What is infidelity?
Is it only related to a physical act?
Is emotional infidelity justified?
When does 'we're just friends' cross the line?
Is emotional investment in a bond outside your own the first step to a catastrophe?
Will you back off, if someone lights-up-your-life/day a bit too much?
Is there a sense of vacuum when 'one' colleague doesn't turn up at work?
Are you checking your mailbox too often? Waiting for an sms? A poke? A scrap?
Are you opening up to a friend / colleague emotionally?
Are you confiding a bit too much & expecting empathy / sympathy in return?
Do you have an 'Office Spouse' who knows your daily travails & you know his/hers?
Do you find yourself wanting to 'edit or omit' a story when asked 'How was you day'?
Do you quickly delete every message in your Outbox / Inbox?
Is secrecy a key feature to infidelity?
Do you keep your phone bills lying around or do you tear them up as soon as you receive them?
Do affairs really begin with kisses? Or over a cup of coffee?
Are you talking to yourself, convincing yourself that it is all innocent?
Do people just end up cheating one day or is it a temptation that has been nurtured, just waiting for an opportunity?
Is a virtual fling infidelity? (That alone is the biggest debate of this millennium)
Is an online affair pardoned 'cause "Hey! I'm not touching anybody!"
Is your partner 'overreacting'?
hello…dont bother yr head too much…lest it shud dearrange….
aur vaisi bhi zyada sochegi toh jee nahi payegi….kum socho aur kush raho..life is too short to get stuck up in small calculations!!
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Do see it …..and no post since long???
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nice observation..very true and apt/
Things happen. I would say not to worry too much, and I somehow feel it is quite possible for someone to love more than one person. Generally speaking, such affairs don”t last very long. (Amitabh/Rekha, Rabindranath Tagore/Victoria, Satyajit Ray/Madhabhi Chakraborty etc… highly intelligent and sensitive people have had their share of flings too). Sometimes they can be good as long as they last. If, and only if, carried out with poise and élan (wishful thinking)! I guess sometimes it does become difficult in the guilt-management department. Chori me bhi hai maza!
oops! Sorry dee. my pearls of wisdom got Arrayed. and doubly sorry it seems to have erased other comments too. iland sucks. big time.
Things happen. I would say not to worry too much… and I somehow feel it is quite possible for someone to love more than one person. Generally speaking, such affairs don”t last very long. (Amitabh/Rekha, Rabindranath Tagore/Victoria, Satyajit Ray/Madhabhi Chakraborty etc… highly intelligent and sensitive people have had their share of flings too). Sometimes they can be good as long as they last. If, and only if, carried out with poise and élan (wishful thinking)! I guess sometimes it does become difficult to in the guilt-management department. Chori me bhi hai maza!
Verry interrr-resting, Dee! Sup? Something cooking that the ever-so-trusting hubby doesn”t know about? Hunh? hunh? ;D
ha ha ha- if i answer to all these questions honestly- i would end up looking as if i have multiple relations. ha ha ha. Indeed we all do have different levels in our relationships which may or may not amount to infidelity as per the questionnaire here in And hey, people dont always head for a disaster.Finally - whom do u need to justify to? I suppose it is all in ur own conscience . IT all depends on the maturity of the people to handle themselves. many of ur questions wont have standard answers as we all do behave a bit different from each other . Dont tell me that a flicker in the mind amounts to infidelity. Anyway, your questions are pointers to people who are confused with themselves.
A very thought provoking post. The questions are indeed very pertinent. One often wonders where the thin line between fidelity and infidelity lies. Recently a friend and i were discussing something similar and we wondered whether why one strayed in a perfectly happy relationship too? Is it bec yeh dil maange more and karo jyaada ka iraada funda? Or is it bec our values are becoming weak? Is it that we are have learnt to love ourselves more and are out to get that which we dont get in our current relationship?
Another question: what is an affair exactly? More precisely, what is an extramarital affair? Is sharing confidences, is having an emotional dependence on another person considered an affair? Or is one said to have an extra marital affair only when one is involved in a physical relationship with another outside marriage?
that was a vary thought provoking piece. it needs an answer from a sociologist and a psychologist.
the line between friendship and infidelity is very thin indeed. it is unavoidable in the present society
pretty tacky questions. because we always have confidants other than our spouses. it’’s a question we need to ask ourselves quite often, before we tread the forbidden lines, coz it dosnt take long and we dont evn get to realize…