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Cross Culturial Relationships

Posted by Carl in Blogs, Love, Personal, Uncategorized on June 27th, 2011

There has been plenty of discussion on how Indian men feel about white women. Now, lets take a look at the opposite: desi (Indian) girls with pardesi (foreigner) guys.

Interestingly, it’s much rarer to find an Indian woman with a foreign man, than a foreign woman with an Indian man. A white male friend of mine from America attempted to date an Indian girl and failed dismally. I also know of dozens of white woman-Indian man couples in Mumbai, but very few of the reverse. It seems that not many Indian women are interested in having a white man for a husband. A large part of me wonders whether it is due to the cultural expectations placed on Indian girls.

Some Indian girls do marry foreign guys though. And what is it about these foreign men that Indian girls fall for? A recent article in the Bombay Times section of the Times of India shed some light on the matter. The article featured a number of interviews with high profile desi girl-pardesi guy couples.

Actress Sweta Keswani, who married half Dutch-half American Alexx O’Neil, says that she likes the fact that he doesn’t expect her to cook for him or clean up after him, like the typical Indian man who’s seen his mother do that all her life. According to Sweta, Alexx happily makes his own food, buys groceries, and is thankful to her when she does cook and serve him. Sweta also appreciates Alexx’s lack of possessiveness and narrow-mindedness. She says that she couldn’t even hug a a male friend in front of the Indian men that she’d dated. They also tried to change her, after initially liking her for the way she was. Alexx gives her much more space and liberty to be herself.

Singer Manasi Scott married half Indian-half Australian Craig Scott. She likes the fact that unlike most Indian men, Craig loves the outdoors and is a very sporty guy. He’s also much more supportive of her career than most Indian men would be. However, she has had to adjust to his lifestyle in other ways. She explains that she’s a proper vegetarian and he’s a complete meat eater — so she’s had to learn how to cook the food he likes.

Does anyone else have any experiences to share?

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My Father - My Life

Posted by Carl in Personal, Philosophy, Poetry, Uncategorized, Writing on June 27th, 2011

I remember, it was a morning, in summer,

The window was half-open, I drew near,

I could see my father at the end of the garden.

He was motionless, looking for something,

I could not tell what, or where, beyond the world,

His body was already bent over, but his gaze

Was lifted toward the unaccomplished or the impossible.

He had put aside his pick and his spade,

The air was fresh on that morning of the world,

But even freshness can be impenetrable, and cruel

The memory of the mornings of childhood.

Who was he, who had he been in the light,

I did not know, I still do not.

But I also see him on the boulevard,

Walking slowly, so much weariness

Weighing down the way he now moved,

He was going back to work, while I

was wandering about with some of my classmates

At the beginning of an afternoon still free from time.

To this figure, seen from afar, moving on its way,

I dedicate the words that cannot say what they would.

(In the dining room

Of the Sunday afternoon, in summer,

The shutters closed against the heat,

The table cleared, he suggested

Cards, since these are the only pictures

In the childhood house to satisfy

The needs of dream, but he leaves,

And when he does, the child clumsily takes the cards,

He puts the winning ones in the other’s hand,

Then waits feverishly for the game to begin again,

And for the one who was losing to win, and so triumphantly

That he might see in this victory a sign, something

to nourish some hope the child cannot know.

After this, two paths part, and one of them

Vanishes, and almost immediately, forgetfulness

Sets in, avid, relentless.

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Bertrand Arthur William Russell (b.1872 - d.1970), British philosopher

Posted by Carl in Uncategorized on July 17th, 2010

Quote:
The fact that an opinion has been widely held is no evidence whatever that it is not utterly absurd; indeed in view of the silliness of the majority of mankind, a widespread belief is more likely to be foolish than sensible.

Bertrand Russell

Bertrand Arthur William Russell (b.1872 - d.1970), British philosopher, logician, essayist, and social critic, best known for his work in mathematical logic and analytic philosophy. His most influential contributions include his defense of logicism (the view that mathematics is in some important sense reducible to logic), and his theories of definite descriptions and logical atomism. Along with G.E. Moore, Russell is generally recognized as one of the founders of analytic philosophy. He is also usually credited with being one of the two most important logicians of the twentieth century, the other being Kurt Gödel.

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This was a gift I would like to share

Posted by Carl in Uncategorized on July 14th, 2010

When I face my day and feel the heat of the sun burn upon my brow you are there with cool water

When night has come and all is dark, you are my illumination.

When hope becomes an elusive luxury’ you are my inspiration

When all is heavy and immoveable before me you lighten my load

And always in my darkest hour and in my most buoyant days you are unwaveringly by my side, you are always in my heart and I never forget how much you love me..How much I love you…………..

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