I favour the occasions like father’s day or mother’s day; although it hardly makes any difference .Yet it is celebrated to make them feel that they are special and also the most wonderful people on this earth. But celebrating women’s day never made me feel special. Instead I get the feeling that I belong to a vulnerable section of society. If the reason for celebrating women’s day is to project us as an important pillar of this society then why do we not have a men’s day? Are they not equally important or have they come from some superior strata, which is far beyond any celebrations?
A person known to me suggested that I should not get back to India and look out for a job there because in comparison to men there are less chances for women to rise professionally and the safety of the work place for a woman is a matter of big concern!! I also recall one of my neighbors who wanted their daughter to get her higher education from a renowned institute not because she could then plot a good career in future but she could mark it as an accolade in her marriage biodata, which would help to fetch her a good husband!!!
The above instances clearly depict that social or monetary status has nothing to do with the mindset, which is already biased. When the evil practices of girl foeticide (many ilanders have raised this issue) and burning women for dowry is still prevailant how can we merry make and have a women’s day? It is unjust towards females from both the genders. I strongly feel that neither is she vulnerable nor does she requires any special occasion to mark her presence. The need of the hour is to adopt an apt behavior and perceive both genders as equal and important for and in the society.
u know pooja i never believe in these western concepts. these days specially valentine’’s day hold no meaning for me. y do v tread on those paths? dont we love them everyday or tht day is marked to be expressive to parents, lovers, frnds??? its non sensical concepts. although to each its own but wat u said abt working in India and other things are truly the facts hovering in indian minds. Need to change all that. following and aping west have seriously numbed our brains. they have blocked our ability to think. just do wat they do and u r considered trendy and fashionable. girls hav abandoned salwar kurta for the fear of being type casted as aunties. cant even mention sarees. i know so many of my frnds who hav thrown away new unsed salwar kameez’’s just bcoz they hav been accustomed to wearing pants and jeans. its not our culture and even parents make no effort telling their daughters too. Dont know wer r v heading but i dont care till i m not on the wrong path.
very well said pooja..very true.. we don”t need any celebrations and why do we if there is still a biased society we have?? mine blood boils too but unfortunately can”t do anything which can make any difference in this field.. international women’’s day is a pompous occasion itself..as in our society girls are called as “devi”..”laxmi” etc.. but only to make them feel special..and the other side is that girls are still burnt only for few pennies and sometimes only for raising her voice against men or society.. it’’s ridiculous to celebrate any occasion like this women’’s day.. thanks for the pooja..
none of those days are mandatory….like father’’s day, mother’’s day etc….did you paint that pic? i like it….thanks
Yes Pooja u r absolutely rite..In todays world whn women are rubbing shoulders in evry field…y not celebrate Mans day…BUT MY SUGGESTION WUD BE TO CELEBRATE…. HUMANITY DAY…!!!!!!!!!
see pooja…the importance of this day lies in the fact that before women were nt treated as equally and as levelly as the men folk….i dnt knw the history of this day but yea..can say celebrates women-hood to the core…its a day when women cum together and celebrate the advances made by our society towards the cause of women…and also raises up issues that still need to be heeded to…like foeticide , education and general understanding….its a good day to knw what is happening…dnt worry about the men’’s day..we”ll soon have it…
1 & 2 its not question but whenever prerequisite has come then its getting value. Like that men & women deeds.
As your point of view is correct…
Pooja… Good thought.. i believe that, there is no special superiority in to either men or women. yet not comparable on similar grounds…both of them are equally adding value to the world in their own ways…in such a scenario(to celebrate women’s day ; is not all that necessary).. how ever i also do think that (typical men’s perspective ;)), by celebrating a women’s day.. there is an element of cherishing of being a woman(romanticizing motherhood, wife )…but in our fast life’s, we forget to notice that…
From you writing, I could sense(may b I m wrong), that there is feeling of defensive feminist idea of explicit emancipation. Its true that , in our societies women are in the back seat…but things change as more n more women get educated and get more independent.. .there is also, fact that, women tend to be more of destiny accepters, rather than live the life as they want(are more compromising), which makes it still harder…I believe that, being a fighter does not depend on sex.
I don”t think that socio-economic condition have nothing to do with the plight of women. Infact in a patriarchial society the men own the land and capital . So they dominate the women. Each and every form of exploitation and oppression ultimately boils down to economic equations
very well said pooja….keep up the good work of making people think abt issues which are taken for granted…we all know its there but have we actually contributed to any changes for the good…atleast when people read abt it a thought does pass in the placid mind and u can never say when it ignites for the better….gr888 work!!!!!
mature n practical statement..nice pic too!
we belong to a country where women supposeto be worship.its an irony that the truth is rather opposite to it.we dosent want to be mark as as superior as divine like Godesses but simply want to be acknowdge as a human beings with dignity respect and to hav our own identity as an individual.
very rightly said pooja. basically mindset has to change first. literacy alone will not help that. basic principles of fairness and justice have to be inculcated into minds of both boys and girls at a young age… only then can we see some percptible change after might be a few decades.. but then i think women being oppressed is not just in India pooja.. it is there all over the world… even in advanced and developed countries like Japan, US, Germany, UK etc. i have read that for sure. so its not just in india that the problem resides. women will also have to play a greater role in effecting change.. primarily in the role of mothers… and then as teachers too..
I really wonder whether a special day marked out for a particular group of people leads to any big changes. The question is how do we incorporate this awareness into our daily lives.
The hopeless optimist that I am, I feel time is a great healer. This phase (foeticide etc) too shall pass. Having said that, the idea of a moman’’s day sounds intereting, albeit debatable. Lets not forget that India lives in layers, a part of it lives in the 15th Century and another part lives in the 21st. The thing that someone suggested to you about women in India get less chances of rising professinally is absolute crap. I have had several female bosses and quite a few of them were excellent in their work. MInd sets in India take time to change, but when they change, they change for good.
well said! this is something that is JUST THERE! Not many people raise such an issue, in fact not many even think so deeply as to the very premise of having a women’’s day. Most would just bask in the glory of having a special day dedicated to them, not stopping to think - WHY?
Good Job.