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WHY??? (4)

When the guy had come to see her with one of his friend and mother (said so) her mother had called three of their close relatives and two neighbors.

Almost every one agreed for the marriage except one or two of her cousins. They were trying to justify that she is not the right person as she is much younger to the guy and moreover his "No Demands" strategy was not that appealing as he had not brought more of his family members and they don't have much clues why the earlier divorce had happened.  But all these reasons could not convince her mother and other relatives as they thought that he had brought a fortune for her.(The guy had promised to give her a mobile phone and would even buy her some jewels at the time of engagement. If this is the case for engagement what would it be for and after marriage?? ) An astrologer had assured her mother she would be a princess after this marriage. No one could stop her fateL. They fixed the date for marriage.

Till one week before marriage, everything seems to be the same. Usual chores, he calls her only once in a week or so (he was too busy to talk) just to know about her family welfare and the arrangements for marriage. Only one more week left for marriage and it was then her life took a wide swirl.

No one could believe the changes in her life Everyone complimented the astrologer for predicting her future so flawlessly. She was gifted with nearly 1 kg of gold to be worn for wedding. Saris for her all above 15K, clothes for all family members everything worth more than Rs5000. A car arranged for her shopping needs (extra money given for that), beauticians coming to her place with all the accessories to make her a real stunning bride, 4 leading beauticians were with her at the wedding eve .(Thank God she couldn't acknowledge all the visitors during the eve, because of the bustle of the beauticians- for who knows what would others read from her face??? Astonish than Pleasure?? Dread than relief?? Hope than Confidence???).

 

Not to talk about the auditorium in which wedding was to be accomplished. It was a Senior Police Officer who was the organizer for the whole function. Be it invitation, decoration, photography, food, everything and anything. Almost all senior officials from all sectors were invited for the wedding. A cinema actor was requested to anchor the wedding. There were plenty of Photographers, camera men - experts from cine field. The famous art director had made the wedding in a Royal way with a Chariot (used in some cinema) drawn by seven horses. There were Warriors accompanying the chariot with sword and all costumes were arranged by a famous fashion designer. The roads and the auditorium were decorated by imported flowers and bouquet and obviously there was traffic rearrangement during the wedding as many senior and famous Personalities were expected for the wedding. Everyone declared it as the "Wedding of the Century"

 

Will continue…..

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WHY??? (3)

I was sitting with her and was hearing what she said. She was so blank that she was not able to say things in an organized way. At times it seems she was in her world thinking about something instead of talking. She was ravage but still was calm. She stared, she mumbled, she smiled, she cried, she did everything to let her emotions out.

Friends who are reading this, read my earlier post ' My world- to know about what life she had earlier. She was also nurtured almost in the same manner as we had. When she had finished her high school, her father passed away. This had made the circumstances much more taut. Some how she completed her graduation and had acquired a job in a show room as sales girl. It was her colleague who had taught about basics of computer. She created mail id for her and registered in a matrimony site.

One day, there was a mail in her Inbox asking for the contact address and phone no: It was from a guy seeking an alliance with her. They wanted to have a discussion with her mom and after collecting more details, they had come to meet her Mom. He was running a real estate business in a nearby district and seems to be financially sound. They made out he is financially sound as the guy came by car which is owned by him (no other show offs). He had said he had a broken marriage which is divorced now. Since this is the second marriage he didn't want to have anybody from his hometown and he preferred a god fearing homely girl. And that's the reason why she had to go all through this!! .                               

 

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Soliloquy- Tribute to a Friendship???!!!

NO I don't want anyone who don't understand me .Who don't understand my feelings .who don't care for me who don't pick my call or even sms me ..After calling you for 4th time and sms-ing u for 5th time u msg me saying that u were at a party I give a sigh of relief thinking u might'v had a cocktail party after which u normally don't speak to me But then u call up to say it was not that sort of party, it was with your cousin and family just a casual get together .U said u didn't want to speak to me in front of them hence delayed Y u didn't understand me??? Y u didn't feel my tension (U said u have immense pressure 4m your work side as if its a Month end to meet ur targets .)That was as a slap on my face A slap for my foolishness A slap for my thinking that u were my best friend What do u mean by friendship then??? U need to check time , date and horoscope to speak to me ???? U need to make sure that nobody is near u to speak to me???Why????

Did u ever think what I wouldv felt when u told me this???

2 days b4 u were bit angry to me as we couldn't complete our talks as my parents came after purchase. It was u who had taught me not to speak on phone with anyone  when my family members r there with me U said they shouldn't feel disturbed of our talks as I don't spend more time with my family- (Im working) But I had never ignored u. Be it good or bad Be it  a smile or a tear .Busy or idle Be in a hospital or enjoying a vacation. I had always managed to speak to you .To share with you .I don't have waited for time or date or numerology or sun sign to speak to you.

This is not for the 1st time that u r hurting me U had hurt me earlier also Hurt to the core that it started affecting my personal and professional life. No one .no one till this time had hurt me like what u had .Even then ..at an instant of ur call I wud 4get everything .i would hav got a volcano ready to burst .burning my heart .but I could not let anything to u earlier I was flooded with tears but when I felt it upsets u more Iv managed to stop that atleast infront of u When I care u more, u say u don't like that even if its from ur sister or father When I care u less, u say I'm not interested in our friendship So if I felt discussion between us could sort this problem ..u say I m highly sentimental and u r not at all interested in that and u abruptly cut the call. Obviously u wont meet me as others would see us. U always wanted to maintain a secrecy about our relationship Why???…..Tried to find an answer but failed .U r smart enough to keep it unrevealed . Whatever be I'm really exhausted .I had always thought I am smart enough to understand others feelings and always had relationship only with whom I can gel with. I was so proud that I didn't had bad times in any of my relationship ..But !!???….Now I know I am wrong U had shattered my whole belief with which I had build my individuality .I don't like disturbing others .whoever it be But till 2day I was not sure what u had felt each time when I call u or see u (Of course  not always) .I don't know how much u can understand my feelings .but its true its really hurting me when one of your most valued belief shatter in front of u .so simple as a sand house which gets washed away by the tides .intolerable da .excruciating . 

 

But above all Why did I again come to you after all these ??? You had some qualities which I like the most I had always felt –to like somebody is to like them as such including their goods and bads And till now I have tried to maintain that in our friendship too But I cant stand this any more Thanks for everything you have done for me for enjoying all my boring talks and thoughts .for coming with me to my friend's house at that late night .for consoling me in my days at hospital when I was a bystander for my sis-in-law and many many fond memories which u had left for me Thnxxxxxx a loooottttt da M—-iiiiiiiii ..

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WHY??? - 2

Yes!!!! After a long thought process and ambiguity, I was with her . I made it !!! I had come with my neighbor who is her relative. We are known to each other through this aunt and had seen only once or twice (also one of my friend was the classmate of hers). But then I had not felt anything bizarre about her. (And that's what I wondered at that time)

This news had hit me like a thunderbolt before 2 days in an evening when I reached back home after a hectic day at my office. Surprisingly everyone was eagerly watching News eluding the favorite musical show. As soon as my MOM saw me, she just pointed at the screen and LO!!! I saw him on the screen with a gaily smile. Then there was a lady and a Police officer who were describing the facts. What did I hear?!!???  My thoughts were whirling. I just couldn't decipher the rest what the beautiful news reader was reading. Almost all TV channels covered the matter with sheer seriousness and it was such a sensitive and appealing fact to the public. This became the "must-know" hot event of the day and almost all journals of the next day published the matter in first page itself. Sure, they would have done their maximum to increase the circulation, as the reporters have done more than investigation to collect the facts and his whereabouts. For the past 2 days the Media and the public were enjoying the news as a banquet. This became the talk of the town and was the discussion anywhere and everywhere. But how many people would have thought about his wife???? His family???  One of the channels interviewed his wife yesterday and that's for which my sleep gone astray.

 

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WHY????

I couldn't take my eyes off from her. I could see the sparkle in her eyes the same sparkle when I saw her in the interview at a TV channel yesterday the sparkle so bright to hit me in to my heart .WHY THE HELL DID SHE SAY LIKE THAT???? FOR WHOM???

I just couldn't sleep yesterday. Something inside me was haunting me ..Why??? Everyone was shocked ..So many questions and guesses No one was sure about anything . Every thing was all so sudden that it seems to be like a DREAM .A dream one would not dare to .The best part as well as the worst .I wanted to know .I just wanted to know . for I felt there was something in her eyes the eyes which shine from the heart she had that shining even now .even after everything , which others would say as a "night mare" only thing it sustained more and long .more enough to hurt to the core .long enough so that every one  seems to enjoy the anguish in her heart long enough for every others to add fuel into her already burning heart .

Something I saw in her which no one else had .I decided to meet her. That's how I'm sitting with her now Just to hear Just to share I know it would mean a lot to her .For I'm not her relative- who would'v expected many things from her For I'm not any one from a TV channel who would pester her with unwanted and 'sure to Hurt' questions for the sake of all NEWs and no OLDs.

 

I hope I would continue this ..

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Waiting for YOU

Let me have someone who will be there with me,

With me, through me,

Who holds me

Who wouldn't let me out to this cruel world

Be it rough or soft

Be it shine or rain

Be it spring or summer

Be it dawn or dusk

In my laughter and my cries

In my pain and my joy

In my hopes and dismay

In my dreams and real life

In my fluctuation of moods

With whom I can discuss

With whom I can share without fear

Whom I can dare to care

For I would be there for you

In all your needs -

Material or Immaterial

And hope its YOU who made me wait this long!!!!!!!!!

 

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My World :)

When I started blog reading and thought of having an iland, I wanted to write something else which really pains me, hurts me,burns inside me - which does not burst out or gets cooled in. Not sure why I wrote those earlier stuffs.

 

I had been a writer (don't mistake me writing in bits of paper- love letters, or something which I called a poem- that too to the lover) whenever I was in love with someone. Now Am I in the same state??  Still confused. But I used to show my creations to my old and best friend. In fact I had written those when I was not in love ' (broke one) and all my feelings came out in paper which I used to share with him only. (But I had wrote for this friend too) Confused????

(Let me not continue on that)

 

Blogs had been so interesting to me as we can come across - different attitudes, different feelings, different social influences, cultures and upbringings, which are reflected in the writings- at the same time. Unity in Diversity!!!!!  Now I feel like writing something cool. Whatever I write may not be interesting for some or may be felt as happened or written in the 19th century (I come from a Southern state and has our own culture and upbringing.)

We were brought up absolutely as Girls (that's what my Mom says) ' so feminine that we have only lot of 'NO's. NO laughing- can only smile or giggle as sound of a girl's laughter should not be heard in the next house.  No outdoor games (not even with girls) as soon as we become 8 or 9 yrs - as it seems people would stare at us looking for something interesting when we run/ swim/ jump.

No pants or jeans and Midi and tops only till 10yrs. No "grumble", No "anger", No "nudge", No "hurt" feeling etc etc etc ..

 

Yes, We should smile at every one, get up as soon as some one enters ur premises (it doesn't matter they don't come near u) even if u r not well or busy doing something, and should also enquire about their "well being" ness. It doesn't matter in what mood u are or who the other person is or how important is them to us. No matter they had hurt u/family before; no matter they had come now just to hurt us.

We should help in the daily chores ' cleaning dishes, washing clothes, sweeping, mopping irrespective of any happenings. Over and above that there is a chorus which we hear from the day we start remembering things- YOU GIRLS ARE MEANT TO GO TO SOME OTHER HOUSE AND LEAD UR LIFE AFTER MAIRRAGE- SHOULD BE AN IDEAL WIFE AND DAUGHTER 'IN ' LAW

So girls are having a training period at their homes. Not only parents train them, even the most 'nuisance' neighbour trains you. They say you should have 'asked this', or should have 'showed that' and that is the way the girls should be.

By the time a girl turns 11/12 yrs, every one looks at her with suspicious eyes- "has she started her menstrual cycles?" LO! That is the end of it!

Your freedom of smiling and talking to boys are restricted once for all. Now we cannot go alone anywhere, (even to the schools). Even your walks and looks should have some manners. On the menstrual days we are not supposed to go to temple or put ‘Prasad’ . We have to sleep alone, that too not in cot or bed, in the floor with a blanket. Should bath first (even to have a tea,) that too before any male members in the family wakes up. There is another extreme where the girl should not come out from the room or mingle with others which we were interested so that we would be spared from the chores, but my Mom said we are not 'that orthodox'.  

           Worst part is, if we get matured before we turn 14, it's like doing a Sin. People feels pity on us, feels sorry about us. In our place we were modern enough not to conduct any functions related to this and that saved my soul. My sis had the bad luck of being 'matured' by age 12 and my genius Mom had an excellent idea of saving her by not revealing the fact to others. (We had an idea of lying the other way but cannot have continuous headaches for every month three days or fever without temp as they would come and touch us to check the temperature).  My sis even now says, that, was the worst time for her. She could not lie down or take rest due to the severe abdominal pain during those days, as my neighbors would crack open our master secret. Once my neighbor aunty offered her Prasad on her period's day and its was my Mom who saved her (by scolding her in front of the aunt for not doing her routine work, aunt had no other option- she mumbled and left)

 

I think I should stop now, to continue later, as all my works are pending.

But don't ever think that we girls were not happy, we were happy with what we had, were happy as the same as a girl who is brought up with all YES.

 

Will catch you soon friends!!!….

 

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BE HAPPY

Have u ever thought which/when are the happiest moments in your life? We always feel others are the luckiest persons and happiest persons. We seldom see our happiness and luck.

 

There are many factors which decide upon this and it can change too!

But I had felt someone who can live to- what they think and what they want to- , they should be the happiest persons. I had always felt they are the luckiest.  

If you are a person who can sleep whenever u feel like, then u should be happy. I had been to a hospital as a bystander to my sis-in-law where I couldn't sleep for many days. It is really unbearable to c other's pain and suffering than our's . She was again admitted in ICU and I had to wait at the lobby eagerly waiting for the name to be called (for discussion with the doctors and buying medicines). There everyone seems to have the same face ,irrespective of how smart they are, how rich they are, has - lifeless eyes- hollow and so deep in pain, sobbing , fully exhausted and would'v even forgotten their name as bystanders are known to others only by the patients' name. But to my dismay I was not called for long time. I was completely tired and exhausted without sleep and irregular food-ings, mental agony and tensions. I was unable to stand or walk as I couldn't balance myself. The ground under me seems to slide. But I couldn't sit also , bcoz on the next moment I would fall into deep sleep. Within a minute I would b awake unable to breathe (as I had awaken from a deep sleep all of a sudden). That was too horrible. Only one bystander was allowed there and had no one to help. Sisters were busy with their routines-  (as always every dept has insufficient staff). And the persons sitting there,  I was sure,  was obviously facing more or the same problems. That day for the first time  I knew how sweet my home was, how sweetest is to be there in my home and my bedroom and the bed and the sleep which I always have.

So friends be HAPPY with what we have : )

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Hi,

Very much new to blogging. Am an average blog reader and nw i thought ill also giv a try.. Hope u all wll support me…..

U knw, me nt that talented writer or nt that able 2 use language in a fascinating way but i feel that is not important in bloging . I feel its all about sharing about my thoughts and feelings.

Im basically a person who understands others feelings(of course that is my biggest problem ). I always step into others shoes and get confused where to stand or rather hw to get out.

Evnthough i say i dnt trust anyone without fully knwing them, im nt sure to what extnd i can keep up wth that. I hav many friends and most of thm had shared with me their problems arising from some sort of relationships (meant not only love affair). I had alwys felt i hd been so undrstndng to them and could help them in some or other way. Obviously i had been so proud of that and alwys thought i am smart enough to handle any relationship. U knw its really an art to build up a true relationship …b it any sort of ….friend…love…wife….mother…daughter…sister….daughter in law…sister in law.

But nw i feel i m wrng some where….

OOps ! remebered smething which i had kpt pnding….Will catch u soon

 

 

 

 

 

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