What Is Real Love?
And is there a difference between that and the
heart-pounding adrenaline rush you feel when u see…?
That hot guy playing basketball at the gym…
the cute girl who makes eye contact as she passes by…

There are a few things love isn’t.

Love Isn’t A Feeling.
Although real love is often accompanied by strong feelings,
love does not equate with the sense of floating on clouds.
Unlike the type of love that movies, television,
and songs portray, people in love don’t
always feel ooey gooey around each other.

A relationship wouldn’t last long on emotions.
In fact, knowledge is the basis
of a healthy relationship.

Knowing about the other person is key.
we used to and sometimes still do
“Fall In love”
with girl/guy that we have never had a conversation with,
whether it be a movie star in the latest romantic
drama or the girl sitting behind you in a class.
we would know his/her name and face,
and that was the extent of our knowledge.
If we were to start a relationship with them,
who knows where that would lead us!

Knowing about the person’s personality and
character are so important.
One good test is to list the qualities that attract
us to that guy or girl.
If the list is long, we know a lot
about them and like those things.
If the list is short,
we either don’t know a lot about them or
we know a lot but aren’t attracted to his or her personality.

Another important factor in a
relationship is common life goals.

If the relationship is going to be long term,
we ought to be going in the same
general direction as the other person.
If his dream is to travel as an international
businessman and she wants to be a realtor in a single location,
conflict could arise.
If she wants to live in the
countryside with nature and he likes the hustle
and bustle of a big city,
there are potentially serious problems
with the direction of the couple’s lives.

Love is a choice. It’s a commitment.

Although feelings will accompany love, and although
sex will be a part of marriage, a lasting,
healthy relationship cannot be based on these things.

TRUE LOVE 101%
What does it take to be that significant other?

Infactuation

� ** Wants to get own needs met; selfish

� ** Spends all time with the other person

� ** Quickly “falls” for the other person

� ** Other relationships and friendships deteriorate

� ** Dependence on the other person causes Jealousy frequently

� ** Lasts for a short period of time

� ** Distance strains and often puts an end to the relationship

� ** Quarrels are serious and common

� ** Quarrels can seriously damage the relationship

Love

� ** Sees the other person’s flaws and still loves them

� ** Wants to serve the other person; selfless

� ** Still spends time with others

� ** Takes time to build the relationship

� ** Other relationships and friendships grow stronger

� ** Trust and understanding results in less severe and less frequent jealousy

� ** Encompasses a long-term commitment

� ** Survives and sometimes is strengthened because of distance

� ** Quarrels are less serious and less often

� ** Quarrels can strengthen the relationship

Infatuation can be so tempting.

But the question is,

But the question is,

Do I want a lasting,satisfying relationship?

If so, infatuation isn’t the answer.
Look at your relationships through the grid above.
Infatuation isn’t a bad thing,
as long as we don’t base a relationship on it.

Perhaps finding real love begins with God,
the one who created relationships.

Now making relationship is also difficult one,

have a nice day friend