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POST MORTEM OF A

HITCH- HIKING

DALMATIAN-DINGO

CROSSBREED

-There are NO Easy Solutions to Problems; in Life…there are No Fevi-kwik, superglue or quick fix solutions…

-Problems can arise in relationships, at work, in the family, etc…

-Learn to always tackle problems head-on, bravely… Face to face

-Don’t ever shirk away from your fears… face them…But, Be WISE and be prepared to anticipate and tackle the complexities of the strong currents and twists that each problem Will challenge you to solve.

-We REASON in our mind and make CHOICES, thus we are human….

-Problems are the Portals of opportunities. Opportunities are the Gateways of Success.

-Opportunities thrive on solutions…So; we have to solve our problems…to be successful. Think of problems as food you hate presented on a golden platter…If You eat the food, you get the golden platter… This is a bonus that comes along… this golden platter is the confidence and self belief that you have gained in this one experience which empowers you to face and solve larger problems in the future…the KEY to your life is HOW you Face-up to all the problems and SOLVE them.

-Many problems can be avoided by Preplanning, by anticipation and by preparedness.

-To err is human… So, problems Do occur, every step of the way…

-Most problems can be solved by judicious use of TIME, Proper channeling of the mind and motivated Focus on desired interests.

-There are a few problems which are difficult to solve, But, even these can be resolved if we could  put our earnest effort along with committed determination to achieve the desired goals and sincerely create portals and possibilities of thought which focus on accomplishing  the attainment of desired levels of success…

-But, first we have to shake up the skeletons in our closets and cupboards of our hearts and get rid of all the residual dust and we have to believe firmly from the nerve centers of our mind and from the epicenters of our soul that “OVERCOMING OUR FEARS” is NOT just another expression of the English language, but, Which exists because of our defiant approach and our never-say-die attitude and our great fighting spirit at centripetally FACING UP bravely, boldly and confidently … against  ALL the difficulties and hardships and turmoil that life has to offer… like mighty warriors in a combat field…AND …Because We FIND solutions to those “fears”…

-There are some problems which NEVER SEEM to get solved

-Our hearts shrink and droop in despair when we see ourselves helplessly seeking in vain for solutions which we know we HAVE, but it just doesn’t seem to surface…Due to WANT of time, interest, luck, help, opportunity, guidance, encouragement and direction….

-Let us call these little problems “ticklers” (as in tickle)…99% of the problems which we face in our everyday life are “ticklers”…. they are so little yet SEEM so large… they play on the mind…and reflect on our personality.

-“Ticklers” cause “stress”

-Most ticklers are a LITTLE stressful…………………………

 Some ticklers are a Little MORE-than-a-Little Stressful

 Few ticklers are VERY stressful……………………………..

-The STRESS created MUST be channeled PROPERLY…

-Stress must be dissipated centrifugally and should NOT be allowed to ACCUMULATE.

NEGATIVE approach to stress busting

This is a complete NO NO …

-Alcohol

-Smoking

-Sedatives

-Stimulants

-Drugs

-Sex

-Uncalled for and excessive indulgences

-These kinds of negative steps taken to counter stress are NOT long term SOLUTIONS.

-These will eventually compound and multiply in logarithm to the stress you are already undergoing.

-These will CHANGE your Lifestyle, your ethics, your values, your focus in life and will make you a slave to your appetites and your passions.

-We don’t want this to happen.

POSITIVE approach to stress busting

-When you have tried sincerely to solve a problem and NOT seemed to have found a solution…ACCEPT your LIMITATIONS.

-Confide and Share your problem with a trustworthy friend, companion, spouse, relative, parent, sibling etc…who you think can help you…

-CRY it out completely

-Confide in a HIGHER power of your belief…In God.

-Sports

-Pets

-Recreation

-Hobbies

-Refocus again after One/All of the above

A NOTE about DEPENDING ON OTHERS FOR

STRESS-BUSTING

1. Stress + Stress  à Distress

-When one stressed out person falls on the shoulder of another stressed out person, it causes DISTRESS for BOTH the people involved. It does NO one ANY good. This is like rubbing sand paper with sand paper.

-You begin to feel that you have tried honestly to channel your stress efficiently, with the limited resources at hand…But, that it seems is NOT enough to get your life back in order…neither is there free space or courteous sympathy for fine-tuning the wavelength with the other person. Such dependence needlessly ends up relations on the rocks. This does more harm than Good.

-This is usually seen at work place relations and in marriages heading for divorces.

-This is how Distress leads to DEPRESSION.

-Depression is the condition where a person is Breaking down…NOT only due to his own personal failures or shortcomings…BUT, this person is falling apart mentally due to SEEMINGLY collective failures and Unexpected LETDOWNS by Family, friends, Colleagues Etc…This was Sudden OR for which he was unprepared for…

-The helplessness of NOT being able to put the situation right…leads to FRUSTRATION

-Frustration Leads to WORRY

-Worry leads to Self DOUBT

-Doubt is the grandfather of depression.

-when failure is around you, personal failure gets COMPOUNDED.

-Everything, then it seems is IMPOSSIBLE.

2. Stress + DEStress à Zero Stress

-This is where the importance of family and friends comes into play.

-This is where you reap the rewards of investing in LONG TERM relationships.

-When a Stressed out person Falls on the shoulder of a NOT-SO-Stressed-OUT person, the Stress is SHARED and in time… It is LOST or becomes negligible…

-This is like rubbing a sand paper against wood. The sand paper loses it grain, and the wood gets it’s polish…In time… both purposes are accomplished …as intended.

-So, Now you KNOW why you have to be nice to people around you, in GOOD times…ha ha!!!

Moral of the story

1.   Share your stress with the RIGHT people

2.   Refocus on your life’s aims

3.   Shake yourself out of depression

4.   Come out refreshed and Get you life BUBBLING back again.

P.S.

 -I have found a wonderful Stress-buster from amongst my I-land friends….

-I know that this friend is WINKING at me right now…Ha ha!!!

-So, Cheers to life…Happy Stress-Busting!!!

Thankx to Waseema Nasreen…..

Here are my confessions!!!

1 LAST MOVIE IN A THEATRE

Babylon…!!! .I have no idea what it was all about except for the fact that the female CLONE from the monastery survived the blast in the climax because of the TWO TWIN super computers in her belly…but I can’t figure out how she died at childbirth….and I couldn’t figure out where the EVIL lady villain disappeared…my cousin (who is like 10years younger to me and is like a gadget, gizmo whiz kid).. Thinks that i am so pathetic that I can’t even figure out the climax of such a simple movie…..

2 WAT BOOK R U CURRENTLY READIN

I usually don’t get stuck into books too much , cause most of the time I am at work and I am kept occupied and busy ….But , when I do have some spare time on hand….. I am a freelancer…I don’t spare any newspaper ,magazine or novel  or story book or comics….when i was a kid I used to LOVE comic books..TINTIN, Donald duck, Goofy, Phantom, Superman, Spiderman, Mandrake, Birbal…ha ha...i grew up reading a lot of Famous Five, Hardy Boys….Now-a-days…I find it very difficult to concentrate on reading…alternate pages with movie actresses and that too in very skimpy clothing…HOW on Earth do you expect me to focus my attention to the READing when my mind is saying SEE SEE SEE ….ha ha!…yeah yeah!!!… I know that the question was about what book I am CURRENTLY reading…Talk about ‘getting carried away in the moment’…!

3 FAV BOARD GAME

I have never been good at board games… When I was a kid I used to wonder why all my friends insisted on playing chess and Monopoly etc, with me …Now I get it… they always WON… ha ha!!..I am  better at card games… but  I prefer outdoor activities and games….

4 FAV MAGAZINES

Sport star, India Today, Frontline, The Week, Cosmopolitan, Health, ,Reader’s digest…

5 FAV SMELLS

Freshly washed and ironed clothes, Freshly Peeled oranges in A/c room, Freshly Baked Bread, Jasmine Flowers, old love letters and secret diaries

6 FAV SOUNDS

I Love Birds… and I never Miss Listening to whatever sounds of birds I get to hear around me…and I have a huge collection of bird songs …

7 WORST FEELIN IN THE WORLD

Dropping a glass of water from my Examiner’s table during my Post Graduation Viva-voce at medical college…the glass broke… the shattering sound still rings in my ears sometimes…// ha ha

8 FIRST THING  U THNK WHEN U WAKE UP

Where is the Girl…? Where

9 FAV FAST FOOD PLACE

There is this joint opposite my friend’s home … it is called Shangri-La…NICE place. Yummy grilled chicken!!!

10 FUTURE CHILD’S NAME

I always liked the names ‘Ayesha’,’shruthi’,’Jasmine’,’Angel’ for girl babies and for boy babies  I think maybe ‘raj’, or ‘Ali’ , or ’Gabriel’ or’Gautam’……

11 IF I HAD LOT OF MONEY

I would build a State-of-the-art studio with the best audio and video editing possibilities….and definitely a complete cardiology unit dedicated to children.

12 DO U DRIVE FAST

Yeah! But hope some cop is not reading this… Diwali is round the corner

13 DO U SLEEP WITH A STUFFED ANIMAL

Lots of Pillows… Lots of Pillows…Loads of them

14 STORMS - COOL OR SCARY

Storms are crazy… …Honestly, I have great respect for fire, water and nature and human life…I don’t play around with them

15 FIRST CAR

 Did you want me to say “Mercedes”…?

16 FAV DRINK

 Orange juice and watermelon juice.

17 IF I HAD THE TIME I WUD

-Learn to cook

-Take classes on “how to find the right girl”

-jump into the river and learn to swim

-glance through the matrimonial columns in the Sunday papers…ha ha !!!

18 DO U EAT BROCCOLI STEMS

YES!!!   i like cauliflower and cabbage stems…Boiled with a pinch of salt.

19  IF U CUD DYE UR HAIR , WAT COLOR

Most of the girls in my clinic like me just the way I am…. That means I am still in the game…..maybe a few years down the line I might just figure out why you asked me this question in the first place…

20 DIFFERENT CITIES U HAVE LIVED IN

Manchester, Mumbai, Bangalore, Hyderabad.

21 FAV SPORTS

Loads of Cricket… and definitely a bit of tennis !!

22  WATS UNDER UR BED

All of my FORBIDDEN treasures… ha ha !

23 WAT WOULD U LIKE TO B BORN AS

Hey Boss…!!! I ain’t dead yet..

24 MORNIN PERSON OR NIGHT OWL

Composing Music is completely a NIGHT thing….Editing Videos is like a DAY thing…Hospital work is like a Round-the-clock life cycle….

25 FAV PLACE TO RELAX

On my Terrace watching the sunset and the River Flowing past….

26 OVER EASY OR SUNNY SIDE UP

Mesmerized

27 FAV ICECREAM FLAVOUR

I always liked Chocolate ice-cream with fruit and nuts…

28 WHOM WUD UR DRM DATE B

Konkona Sen Gupta … and Vidya Balan ..

29   R U A VEGGIE

I am a big-time NON-veggie

30 DO U SLEEP IN THE BUFF

Nope..

31 HW MUCH TIME DID U SPEND ANSWERIN THESE

As much time as you are taking to read this….

32 DID U HAVE FUN DOIN THIS

Yippee!!!

33 DO U THNK THIS IS THE LAST QUESTION

Nope … Lots more to come …. Will keep you updated

I pass the Baton onto Bubul, Renu ayyar and sareena Nafeesath…….

It is my personal opinion that the Bajrang Dal is somehow a very inflammatory organisation making unnecessary statements which instigate innocent hindus in antagonist feeling to fellow indians…

In general ,MOST Hindus in India are a Sensible lot… They mind their own business , they take good care of their families and inculcate traditional values to their children…..The majority of hindus  are honest, selfmade and homebred gems of PEACEand HARMONY… 

The Constant communal color that politics and politicians add to the simple sentiments of hinduism and trivial matters are flared up out of proportion ( and intrestingly  most of these things happen around the time of the elections..and most involved are either unemployed , uneducated , frustrated with the system.. and politicians wrongly instigate their pain … this is how all the bomb blasts , all the heavy drama happens….).. 

This is a sad state of affairs in our SECULAR country  …, Such Organisations like the VHP  and bajrang dal , etc , needlessly stress on violence on the minorities and the helpless people .. citing very petty reasons like conversion to other religions …HOW PATHETIC !…The situation of our Muslim and christian brethern are particularly SAD when they are attacked unnecessarily without any sense of reasoning.

Take off Your Robe Of Hypocricy … O you INDIAN !!!

“HE THAT KILLETH WITH THE SWORD SHALL DIE WITH THE SWORD.”

Hi everyone !!!

I am SIDDU

I am A LONER…I LOVE LIFE.

Sometimes it feels so good to FEEL that we have some space for ourselves.

Loneliness is probably Not the greatest Feeling in the world .

But..Heck ! I still Love my LONELY life.

cdoo.