Yeh to mera beta he hai
Posted in Yeh to mera beta he hai on 11/04/2009 12:29 pm by A J
This thought has often crossed my mind, but a good debate with my loved one yesterday triggered this post.
I remember seeing this one episode of Farah Khan's show "Tere mere beech mein" where the guests were Bipasha Basu and Shilpa Shetty. After a wonderful conversation, the topic swayed to how the girls were supporting their family. Each lady's parents were gleaming with joy, proudly announcing how their babes were like the "boys of the family". "Yeh toh mere beti nahee, beta hai, they cooed, much to the joy of the girls. They were so proud to receive that compliment, and I was perplexed.
Perplexed because I wondered, if a guy's parents had ever said, "yeh toh mere ghar ke beti jaise hai", would I have accepted it as a compliment? May be no! Never!
For a man to be "like a girl" is like one of the biggest insults. So why this fascination among women to be "like men" or even "better than them?" Are women not wonderful blessed beings as themselves that they need to tread their existence in the pursuit of being a better being? Why can't the ladies accept the fact that as humans, they are powerhouses in themselves? Men are men, and women, women. They can never be equal. They were never meant to be ya, else why would Lord create the distinction?
In the mad rush to prove themselves, I have seen many women lose out on the true charm they were born with. They have turned so manly in their approach. Sigh, I wish women recognised their own selves better (and of course, sooner please).
well said. really liked the way you have written it…
nice post if i think like a men …:-)we live in a society wc is ruled by men ….thatsy few confusion or challenges have created in mind of females humarey liye toh idhar kuaa udhar khai ki condition kuch bhi karey …umales will blame us ..neways
Wow.!! I”m so glad that Kochumon turns out to be quite a sensible kid. They have this concept of ardhnareeshwar in the hindu religion, isn”t it? I”m sure the masculine and feminine were meant to complement each other and not to overpower the other in any way.
Ya you are very right. But I am positive that this is a changing and phase and soon we will get to when women will recognise their true worth.
actually jaise humaare samaaj chaar bhago mein vibhajit kar ek vaicharik sidhaant diya gaya tha…aur use baad mein ek vikrati ka roop de diya gaya jis se aaj samaj khud ko nikaalne ki koshish kar raha hai….usi taraha se ghar grihasti ki sugamta ke liye is ko bhi do bhaagon mein banta gaya tha….ek tha earning ka aur doosra tha aajeevika kamaane ka…ismein koi bada ya chhota nahi tha…..magar jaisa ki humesha hota hai ….her sahi vyavastha kuchh vakt ke baad ek kureeti mein badal jaati hai…wahi yahaan bhi hua …….rahi baat aadami aur aurat ke beech discrimination ki to ye dono hi alag nahi hein…..dono ek hi sikke ke do pehlu hein…..ek hi shakti ko baant kar do hisse kiye gaye hein……ye sirf manav samaaj mein hi nahi hein…ye shakti vibhajan sampoorn prakriti mein vidyamaan hai…manav samaaj mein ye vikrati is liye ho jata hai ki maanav ka ahankaar beech mein aa jata hai…fir chahe wo paurushik ho ya stri janit…!
i completetly agree with you…first of all let me congratulate you for thinking this important point and penning down here..i too hav heard this particular phrase so many times,,but i didn”t think its actual meaning…this is very rightly mentioned that men are men and women are women …if any one of them try to be look like other ..we see the result………………….which again a very hot topic of discussion…….its always beter if we respect each other with the distiction that has between them……
Ahhh yes ..Shivaja hit on the exact point! They are to compliment each other. Equal “no” simply because men and women are not the same. BUt to be treated in a equally respectful way as another human? I think YES..
To have equal advantages in all things including the freedom to express themselves with thier individual sensitivity?…I think also YES..For their wants and needs to be addressed in an equal way i also think YES.
Thanks AJ for posing the question, Very worth while to discuss…
Be well my friend,
Carl
What u say is true. There is no need for that compliment. A word she can manage her jobs well is enough I guess. With the world changing we women handle a lot of outside work than our mothers or grandmothers did and I know it takes a load off the male members of the family. Similarly a male helping in household chores also is a boon to the female. With chnaging times teher has to be a chnage but like u say there is no need to compliment “beta jaisa hai”. Personally I fel God created with distinction and duties too and one is not sup[erior to the other, but both complement each other.
point taken….
a boy is a boy, a girl is a girl, and both are perfect in themselves. I don”t feel the necessity of portraying a girl as “the boy in the family”. It is our freaking society that has created such crap distinctions. Comments such as “Yeh toh mere beti nahee, beta hai” should be abolished in a “human society”. Such comments, although seem to be compliments, if you think deep, actually engrave detrimental concepts of gender differentiation. This is harmful, and anyone making such comments should be made aware of the fact that he/she is essentially NOT doing anything good– either to the person for whom the “supposed compliment” is dedicated, or to the society at large.
despite of all the distinctions, i think they both r equal…..
even your weighing balance says so! but there are many who still thinks boys are superior then girls! may god give them sum brain! thought-provoking post… gud 1!!!
Human nature… wants to have everything that is missing… I guess that includes other gender also
there will be atime when the girll child gets her due. Actually in my house the girl child rules .. meri beti hai! and I am proud of her