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POST MORTEM OF A

HITCH- HIKING

DALMATIAN-DINGO

CROSSBREED

-There are NO Easy Solutions to Problems; in Life…there are No Fevi-kwik, superglue or quick fix solutions…

-Problems can arise in relationships, at work, in the family, etc…

-Learn to always tackle problems head-on, bravely… Face to face

-Don’t ever shirk away from your fears… face them…But, Be WISE and be prepared to anticipate and tackle the complexities of the strong currents and twists that each problem Will challenge you to solve.

-We REASON in our mind and make CHOICES, thus we are human….

-Problems are the Portals of opportunities. Opportunities are the Gateways of Success.

-Opportunities thrive on solutions…So; we have to solve our problems…to be successful. Think of problems as food you hate presented on a golden platter…If You eat the food, you get the golden platter… This is a bonus that comes along… this golden platter is the confidence and self belief that you have gained in this one experience which empowers you to face and solve larger problems in the future…the KEY to your life is HOW you Face-up to all the problems and SOLVE them.

-Many problems can be avoided by Preplanning, by anticipation and by preparedness.

-To err is human… So, problems Do occur, every step of the way…

-Most problems can be solved by judicious use of TIME, Proper channeling of the mind and motivated Focus on desired interests.

-There are a few problems which are difficult to solve, But, even these can be resolved if we could  put our earnest effort along with committed determination to achieve the desired goals and sincerely create portals and possibilities of thought which focus on accomplishing  the attainment of desired levels of success…

-But, first we have to shake up the skeletons in our closets and cupboards of our hearts and get rid of all the residual dust and we have to believe firmly from the nerve centers of our mind and from the epicenters of our soul that “OVERCOMING OUR FEARS” is NOT just another expression of the English language, but, Which exists because of our defiant approach and our never-say-die attitude and our great fighting spirit at centripetally FACING UP bravely, boldly and confidently … against  ALL the difficulties and hardships and turmoil that life has to offer… like mighty warriors in a combat field…AND …Because We FIND solutions to those “fears”…

-There are some problems which NEVER SEEM to get solved

-Our hearts shrink and droop in despair when we see ourselves helplessly seeking in vain for solutions which we know we HAVE, but it just doesn’t seem to surface…Due to WANT of time, interest, luck, help, opportunity, guidance, encouragement and direction….

-Let us call these little problems “ticklers” (as in tickle)…99% of the problems which we face in our everyday life are “ticklers”…. they are so little yet SEEM so large… they play on the mind…and reflect on our personality.

-“Ticklers” cause “stress”

-Most ticklers are a LITTLE stressful…………………………

 Some ticklers are a Little MORE-than-a-Little Stressful

 Few ticklers are VERY stressful……………………………..

-The STRESS created MUST be channeled PROPERLY…

-Stress must be dissipated centrifugally and should NOT be allowed to ACCUMULATE.

NEGATIVE approach to stress busting

This is a complete NO NO …

-Alcohol

-Smoking

-Sedatives

-Stimulants

-Drugs

-Sex

-Uncalled for and excessive indulgences

-These kinds of negative steps taken to counter stress are NOT long term SOLUTIONS.

-These will eventually compound and multiply in logarithm to the stress you are already undergoing.

-These will CHANGE your Lifestyle, your ethics, your values, your focus in life and will make you a slave to your appetites and your passions.

-We don’t want this to happen.

POSITIVE approach to stress busting

-When you have tried sincerely to solve a problem and NOT seemed to have found a solution…ACCEPT your LIMITATIONS.

-Confide and Share your problem with a trustworthy friend, companion, spouse, relative, parent, sibling etc…who you think can help you…

-CRY it out completely

-Confide in a HIGHER power of your belief…In God.

-Sports

-Pets

-Recreation

-Hobbies

-Refocus again after One/All of the above

A NOTE about DEPENDING ON OTHERS FOR

STRESS-BUSTING

1. Stress + Stress  à Distress

-When one stressed out person falls on the shoulder of another stressed out person, it causes DISTRESS for BOTH the people involved. It does NO one ANY good. This is like rubbing sand paper with sand paper.

-You begin to feel that you have tried honestly to channel your stress efficiently, with the limited resources at hand…But, that it seems is NOT enough to get your life back in order…neither is there free space or courteous sympathy for fine-tuning the wavelength with the other person. Such dependence needlessly ends up relations on the rocks. This does more harm than Good.

-This is usually seen at work place relations and in marriages heading for divorces.

-This is how Distress leads to DEPRESSION.

-Depression is the condition where a person is Breaking down…NOT only due to his own personal failures or shortcomings…BUT, this person is falling apart mentally due to SEEMINGLY collective failures and Unexpected LETDOWNS by Family, friends, Colleagues Etc…This was Sudden OR for which he was unprepared for…

-The helplessness of NOT being able to put the situation right…leads to FRUSTRATION

-Frustration Leads to WORRY

-Worry leads to Self DOUBT

-Doubt is the grandfather of depression.

-when failure is around you, personal failure gets COMPOUNDED.

-Everything, then it seems is IMPOSSIBLE.

2. Stress + DEStress à Zero Stress

-This is where the importance of family and friends comes into play.

-This is where you reap the rewards of investing in LONG TERM relationships.

-When a Stressed out person Falls on the shoulder of a NOT-SO-Stressed-OUT person, the Stress is SHARED and in time… It is LOST or becomes negligible…

-This is like rubbing a sand paper against wood. The sand paper loses it grain, and the wood gets it’s polish…In time… both purposes are accomplished …as intended.

-So, Now you KNOW why you have to be nice to people around you, in GOOD times…ha ha!!!

Moral of the story

1.   Share your stress with the RIGHT people

2.   Refocus on your life’s aims

3.   Shake yourself out of depression

4.   Come out refreshed and Get you life BUBBLING back again.

P.S.

 -I have found a wonderful Stress-buster from amongst my I-land friends….

-I know that this friend is WINKING at me right now…Ha ha!!!

-So, Cheers to life…Happy Stress-Busting!!!

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