Hello' friends, hope u all enjoying the weekend or extended weekend as Monday being a holiday for many. Well for me the weekend this time as tied me down with a bad cold so can say just enjoying the complete rest. First of all let me thank u all for your support /comments on all my blogs whether they be TFTDs/poems/stories………whatever…….name i give to them its just what i feel like writing/sharing' i put them down.From many days was thinking to share a' point which i guess many of us must have felt strongly on but some succumbed to their parents will or if it was happening to others gave up thinking “what can i do”?.For me too till now it has been a thing happening to others i hate it like anything it gives me a feeling heck what a society/country i am in where one side we say we r Indians gelled up by unity in diversity,' but is it only namesake.I remember in school when this topic was thought mostly in geography that how diverse we Indians r but then too we gel up as nation , respect all religions how considerate we r too religions but the same childhood saw some communal riots but then to the feeling of we r one didn”t died as for riots th root cause can be easily blamed to some dirty politics………so still the childhood passed by a feel happy factor of being one.Teens came in and one day the most shocking things of my life happened one of a social friend(3/4 years elder to me but one of the best buddies) elope with a Maharashtian guy……….. she got married to him and her parents disowned her……..and still after 7/8 years they a have not welcomed her to their family…….and bcz of my fathers wish i too refrain talking to her………..but my mind then was awakened to so many Qs why all this fuss about this , its ok they loved each other their parents should have got them married, big deal. One of the cousins tried to answer this by conveying me that he was from a different religion..came the reply “so what?”' he gave up saying forget it, its time u grow up and accept social norms.
Social norms ……..now what”s that?, my curious rebellion mind could not sccumb to his explanations. Few weeks passed by me gathering the courage to discuss the topic with my dad raised it saying “if Sachin was from our community and all had uncle auntiji married Anu to him happily” to this Question he was silent for a few minute and then replied ” listen beta its not only the religion issue , u know about him he is not a sensible guy or not an ideal guy any parent would marry their daughter to he is unemployed by choice a drunkard …so try and understand its not only religion …..forget about uncle aunty no parent would marry their only daughter to such a guy” to this came other reply” so dad in future if i select a guy suitable for me in all repects as per ur standards also but not from our community/religion then will u approve it?” . Shocked by this Q of his rebellion daughter he patiently replied “well………thats in future right?” jab hoga tab dekhenge…….but i can assure u one thing …….if i reject a guy selected by u ……….tough it will be tough for me been in this society the grounds of religion /communtiy will never influence my decision …..” with this assurance life passed by college, CA and job , so many things to do where was the time to find a suitable guy and test my dad”s word……actually' ifhad not written this today wont have recollected also he had said me this one day.
Now been working and knowing so many different people in the official circle have come a cross so many beautiful made for each other couples…………but some eloped and got married and for some it was a tough game convincing their families( chetan bhagats latest novel style). But what i can i do and who am i to do anything……..attitude was there…….till the time a close colleague shared her story …….she hailing from Maharashtian family' now into an affair with a north Indian guy is having troubling times convincing his parents……her parents just met the guy found him suitable for her and after some ifs and buts gave in to their daughters happiness. But the guy side had a completely different story his father so adamant to budge and the guy not willing to go against his parents will………they r on the verge of a breakup after trying to convince his fatehr for about two years.Reason being they r from a different caste/religion ohh whatever ……….do i care for this reason…………but the society does……….and who makes the society its us.
This in particular and so many similar other incidents/instances' make me think' y this double standards where is India one………..i fail' to see the onenesses ..hell we blame others especially Americans for racism but we r the biggest racist aren”t we?. I really don”t want my kids to grow up in such a society what would i be conveying' them …….that yes we INDIANS are one but only in books…….rest practically we r so sensitive that we can die or kill when it comes to religion …….humanity has no place here…no never. Though I cant convince each and every one with my thoughts but can take a small step to stand and support inter caste marriages wherever i can and at least be not biased in the name of religion.
Its high time we understand and accept as a society / country that GOD is one ……u worship him in any name /form …but first learn to respect all those forms……..its high time we grow up…………..and mind it i can go back to my cousin/every such person and say i had grown up in that age but u still fail to grow up.
REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY.
GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.
grow up pls grow up.
Hey guys first time ever had tried to pen down n issues i feel about ………hope i did a fair job or at least conveyed my view point.
Hi everyone hope all of u doing good……………..me to doing fine………….hope u enjoyed the festival of lights.Thank you for the commnets and concern on the blog and the Wishes of course (for a stranger to all of u) but really really thank you. Well long time the TFTD are missing from my blog………so here’s one……one which provoked my thoughts for sure……..pls do comment what u think about it and yeah the pic has no sync to the post i just liked it color patterns so used it.Keep smiling.
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