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What I want in life

"The first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: Decide what you want." ' Ben Stein

 

 

Every day we get to read so many soul stirring thoughts & emotional quotes about life and how to culture "happiness" and feel good while reading them. We feel yes we should and can follow them and improve our lives right away. We seem to understand and realize everything that how different our lives could be once we take care of our own "attitude". We start seeing the transformation in us and the happy moments that follows. But the moment we lose sight of them we get back to our old self with same set of complaints about life followed by resentment. That is probably because "actions" do not follow the "feel good" moments. Things end at "I shall…". It does not begin with "I am doing it right away…" Another reason of this could be we are clueless as to how do we start the process of transforming ourselves. We tend to feel awkward at times to do something new. Then how is the transformation actually going to happen! How shall I ever become "happy"?

 

It was during this confused state of mind that I came across the above quote of Ben Stein and got a clue to the starting point for my journey of transformation. The above quote stirred my thoughts so much that I actually sat down with pen and paper to jot down what I want. And I came out with the following list :-

1. I want to get out of bed before the sun makes way ahead in the morning and take an energizing stroll by the lush green nature listening to the chirping birds, breathing in the fragrant morning flowers and enjoying the cool breeze of fresh air.

Irony: I get out of bed when the sun is already making a 30 degree angle with the horizon :( The nearest access to nature is 3 kilometers away in the form of a non-maintained park with an equally dirty pond that stinks :(

 

2. I want to sip my morning cup of tea with my family, sitting on the balcony overlooking a decent garden that is at least green if not red, yellow, pink and purple.

Irony: My balcony overlooks the bedroom and toilets of a neighboring apartment on the north-west and a mini slum on the north-east :(

 

3. I want to get my child ready for school, pack his tiffin and feed him his breakfast myself.

Irony: I myself need to get ready too at the same time and therefore its the maid who scores over me in attending to my child :(

 

4. I want to have a king-size breakfast. That's the good word from all health specialists and dieticians.

Irony: I end up having a begger-style breakfast :( due to shortage of time and haste.

 

5. I want to enter office every morning with utmost energy and jest. I want to liven up someone else's day with my charisma.

Irony: I somehow drag myself to office day after day :( for I do not enjoy the job I am doing and fret over not being able to grab the job of my choice. Leave alone livening up somebody else's day, I myself struggle hard to smile through the day :(

 

6. I want to have a healthy human work lunch.

Irony: I end up having the fattiest and spiciest menu on earth :( resulting in severe acidity and heart burn an hour or two later.

 

7. I want to become a tea-totaller and cut down the consumption of pastries and patties and eat more fruits and juices.

Irony: I take four cups of tea and another cup of coffee everyday :( and my evening snacks consists of either a pastry or a patty or a samosa or some other deep fries everyday :(

 

8. I want to be back home at a time while my child has the energy to concentrate on his homework so that I may personally supervise him.

Irony: When I return he is as exhausted as I am after the days work :( and the maid is struggling to finish feeding him his dinner in his half-asleep state.

 

9. I want the entire family to gather in the evening for some light chit-chat over a bowl of soup and a little fun before we call it a day.

Irony: By the time my hubby returns from another strenuous day at work, our child is in deep slumber and frown lines get clearly visible on my face :( Exchange of words are minimum and the television does most of the background talking.

 

10. I want to have a light dinner as per the good words of the health specialists once again and to give a time of two hours to the stomach to digest it before I go to sleep.

Irony: The dinner is the heaviest meal of the day :( with rice, dal, two vegetable preparations, one non-veg preparation, papar and sometimes a sweet dish too taken normally after 10 o'clock at night :(

 

11. I want to sleep eight hours at night as advised by doctors, health specialists, beauticians and everybody else. There are people with enough stamina who keep bouncing with just four hours of sleep. I wish to know their secret too. But right now eight hours of sleep is my requirement.

Irony: I go to sleep at not earlier than 12 midnight :( after giving a gap of an hour or so after dinner, and must get up at 6 o'clock in the morning.

 

12. I want to read many books, watch several movies, surf some channels, read the entire newspaper, browse through magazines, write few articles, blog too often and post sensible comments on others blogs quite regularly.

Irony: I am left with just one hour post dinner :( unless I steal another in instalments while at work to do all of these.

 

 

Am I the most unhappy person on earth and going to remain as one then? Tell me its not true ! Well this is only the list of what I want in life and I have to make a decision now and there’s no irony about it…

 

 

 

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Sunrise

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The Fight Against Hypocrisy - Final

Part IV

 

Next morning Mr. Basu arrived at office and after sharing a few customary greetings with others around he proceeded to the meeting room and asked Vijay to join him. They sat across the table facing each other. He started,

"Vijay, even I wanted to say or rather, ask you something for sometime, but I had let it go"

Vijay said to himself, "when did you let it go! It was there in you all the while and quite obvious!"

Mr. Basu continued with his talk, "but since you have raked it up, let me mention it now. And its good that you raked it up."

"Raked up!" Vijay thought with wonder as he listened carefully preparing for the worst situation.

"I am told that you are talking ill of me to people around, that you are spreading defamatory words about me."

Vijay voiced in maintaining his cool as far as possible, "Who is telling that Sir?" Although convinced that none but Arindam could have done this mean act on the day of that unfateful Jamhedpur trip. That was the hypocrite's last weapon ' to create distrust in the boss's mind for a favourite subordinate and there lies the favourite subordinate - almost ruined.

"Somebody. You were telling you have been demotivated. But can you believe how hurt was I when I heard that. Wasn't it me who brought you to this organization?"

"Yes Sir" Vijay continued "But who told you so. How could you believe everything that was told was true? Whom have I told to? And what exactly have I told?"

"I have been told that you have said that I had been an 'useless fellow'."

Keeping in mind that it is none other than Arindam, Vijay boldly continued further, "Surprising. If somebody says so to me, I would first analyse why this person is talking all these all of a sudden today! How come he has become so loyal to me today! Could there be something else behind it!" Vijay noticed that Mr. Basu was somewhat stirred by the last statement that he made. He continued, "Would the person come and say it in front of me? That I had said so. Would you mention the name please, Sir, who said it?" Vijay turned slightly excited as he blurted out so.

Mr. Basu's face had lighted up the way as if he had discovered the clue to some mystery, observed Vijay. Probably his candid outburst had some effect on him. To his benefit. There was a silence of few moments.

It was Mr. Basu's turn then. With a deep breath he said,

"But I was very hurt. If I have some problem with someone, say my superior, I would talk about it to the person ."

"Haven't I done so Sir? I am talking to you directly now when I am having a real problem." snapped Vijay in between. He had kept all his fear aside by now and ready to be perfectly explicit, remaining true to just himself.

Mr. Basu nodded while continuing, "I even went on to ask few people about it. I spoke to Mr. Ghosh."

This was another big surprise to Vijay. Another mystery seemed to be unfolding infront of him as to why Mr. Ghosh, a senior executive in another organisation and his ex-boss and mentor and an acquaintance of Mr. Basu too, had off late been expressing reluctance to talk to him! His eyes brightened up at the revelation. Excitement became uncontrollable. He interrupted again,

"I see Sir. That is the reason Mr. Ghosh doesn't seem to be willing to talk to me these days whenever I give him a courtesy call! What did he say. That I belittled you?"

"No. He said "I cannot believe Vijay can say so""

"Then when and how did I belittle you Sir?"

"You have told to few people."

Vijay found it tough to hold back his anger, for Arindam. He wanted Mr. Basu to understand and realize this man was a hypocrite. For him he has proven to be harmful too.

He continued his questions, "Who are those few people who has heard me saying so?"

"They are from this office."

"Who Sir?"

"There are one or two people" was Mr. Basu's cold reply. Quite consciously he refrained from taking names.

 

One or two people had heard him disparaging Mr. Basu. That is all. Vijay felt like having moved closer to his goal. Of the conversation. By now he had gathered enough courage to speak straight to Mr. Basu as follows, "Just one or two Sir! As I had already told you, didn't you think for once why could that one person have told you so! Could he have had something against me and that is why it was cooked up! Why did not you take it up with me directly Sir?"

A small pause and he continued, "Sir, while I do admit that being petty human beings we do not have total control on our gossiping habit and that, gossips do take place among colleagues. We tend to criticise our own relatives sometime. So I might have criticised you too sometime in any of those gossip sessions though I do not remember anything specifically any more. But I have never belittled you purposefully in front of anyone ever."

There was a marked silence this time. Actually Vijay wanted to say, "Criticising a boss is the most common phenomenon taking place in any set-up. I may criticize my boss, my boss criticizes his boss, he his boss and then he his and so on. This is known to all and expected to be accepted until and unless derogatory."

After a while Vijay, by now calm and poised, once again having felt that he had been able to make his point clear to Mr. Basu, about his accusations on him and about he getting trapped into a net of hypocrisy, enquired one last time, "Cannot you tell me Sir who told so to you?"

Mr. Basu replied with a smile, "Vijay! now you want me to utter it?"

Vijay got his reply.

"Subhas is a good guy right? He does not exhibit such complexities in his conduct." Mr. Basu finally observed referring to another colleague of Vijay who was equally close to Mr. Basu. Vijay replied in affirmative.

 

He could not have got a better end result than this in consequence to all his blurting and snapping and retorting challenging his own boss that lasted for over half an hour. He felt elated at the turn of the events. His principle of staying true to himself made him feel much stronger that day.

 

Vijay's next challenge would be to clarify Mr. Ghosh, one of his most regarded persons. And to let Arindam know next time they meet, that he had been the most harmful hypocrite he had ever met. Should he?

 

 

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A big thanks to all readers for your encouragement and patience. Please forward your views on the incidents and on how the characters handled it.

 

Disclaimer: All the characters are fictional and any resemblance to anybody is purely co-incidental.

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The Fight Against Hypocrisy - Part III

Part III

 

Vijay was well aware that Arindam was almost in the last phase of shifting into a new job while Mr. Basu decided to take him along for the Jamhedpur trip. Therefore he actually did not see a point why he needed to be taken for such important meetings. His little doubt about whether Arindam had played some new trick and that too on Mr. Basu this time was firmly established by Mr. Basu's attitude towards Vijay after his return from the trip where Arindam, for the first ever time got full eighteen hours with Mr. Basu all by himself.

 

Vijay could not figure out though as to what trick did he play this time to cause this sudden and drastic change in Mr. Basu's attitude. Nor did he know of a way to solve the riddle. Days and weeks passed. Mr. Basu's behaviour towards him became colder. Interactions dwindled. And ironically, increased with Arindam. Arindam started airing among colleagues that he has access to many confidential informations even of the company's top management. That some unexpected changes in the organization structure is ensuing. He would get up from his seat and go to the lobby every time he wished to speak to Mr. Basu or Mr. Basu called him up on his hand phone. And then come back and relay to Vijay and others about the high level conversation the two had had. He would also mention in between to Vijay in a matter-of-factly manner that he is unable to share every detail of the conversation as certain matters were strictly confidential.

 

Confidential! Vijay had become totally miserable and completely de-motivated at such exhibitions especially in absence of any communication from his boss. After enough thought, analysis, consultation with friends and soliloquy he made up his mind to confront his boss once again to find out what went wrong. For none was known to him. He planned to present the questions to his boss just after the weekend trip he was taking to a neighboring place outside the city to de-stress himself a bit.

 

That Monday morning Arindam put in his resignation papers! Vijay was once again surprised, though pleasantly. He wondered for moment if all the recent incidents stressing his mind were nothing but a trick of a hypocrite to simply destabilize him! But then why would his boss become cold in his approach towards him?

 

He dropped his plan to question Mr. Basu that day as planned. But the questions kept bouncing in his mind. Post Arindam's departure Vijay's surrounding environment turned peaceful all of a sudden. But the peace within was lost. A big question mark loomed large over his head with respect to his deteriorating relationship with Mr. Basu, of which he couldn't figure out the reason. Neither Mr. Basu provided any explication nor called upon his about anything. Quite contrary to his expectations, subsequent to Arindam's exit he was once again given due importance in an important official conference. Mr. Basu ensured his inputs on several issues and also requested him to make a small speech in front of the growing family of the organization. These gestures reinforced his confidence in himself that the distressing coldness exhibited by Mr. Basu had nothing to do with his work performances. But when an opportunity of a great training programme came knocking at his door, Mr. Basu snapped his aspirations halfway by restricting him from attending it.

 

He made up his mind to put an end to the increasing bafflingness.

 

After a month or so, when people were at the last leg of their assignments for the year, looking back happily and work pressures comparatively low, and a day before Mr. Basu had planned a visit to his city, he called up Mr. Basu and placed his concerns in front of him straightforward.

"Good Morning Sir."

"Good Morning,"

"If you'd spare some time I needed to discuss something."

There was a pause at the other end and then he replied, "Yes? Tell me,"

"Sir, I may be wrong, but I feel off late there is a marked changed in your attitude towards me. I have observed this happen since the day you happened to come back from the Jamhedpur trip. Before leaving for the trip you had confirmed you would take me along for the meeting but after your return you didn't discuss a word about it to me and left for it with Arindam instead, without telling a word to me. Thereafter also I have observed you not having open discussion with me on several occasions even when we met face to face.  May I know the reason, Sir?"

Vijay put forward all his points at one go without allowing the other side to interrupt in between lest he fumbles and forgets later on what he wanted to say. Obviously he was nervous. Not having confronted anyone in this fashion ever in his life. And here he is taking head on with his boss! He knew, this might result in losing him his job. But he wanted to come out of the lingering confusions. It was time to either do or die. He chose to do and then die if at all required. He was ready to face the odds in case he really deserved it.

There was a longer pause at the other side this time.

Vijay repeated, "Hello."

"Yeah see.. I also wanted to speak to you on this, I had been told certain things about you .I mean.. about your trying to defame me! I am coming to your city tomorrow. May be we can discuss then?"

Vijay wasn't too surprised at the revelation made by Mr. Basu. He prepared his mind to face everything coolly as far as possible.

"Ok", Vijay said "I'd look forward to the discussion for this is troubling me for quite some time, I am not able to concentrate on my job. Its been quite demotivating to me."

"I see .so yours is a demotivated soul!" He seemed to have told with sarcasm, "Fine. We shall discuss tomorrow when we meet."

"Fine" he said and terminated the call and eagerly waited for the turn of the day.

 

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To be continued.

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The Fight Against Hypocrisy - Part II

Part II

 

Vijay was chosen to work in this organization by Mr. Basu himself three years back. Over the years he has been able to win the confidence of his seniors out of his good work and responsible persona and shared a good rapport with them. Arindam, an young man in his late twenties, had joined in a year later.

 

Arindam had given an interesting introduction of himself to Neha, another colleague of Vijay on the first day they met one another.

" .I possess a keen observation skill."

"Probably you are not getting me ?" continued Arindam with a mysterious smile on his face, "suppose I notice a girl passing by, I will not just notice the girl pass by. I would also notice what costume is she in, what is her hair style, what type of footwear she is wearing, whether she is wearing nail enamel on her nails, and if at all whether it is still intact or the edges have chipped!"

 

Not quite impressed with such an unique first day introduction by a young man Vijay and Neha simply observed that the young man was clumsily smart.

"Hope we'll get to see some exceptional productivity out of such penetrating observation skills. All the best to you", is all that Vijay could say with some irritation expressed on his face. Arindam did not seem to be expecting such a reaction from another young man of his age who, he didn't know then, would turn out to be his one level senior colleague!

 

Just two days after he had joined the organization, Arindam made the first complaint against Vijay to Mr. Basu stating he is not co-operative enough. The ground was' Vijay took some time to respond to some of his queries owing to some other engagements. The incident did not have any adverse impact on Vijay, for the guy was just two days old in the company and Mr. Basu simply observed the young man to be a little impatient. But within, Vijay felt for the second time that the guy was smart enough to create trouble! He chose to remain silent, as it was a first incidence.

 

Days passed by. Vijay observed that there was a continuous attempt from Arindam to magnify himself and to subdue Vijay in front of other colleagues in the office rather than playing a co-operative team member. He would keep declaring to Vijay about the head-hunters calling him up thus trying to prove to Vijay that there is enough job opportunities available for him in the market. Vijay, being a quiet and reserved person, simply ignored Arindam's such claims intended for show-off.  In their bilateral relation he demonstrated effusive friendship to him. But when it came to taking responsibilities, he was not as prominent. After a year Vijay got promotion. Arindam aired views like he was not given proper attention by management. Neither he congratulated Vijay. However, post this he turned out to be somewhat polite and respectful towards him. Vijay was curiously surprised.

 

It did not take long for his speculation to come across a ground reality. He had left his computer accessible to Arindam one day for him to work on some files while he was away for couple of hours. He hoped the machine would be duly utilised. Alas! When he returned he found not much to his utter surprise that several other items in the machine had been tampered with! He took it up with him straightforward as this was no more a first incidence of creating trouble.

"Could you finish your work, Arindam?"  Vijay enquired.

"Yes. Long time back", Arindam replied with a smile.

"What about the changes in these files?"

"Which changes? Which files?"

"These here!"

"I don't know. I worked only on the required one", he replied with an effusive assertion.

"But somebody has tampered with these. Who else used the machine? A power point presentation has been deleted too!"

"I didn't notice Vijay. I had gone out after finishing my job." Arindam replied showing least concern about the episode.

Helpless, frustrated and red with rage he couldn't control and blurted out, "Too much of smartness is not desirable!"

Arindam remained silent. But Vijay's convictions about this man being a hypocrite and that too a harmful one, got stronger with this incident. He treaded very carefully after that. It wasn't easy to dwell in a state of constant suspicion in absence of trust with a co-worker. He just had the confidence that since he was always true to his job, no hypocrite can ever cause any substantial harm to him.

 

Though both of them were well aware as to who did what, Vijay had no proper evidence. And therefore chose not to complain to his boss and over time forgave Arindam too. Probably that was a wrong decision he took which he realized much later. He continued to remain an efficient contributor and was conferred upon with more responsibilities, while Arindam got few in spite of all the tricks he played to subdue Vijay. Gradually it became obvious that Vijay would become his reporting boss the next year.

 

Arindam started slandering Vijay in the office gossips to which Vijay remained quite oblivious. At the same time he kept looking for other jobs demonstrating resentment which but, to Vijay was quite obvious.

 

 

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To be continued

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The Fight Against Hypocrisy - Part I

Dear Friends,

 

This is my first effort to describe in detail a somewhat offbeat story. I have picked up my plot from 'office', bereft of the ardour of life, where many of us tend to spend about two-third of our waking hours. I am not sure whether I am actually writing a story or a case study. It will consist of four-five chapters. Anyway, please do not forget to leave your critical comments in whichever chapter you wish.

 

 

Part I

 

Vijay won his battle versus hypocrisy. Finally. Thanks to his clairvoyance and convictions. And to the two principles he has decided to stick to in his life come what may. First, being true to himself and second, being explicit in all that matters.

 

He was stunned by the act of Mr. Basu, his boss the day after he returned from the trip to Jamhedpur with Arindam, another colleague of his. Initially, he was supposed to accompany Mr. Basu for the trip. But since Mr. Basu insisted to take Arindam also along, he saw no point why three persons should go and therefore excused himself from going as he had some other demanding work at station too. Vijay happened to be the senior most in his department in the office. Mr. Basu seemed to have taken his point in the right note and agreed. Before leaving he scheduled an important meeting on the day following his return from the trip where Vijay's presence was required. Understandably, Vijay did his homework well for the meeting. He went to office a bit early on the day of the meeting as the meeting was scheduled in the first hour and waited for Mr. Basu to come so they could proceed for the meeting. In the mean time his colleague Arindam, who had accompanied Mr. Basu on the Jamhedpur trip, went out of office with his business folder in hand. Unlike other days he didn't bother to share a word with him before leaving. This sudden change in his attitude surprised Vijay a little bit though he did not ponder much on it as he was anxiously looking forward to the scheduled meeting. 

 

After almost half an hour had elapsed since the scheduled time of meeting, "Boss is getting too late", he said to himself. "Could he forget! Should I call him up? The other party must be waiting; better we inform or reschedule the meeting."

But he did not call him up. A voice from within, he didn't recognize fully, dictated him there was no need to call, instead it indicated him to wait and watch. 

 

He sensed something was wrong somewhere. 

 

After a confusing wait of another hour or so, Mr. Basu appeared in office, declaring the meeting was good as he approached Vijay. Standing behind him was Arindam, not looking straight at him! Vijay felt a sharp contraction of his muscles of facial ex-pression. He couldn't smile at either of them. Nor make any comment. He lay still for a moment and completely at a loss. He could not believe Mr. Basu deceiting him this way. Or could he have simply forgotten he had asked him to be present in the meeting! Could it be possible in moments of stress? But he was senior to Arindam and Arindam had no business attending that meeting. He did not handle those stuffs. Something was terribly wrong.

 

Being explicit in his conversations, as always, Vijay took no time to speak to his boss immediately after he recovered from the initial shock, though greatly perturbed.

"I understood I was to join in the meeting Sir "

Mr. Basu did not seem to be expecting to be confronted in that fashion. Least by Vijay, a subordinate. He seemed to have become uneasy at Vijay's inquiring statement as he glanced at him for a moment and then took away his eyes. Unable to avoid the situation, he said softly without looking towards him,

" Yes you were but probably you had other works as you said the day before while choosing to stay back in station."

"But I am always available when its an important meeting", Vijay clarified. Mr. Basu remained silent as he pressed few keys on his laptop and seemed disinterested to answer Vijay at that moment.

"This can be no reason", he said to himself as he took a deep breadth. He almost came to a conclusion that Mr. Basu had been beguiled by somebody. And that had to happen while he was on the Jamhedpur trip, for he did not observe any abnormality in his attitude towards his until the evening prior to that trip. 

 

He felt trapped in a net of hypocrisy.

 

 

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To be continued

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I need not go to the psychiatrist

 

I am so happy to join this iLand and having started blogging. I feel the purpose with which I had joined it two months back has been met to a great extent. Frankly speaking, I started blogging to vent out a lot of things that used to keep whirling in my mind and made it heavier and heavier in absence of a convenient medium of ex-pression and discussion. I do have a great family around me, but none seem to get disturbed with the weird thoughts, I presume, that I get. Or may be they get but they too keep it to themselves as I do. So I do not dare to go and discuss such things with them, nor with anyone else in my small circle of friends & colleagues! Now that is another reason I have a very very small circle of friends ' the wave length and frequency of our thoughts do not match! I found myself a misfit among them so very often. 

 

But after spending two months here I have discovered that probably I am not as unusual or weird as I presumed myself to be some time back. While passing through several other iLands I discovered there are lot many other iLanders who have gotten thoughts like me at some point or other and have discussed it in this wonderful platform. This has indeed boosted my confidence in myself and at the same time I am able to lighten my heart and mind by expressing myself. Today I have the belief that it doesn't matter to be slightly a different individual compared to your immediate circle of acquaintances. There are many others in the planet who thinks like you and its normal to be little beyond normal. Probably something like many people have average IQ, some have it above average, few far above average and some below average. So we should celebrate our uniqueness in whatever way we are.

 

I must acknowledge the posts reading which I had this realization. I might not write it the way the writers of those posts have done, which is their uniqueness, but I could quite relate to it and have experienced those thoughts which have led these set of people to write it so. Unfortunately, I do not remember all of them right now baring the three which I read recently:

 

Splitting of self by ice candy

Dhool by vivek

Why? By d

 

Apart from that I have met some wonderful people in Sarath & Nandita who have stirred my long idle brain to make some serious thoughts on certain areas thereby renewing my inquisitiveness. The whole experience has turned out to be quite refreshing to me amidst the otherwise routine and monotonous life. I can quite well appreciate now why people are advised to cultivate other interests and hobbies in their lives apart from the usual work they do. I thank my God for prompting to me this great idea when I was going through an all time low in certain aspects of my life and even wondered if I needed to see a psychiatrist! I had always loved reading & writing and cannot be enjoying it more. I look forward to reading many more wonderful pieces, in original and reflecting genuine thoughts and ideas in the days to come which I am sure would resemble many of mine.

 

I need not go to a psychiatrist anymore.

 

 

 

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Dear iLander friend, your comment would help me become a better person. Thank you.

 

 

 

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In lighter moments

 I got these in e-mail today…… lets pls lol..

These are from a book called Disorder in the American Courts, and are
things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and now
published by court reporters who had the torment of staying calm while
these exchanges were actually taking place.

ATTORNEY: What gear were you in at the moment of the impact?

WITNESS: Gucci sweats and Reeboks.

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ATTORNEY: This myasthenia gravis, does it affect your memory at all?

WITNESS: Yes.

ATTORNEY: And in what ways does it affect your memory?

WITNESS: I forget.

ATTORNEY: You forget? Can you give us an example of something you
forgot?
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ATTORNEY: What was the first thing your husband said to you that
morning?

WITNESS: He s aid, “Where am I, Cathy?”

ATTORNEY: And why did that upset you?

WITNESS: My name is Susan!

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ATTORNEY: Do you know if your daughter has ever been involved in voodoo?

WITNESS: We both do.

ATTORNEY: Voodoo?

WITNESS: We do.

ATTORNEY: You do?

WITNESS: Yes, voodoo.

____________________________________

ATTORNEY: The youngest son, the twenty-one-year-old, how old is he?

WITNESS: Uh, he’s twenty-one.

_________________________________________

ATTORNEY: Were you present when your picture was taken?

WITNESS: You’re kidding me, right!?

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ATTORNEY: She had three children, is that correct?

WITNESS: Yes.

ATTORNEY: How many were boys?

WITNESS: None.

ATTORNEY: Were there any girls?

WITNESS: Are you shitt’in me? Your Honor, I think I need a different
attorney. Can I get a new attorney?

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ATTORNEY: How was your first marriage terminated?

WITNESS: By death.

ATTORNEY: And by whose death was it terminated?

WITNESS: Now whose death do you suppose terminated it?

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ATTORNEY: Can you describe the individual?

WITNESS: He was about medium height and had a beard.

ATTORNEY: Was this a male or a female?

WITNESS: Guess.

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ATTORNEY: Is your appearance here this morning pursuant to a deposition
notice, which I sent to your attorney?

WITNESS: No, this is how I dress when I go to work.

_____________________________________

ATTORNEY: Doctor, how many of your autopsies have you performed on dead
people?

WITNESS: All my autopsies are performed on dead people. Would you like
to rephrase that?

________________________________________

ATTORNEY: Are you qualified to give a urine sample?

WITNESS: Huh….are you qualified to ask that question?

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ATTORNEY: ALL your responses MUST be oral, OK? What school did you go
to?

WITNESS: Oral.

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ATTORNEY: Do you recall the time that you examined the body?

WITNESS: The autopsy started around 8:30 p.m.

ATTORNEY: And Mr. Denton was dead at the time?

WITNESS: No, he was sitting on the table wondering why I was doing an
autopsy on him!

_____________________________________

ATTORNEY: Now doctor, isn’t it true that when a person dies in his
sleep, he doesn’t know about it until the next morning?

WITNESS: Did you actually pass the bar exam?
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— And the best for last: —

ATTORNEY: Doctor, before you performed the autopsy, did you check for a
pulse?

WITNESS: No.

ATTORNEY: Did you check for blood pressure?

WITNESS: No.

ATTORNEY: Did you check for breathing?

WITNESS: No.

ATTORNEY: So, then it is possible that the patient was alive when you
began the autopsy?

WITNESS: No.

ATTORNEY: How can you be so sure, Doctor?

WITNESS: Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar.

ATTORNEY: I see, but could the patient have still been alive,
nevertheless?

WITNESS: Yes, it is possible that he could have been alive and
practicing law.

 

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My Encounters With God - 1


My mom recently had gone to see my brother staying some ten thousand miles away from home. After a nice stay while she was just setting on her return journey, and while bro' was still alongside her, she fell down and hurt her right elbow. She was afraid as she would be traveling for about eighteen hours all by herself now with some pain in her right hand.


I stay about five hundred miles away from my parents. Mom had decided to stay with me for a few days before returning home. Incidentally I was away from my home when she arrived and my better half took her to the doctor the next morning for a check up of her injured hand. X-ray reports revealed there was nothing to worry and the pain was gone by the time I returned home.


Next evening, after dinner as I enquired her of the state of her hand, she gave a half smile as she fumbled for words. She was to leave my home after one more day. I repeated my query. And got this dreary revelation ' she had fell down again that afternoon only to injure the same right elbow and this time a bit seriously which became obvious once she removed the veil of her saree's pallu with which she had kept it hidden the whole evening, thinking she would manage the pain for a day by taking some analgesic, would not disclose it to me and her son-in-law and start treatment after returning home rather than create chaos in our lives after already having created some when her son-in-law had to take her to the doctor the other day!! Just look at how humble our parents become, whereas they could simply enjoy our services at such times!!


Next morning I took her to the doctor. And, won the opportunity of a lifetime to serve my mom for next two weeks. I won that at the cost of her pains of course. Her elbow was so hurt that it could not have been mended without an hour long operation and some steel being wired & bolted into it immediately! And there was my mom going to experience the first surgery of her lifetime away from her husband, after enough convincing by me and my husband that why to put all the trouble on dad alone who'll have to take up so much pressure and running around when two young people are already made available at her service. Also she was definitely going to get better medical facilities in this city than our native place. She gave in only after dad agreed.


Few days after the successful operation when a colleague was enquiring how Ma was doing and who was the doctor, he was almost awestruck at how we managed to get the appointment of that doctor for whom the normal waiting time is about three months! Another friend made similar remark. Ma and we were delighted that without becoming aware of the fact Ma got to be treated by a top orthopedic surgeon of the city. Whereas to my mom the said doctor appeared to be like a messiah who surprised her not only by talking in her mother tongue but also divulging that he happened to get his college education at our native place!


Ma left for her home after two weeks, reasonably satisfied and without cursing at the sky for once that why it had to happen to her. Even I was reasonably happy.


 



Role of the Supreme Being in the whole event:



  1. Not letting mom hurt her elbow the way it hurt the second time, in the first time itself  while still in the foreign land. Cancelling or changing the itinerary involving ten thousand miles in the eleventh hour would have been much different and difficult from doing it for five hundred miles.
  2. What could have been the cost of treatment in a foreign land or rather the formalities involved remains a question.
  3. Dad, who himself is not keeping very well these days, was relieved of the pressures and tensions of handling the episode alone. And although neither bro' nor me stay with our parents, a child was with her at the time of need.
  4. Ma gets quality medical treatment and has the mental satisfaction of getting to be treated by a top surgeon for whom people otherwise wait for months for an appointment and who can communicate in a language Ma understands best. Her physical pains seemed to have reduced to some extent simply because of the confidence developed in her mind.
  5. I get a purpose to my otherwise routine life ' of becoming help to my parents in their hour of need. If the incident would have happened after mom left my place, I doubt whether I could have managed to visit her!
  6. And the final interpretation '

Somehow I had always felt throughout my teenage and even later, that probably I wasn't mom's favourite. And wished that whenever she would be in need of help of any of her child (I have a sister also) at any point of time in her life, I should be getting the first chance! She should be made to depend on me . which came true. Today she has a different view of me. And Ma too did not miss out in acknowledging that this daughter of hers has done her part. According to her next time the chance should go to the others. Though I don't agree with that one, I thanked my God for the order in which He made the events to take place thereby lessening everybody’s hardships.

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My Encounters With God - Prelude


Starting today I have decided to start a series on my encounters with God. Most of these incidents would sound like plain co-incidence to many. Probable. But to me these are those small incidents that strengthen my belief about His presence, renew my faith on Him and keeps me ensured of His infinite benevolence towards the good.


To be more precise, actually I want to keep a log, of how many such con-incidences can actually happen in ones life! For I have experienced them so very often. Are all of them mere co-incidences? Or the being of the Supreme Power is established by it?


I would like to have all the readers’ views and comments to enrich my strong beliefs and little knowledge.




 

Before starting with my experiences, I think, I should also give a fair idea of God as I believe in:


I do not visualise my God in any form, shape or idol. Therefore, quite naturally, I do not wish to attach any "He/She/It" to my God. Its only for the ease of writing in the English language that I would refer to Him as "He", as has been done conventionally. Otherwise, in my mother tongue, in which I do all the thinking and also  interact with my God, I have a word that does not differentiate between a 'he' or a 'she' thereby making it easier for me to refer.


Also, I do not attach many religious strings to the relationship I have with my God. I do have enough respect for the learned and enlightened religious disciples of Him who are doing the preaching work to their best and claim to have improved the lives of their self as well as many of their followers. I genuinely enjoy listening to them from time to time and also try to follow some of their golden words. But predominantly I limit myself to simply acknowledging the presence of the Supreme Being, the Omnipotent, and have faith in Him and not bind myself much with the conventional religious activities of the God-fearing community.


 

 

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A Special Note:


All said and done, however, I must admit my weakness for one particular religious figure ' the witty, naughty, super intelligent, super human, the sea-of knowledge, the so-called complete incarnation of the Lord, ' the one & only Bhagwaan Sri Krsna ! Just love Him. This may be because I have seen the lives of a lot of people around me, whom I respect a lot, being immensely influenced by the great "Bhagavad Geeta".  I have not read it though except this one sloka:

 

"Karmanyevadhikaraste ma phaleshu kadachana,

Ma karmaphalaheturbhura Matesangostvakarmani"

 

("But thou has only the right to work; but none to the fruit thereof.

Let not then the fruit of thy action be thy motive; nor yet be thou enamoured of inaction.")

 

 


 


 


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