Been toying with the idea of announcing it on mommy blog for a while now. Wanted to share the news when I got to know in december but was a lil tied up with work & kept postponing writing.
So here it is…Maya’s gonna be a big sister soon. Yep! I’m pregnant - into my 5th month now. Am due in the first week of August.

How do I feel? Well…I must admit that the first thought that came to my mind was, ‘I don’t want to share what I feel for Maya.’ Am much more relaxed now that the news has sunk in.

We had been debating having a second child for a while now.  Used to have discussions with friends.

Popular opinion was that 2 children are a must. A single child gets very lonely & especially when they grow up & parents aren’t there they will get the support they need from a sibling. Friends can never be as close as a sibling will be.

But then there was the second school of thought which debated that it is all a matter of luck. There are so many siblings who do not see eye to eye & are hardly in touch when they grow up. After marriage, your spouse & children take priority over everything else.

Me .I was confused. I have been close to my brothers…still am…but i do agree with the second school of thought too…that it is a matter of luck.

Personally, maya’s dad & I were very happy with just maya. We never felt the urge/need to have another child. But just the thought that she might be lonely used to get us thinking. On maya’s side, she never ever told me she wanted a sibling. (unlike a friend’s son who keeps asking her for a baby brother) She used to be very happy being/ playing by herself & with friends.

Also, I used to feel that having a second child just because maya should have company (& not because I wanted to) was a terrible reason to have a child. Though a friend of mine was appalled that I even thought that way. She felt there’s nothing wrong with that at all.

It also used to come to my mind that I would be bringing a child into the world which would be in a much worse state than it is now the environment, people & much more. Sometimes I'd feel that I would be adding to the population in our country. (Well, ok! Perhaps they're weird thoughts to have, but I used to have them all the same. Can't really help it, that's the way I am.)

Anyways, the dilemma continued & we still were unsure. And when I came to know I was pregnant last december, I was glad that it had happened this way…again! Yes…this time too it wasn’t planned.

So again, I amn’t thinking too much, just going with the flow.

Que sera sera - whatever will be will be.

So dear mommies & daddies & also not-yets, what do you think? What are your reasons for having/not having a second child? Do write in.

- maya ki mummy