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People are made to be Loved n Things are made to be used. The confusion in the World is, Coz people are being used and Things are being Loved.

I must have forwarded this SMS to everyone, coz I really liked the deep meaning in it.

Anyways here's my new blog.

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He sat there all day. I have been with him since I was 1 year old and adored him a lot. I have walked the roads, holding his hands and he had comforted me when the nites were too long.

And now it was a sad feeling when he wouldn't be sitting there. 20+ years and I had always seen him at the same place with his big round eyes, staring into me. I hadn't really held his hand in a long time or walked around with him. I understood that he was kind of ignored but I knew he was always around.

Just a day ago he was fine and then my dad said, “Loads of dirt settled here, I guess he needs a bath”. And he was put straight into the washing machine. It's not like the first time he had taken a bath there but this time it seemed different. For starters the washing machine was new. Secondly, he had turned extremely old and then the fur coat couldn't take it any further. By the time the machine was done with its work, he was ripped apart with all his cotton soaked into the water. His eyes had popped out too and the nose was intact but seemed like a running nose.

My dad had bought him for my 1^st birthday from another country. He had the best brown coat with amazing round eyes and a smart nose. He was as huge as a real one, atleast I felt that way when I was a year old. And he was my constant companion when I went out with my parents or when I slept in my room. As the years passed by, he was placed as the best show-piece on the table top in my room. And now, he was the foremost thing to be thrown away. Ofcourse, I'll miss him..My Big Brown Teddy.

- Mana

Not really here to give details on the film. I didn't like the promos, so I might not watch it either, unless the review is really good.

Coming back to the subject….

It was last Saturday and me and my sis both had a hair-wash. The reason being we wanted a hair-cut badly, but the only probs was our barber and in a better language, our hair-stylist had quit the only parlor we attended without a notice and without any contact details.

We had prolonged our hair-cut for too long and we could not find the perfect replacement for our stylist. My sis and I both cursed our stylist for not informing us before leaving. We were so sad, that we must have told atleast a 100 people that we lost our stylist and needed recommendation of a new one. One of those hundred happened to tell us, that she had seen my stylist at a certain junction 5 kms away from my prior parlor.

What did she mean by that?

Could he have joined a new parlor in that area?

So last Saturday in the hope of finding him, the 2 of us (me and my sis) left the house and tried to search for every parlor in that vicinity. We walked a few miles and searched the rest sitiing in an auto, but in vain. We turned back and were on our way back home, when we saw a very small, but newly opened parlor(from its look) hidden amongst 2 shops. We took a U-turn and were back on the same route. We got off and asked for Billu well and triumph it was!!! He came right out. We were so excited seeing him that we actually narrated the whole incident to him and he couldn't imagine us, taking so much of a pain just for him. The happiness was mutual.

We had our haircuts and we left the parlor with his contact details (we did not want to make the same mistake twice). Well I personally think we would have found absolutely anybody or even God that day.

- Mana…………………..

Sitting in my living room, watching a movie on my big screen, my sweet little sister enters wearing a good wedding dress.

She asked - “How was dinner ? ”
I replied - okay

I asked the same to her to which she replied all the possible things she’s had today. Right from North Indian, continental, Mexican, pizza & more.

Where? - At a wedding reception of Gujju friend's brother.

I asked - So how was the couple looking?
And I saw a her eyes popping out, her jaw dropping down & an answer that nobody would want to hear - “I forgot to see them” !!!

Wow, welcome to the Big Fat Gujju Wedding.

A season for wedding is on. All the grooms & brides are all set to make “The Commitment” of their life. But the only question to ask is, why do they look so damn nervous?
Reason found was - marriage is considered to be so big & grand, that everything needs to be perfect. It is now status symbol these days. Some are busy with the group dance preparation, some with honeymoon planning, some are busy finding common grounds on the menu !!

So much happening, with so many options available & so many point of views (read family members & relatives) for every little thing that is to be decided. And there starts piling of difference of opinion. “Each one has his own, and no one agrees with others”.
So where does this end? This ends when you successfully vow in front of 1000 people that this is the trophy wife I got & spend your half year's salary on the honeymoon which lasts for couple of days. And it finally ends when all your relatives are gone back to their respective homes!!

May be some years down the line we’ll look at ourselves and get more nervous thinking how much time / effort / money / tension had gone into my marriage. And may be this is the reason why there are very few divorces in India Who wants to go through the grinding pain again ??

Anyway, lets talk about today, its about marriages these days, they are often turned into a Yash Raj production movie (with same or almost same cost of production too).

So much happening & so much preparation required.
Book the venue
collect the wedding clothes
upgrade house infra to support 100 guests
distribute wedding cards
arrange for wedding car
fix the menu
prepare for sangeet, DJ party
follow up with decorator, dj, mahraj
book the hotel for 1st nite
book for honeymoon

Well…did I forget anything?

Nopes…everything is in place

Wow…my first night, its ~ The opening ceremony ~

Shit….where’s the fu*cking condom !!!!!!!!!

Word of caution: Do not visit the home of your newly wed friend / relative. Because

Anger, Frustration and a lot of helplessness!! There is this feeling of being robbed, stripped, used and thrown away by a dozen people who aren't citizens of this country. These people freely walk into our motherland with huge bags of ammunitions uninterrupted, unremitted and with a license to kill innocent lives.

26^th November, was no less than a huge devastating experience of emotions, lives and a threat to the civilians saying, “we did it again, what can you do to stop us?”

Why do we let them ask this question over and over again without any answers? We let them walk over our body, blood and soul. The problem is we see, cry and forget. But enough is enough!! This time we won't forget. When they bombarded us previously, we never knew their faces. We never knew what they looked like. We never knew the cruelty of their minds. We know now. We know those men in black, with a cynic face, red eyes and the desire to kill. We have blamed the politicians and ran rallies. I am in for all of those. I was amongst the ones to hold hoardings cursing them all. But would that be enough. It's I and you who never vote and then curse and question the legacy. Use it!! We have the power to bring in the right system, please use it!! Do some search, demand for young leaders, throw out the non-efficient ones. People who have some upper hand and power try and make use of it for the better.

The most important rule, 'DO NOT PANIC'. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to panic. I have read innumerable articles of how brave our forces were. They are trained for it. And so are these murderers trained not to fear death. Everyone reading this agrees to the point that 'Death is uncertain'. When a commoner dies, his death is grieved upon, most; by only his close ones, but depending on his situation his death is grieved upon by others too. God forbidden if you are ever in the face of a situation where death is certain, 'DON'T JUST DIE' FIGHT AND DIE!! We could term this as another war of independence, the independence to live in peace. But just getting killed by a handful of people in fear would only increase the count of deaths. STAND UP AND DIE WITH A FIGHT. A hotel of over thousands of people if united could have easily jumped over 10 people irrespective of the fact that they had machine guns. Even if a 100 people could kill 2 of them, it would have saved the other 150 from dying. Again like I said, it's easier to imagine than do, but all I am saying is TRY. We have seen this once. We know how much of destruction they can do. If we are waiting for the system to change, it might take ages. You are the system, the new age, the GEN-NEXT!!

Read the papers, read the good deeds, do not forget the lives lost, do not think it can never be you, do not wait till your near ones go through this so that you can take action, do not forget the sorrows, grieves and losses of innocent lives. Spread awareness through any means possible. Be alert, cautions and brave. This episode has got the patriotism in people alive, just hold onto it and never let it die. Who knows, maybe if we unite to take an action, we could possibly make the difference. Believe in it and do not give them a chance to say “We would do it again, and you won't be able to stop us!!”

Mana