Archive for July, 2007

Waiting…

July 27th, 2007

Am home now, since travel to office would be too tiring. Tho I’m working from home, I can’t really focus. Why is it so hard this time….waiting. I’m actually counting the days. A lil more than a week to go. Next appointment with the doc is on the 31st. Meanwhile I’m reading up on the net all I can…just to keep myself occupied. Have kept my bag ready.

Have this list of things I want cleaned, bought, put up (curtain rods, photo frames), fixed (loose knobs, a fan which isn’t fast enuff). I guess this is the nesting instinct that I was told about. This is a term I’d never heard of before & after 2 friends asked me whether I was doing all that I looked it up.

FYI…

‘Around the fifth month of pregnancy, the “nesting” instinct can set in. This is an uncontrollable urge to clean one’s house brought on by a desire to prepare a nest for the new baby, to tie up loose ends of old projects and to organize your world.

Nesting brings about some unique and seemingly irrational behaviors in pregnant women and all of them experience it differently. Women have reported throwing away perfectly good sheets and towels because they felt the strong need to have “brand new, clean” sheets and towels in their home. They have also reported doing things like taking apart the knobs on kitchen cupboards, just so they could disinfect the screws attached to the knobs.’ Read more… 

Perhaps it’s coz I’m thinking too much. Maya’s time was so much easier. Even after I went on leave from work, I was out shopping, watching movies & generally…’not thinking’. Maya was born exactly a week after I went on leave. 12 days early.

I still remember…we’d seen Spiderman 1 just the day before, in the theatre. That too sitting in the front row since those were the only tickets we got. We still joke about it…the proximity to the screen & the impact prompted maya to come out sooner. This time when we watched spiderman 3, albeit a few months back…the same thought crossed my mind….what if? LOL.

So I guess that’s what I’ll do…not think….just go back to my cleaning, tidying….


-maya ki mummy

Girl versus Boy

July 9th, 2007


I was sitting outside this weekend watching maya play with her building friends. That's when I saw this lady at the ground floor house window. She'd just had a baby girl a few weeks back. So I went up to the window to talk to her. 

'Congratulations!' I said.



'It's a baby girl' she replied morosely.



'I know ' I said, a little shocked at her reaction. 



'No everyone at home wanted a boy.' Her first child is a girl.  



'Girl or boy what difference does it make. The baby should be healthy. That's all that matters.' I said. 



'No here at home it does make a difference. People keep names otherwise.' 



I told her that I would love it if I had 2 girls. Am actually hoping that my 2nd baby will be a girl. All this so that she would feel a wee bit better.  



But I don't really think it would've helped much. Later when I met her mother-in-law & congratulated her I met with the same reaction, 'Ladki hui hai.'



Yeah, yeah I know all this 'wanting a boy to carry on the family name' etc. still exists but actually hearing someone speak about this, feel so sad because they had a girl child was .depressing.



Very, very depressing indeed.

-maya ki mummy

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