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The woman in your life

   

                

         Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are,
              Who is earning almost as much as you do.


One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are.

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven’t, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements.

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life.


One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name.


One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen.

One
, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; -to be a servant, a cook, a mother,
a wife, even if she doesn’t want to; and is learning just

                             like you are as


to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won’t like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you.

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities.

Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won’t, simply because you won’t like it, even though you say otherwise.

 

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like  yours, are to be met.


One
, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some  and trust her.


One,
who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house ' your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most  importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.


               But not many guys understand this……


                       
Please appreciate “HER”


                       I hope you will do….

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  1. Nirmal says

    i have read this many a times in different mails and post but still i like reading this again and again. This drives home the point very well..

  2. pankaj ramgaonkar says

    I 100% agree.i always think that why we(boys)are fall in love only with any girls.fantastic…. thanks

  3. Nishant says

    This is an awesome post. I do appreciate “Her”.

  4. parrtha majummdar says

    Thankyou boss, for a beautiful, touching post. Though I love my wife from thr bottm of my heart, i give her all possible Freedom, but my heart says today there should be something different, after reading your Blog. Thnx again. Bye for now.

  5. ritu saini says

    amaaaaaazzzzzzinggggggg….don”t have words left….. :-)

  6. TheMind Speaks says

    I can read ur prose again n again. Its so well written. U just stole my heart. Its a question each SHE has in her mind, when stepping the threshold of the new life called marriage.
    Cheers to u :)

  7. cb samanta says

    very good post. All true male should follow these things.

  8. Goppal Kalra says

    very touching post, but subjective !

  9. Goppal Kalra says

    very touching post , but subjective !

  10. Vadivel Murugan says

    Really Good Post…..u have echoed the true feelings of a woman.
    Kudos to you

  11. shree n says

    superb!!

  12. Rahul Agarwal says

    Yes..i do understand this and will appreciate “HER”.

    I guess things are changing now and men are getting more caring.

    Also, these days we can see women dont take anything lightly, She is ready to fight for her needs.

  13. deep diver says

    think it from your heart, … it looks good

    ask a man who has faced harassment charges and got a divorce, as the wife never loved his groom…..

  14. Virag says

    Very Very Nice , probably reading 2nd time :-)

  15. vishakha says

    really your writing skill and the way you projected it amazing

  16. nirmal says

    i have heard people say this a lot of times. But this is the first time i am reading this. I actually like the way you presented HER…. It makes me go out to her(though there is no one called HER in my life as of now). Nice way of putting things.. I would say every hubby in this world should read this words alteast once in his lifetime… and i am sure he would change for the better..

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  18. Mukesh Kumar says

    hi

  19. parmaar says

    not an appreciation, salute to the cofidence and vitality

  20. ashok pal says

    nice painting and perfect massage about women

  21. Binay Kumar says

    The message & painting both are so beautiful……………………..
    Really a Girl’’s life is full of so much expectations that…………………..what can i tell about it.
    Thanks once again for such a nice and wonderful message.

  22. MISHMEE says

    TODAYS” PERFECT WOMEN

  23. raja says

    nice warm message,the whole feel was just beautiful,a salute to your sense of love

  24. Rishabh Kohli says

    lovely message for all guys…

  25. Deepak Paneru says

    nice painting… and good synergy with the words..

    so cute yaaar aaaaaap rannnnnnnnnng kaise sochte ho

    hai na……………………….

  26. Puneet Agrawal says

    nice painting… and good synergy with the words..

  27. nag arjun says

    rellay fantastic

  28. nagarjun says

    ya this is wonderful

  29. Metrosekxual says

    relax guys !! specially “the princess” i read this post long back in collage days back in 2001-02….my ex-gf had fwd this to me lol so…now you know why shez my ex now lil …..itz nothing original just CTRL+C and CTRL+V work…

    Didnt mean to often ne one anyways….

  30. J R says

    thanks.

  31. sunil jogdeo says

    Hello, the painting is so beautiful. Contents too are appealing and depicts the complete picture of the current pressure situation, changing role of females and expectations from the male dominated society. Great sharing.

  32. Sam says

    Vey lucidly expressed.But what makes the life beautiful is love and understanding each other.Good luck.

  33. Rainbow Walker says

    Mona, yeh sab kahana sey teepa. Forwarded email thaa kya :) . Anyways, good post , aaeena dikhata hai apun (indian) menfolks ko. I liked the picture also,very much. My compliments.

  34. The Princess says

    Hats off to you, Lady!! That’’s what I call a REAL WRITE-UP!!

  35. kishore Navale says

    HI MANISHA ; KEEP WRITING WELL SAID

  36. dhrubo says

    Hi Manisha, well said.

  37. deepak panda says

    Good, i do agree wid you except a couple of things…finally i appreciate you….
    thanks
    bye

  38. MISHA says

    beautifully expressed and very true ….

  39. tanvi says

    beautiful and very true as far as women are concrned

  40. Madhavan PK says

    Excellently well-written. She… the girl in your post deserves all the support, love and affection sans the petty jealousy, irrational outbursts and what not. Cheers!

  41. ekantapadhika says

    Very nicely expressed. The woman in this post is an urbanite. In vast sections of rural societies, the girls do not even have the right to even have a glimpse of the person she is going to spend the rest of her life with. She leaves behind everything familiar and almost all her aspirations , just so that the parental duties are fulfilled. If she is lucky , or more importantly, if she can “adapt”, then happiness may come her way. Otherwise, it is one long journey , during which the original person that she was is completely lost. People do say , it is up to the women to break the tradional ways. But sometimes it is next to impossible in highly patriachal societies, where the girls are not groomed in a way that would facilitate their independence and where all kinds of emotional and socital pressures come to bearand because they cant make those choices, their fate is sealed, which is why sensitivity and a change of attitude from the men’’s side could help.

  42. swati phatak says

    Very true….man conviniently accepts the changes in the society which go in his favour….like women earning….increasing the status of the family….in totality….women mobile…..taking off his burden of taking other family members out…..but can not accept any change in her avtar on domestic front….well, changes start from the smallest unit of the society….and I believe it is in our hand…..let us stop proving ourselves as super women….by handling both work and home front successfully…..instead divide the work and encourage family members to share the responsibilities….it is everybody’’s home after all!….let them know if u r tired and do hit the bed if u need the rest….train ur children to help u as per their age….teach ur son also to wind up the table…and make tea…even if u r a home maker….u define ur status in the family and respect ur needs…so will do others….transition is constant in a society and with our efforts, we will move to betterment of it.

  43. Name says

    Good enough, that is the expression coming out from ur heart. Hundreds gals love ur words. You can still think that one. You r still young, I wish you to have it. Beware at the end of the day you can not escape from the reality. Because you are still the one (Indian woman). Male world is so evil they know what you want but they will act as if they do not understand your heart. Your dream will come true for others in the 22nd century not in your lifetime dear. One option if you really want, then you can take risk and may be too late to come back. Think twice b 4 u take …….

  44. mgr says

    Women Want vs Male World!
    Good enough, that is the expression coming out from ur heart. Hundreds gals love ur words. You can still think that one. You r still young, I wish you to have it. Beware at the end of the day you can not escape from the reality. Because you are still the one (Indian woman). Male world is so evil they know what you want but they will act as if they do not understand your heart. Your dream will come true for others in the 22nd century not in your lifetime dear. One option if you really want, then you can take risk and may be too late to come back. Think twice b 4 u take …….

  45. riya says

    very well expressed. I read it thrice… felt like someone read my mind… keep it up! keep writing something like this…

  46. Apratim Shaw says

    This is an awesome portrayal of the predicament that today’’s women face. Simply perfect - as only a woman can be…

  47. YATENDRA KUMAR says

    Well I am still the old fashioned….for me…
    Naaree tum kebal sraddhaa ho vishwaas rajat nag pag tal mein..
    Peeyuush srot see bahaa karo jeevan ke sundar samatala meinn…..

  48. shweta says

    Actually I dnt hv the words for appreciation…simply superb….thnx for presenting a woman in this respective way…..God bless u…tkcr…

  49. medha N says

    Hello!!!
    What a post…and what a potrait to add to your writing. As truely said ” a picture is worth 1000 words”. As soon as I saw it I felt I must read the pink beauty’’s tale. Great.

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