain?
We do this through the concept of "resolution." It would not be possible to define it entirely in this post but it is an adjustment in our lens with which we see our world. When we are able ro resolve this pain we may then remember the traumatic events without the pain that binds us and use this new outlook to propel us forward to a happier future.
Sometimes we need to take the time to step backward in order to go forward.
Thank you all again for sharing with me.
Always be well,
Carl
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Carl
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