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Yeah!!!!!!! finally I am married to Raj aka Vicky Podiz on 24th of January’2007………well well ………after all the struggle with myself over years to not to get married, I have finally settled down……….
The time flew by like anything……….and imagine i am posting this blog from his place and not my home town.Yes! I am in banglore in his home and with him……..it was all fun and frolic back home town at the time of the marriage.
Again it will not be a very long blog……….my hands were itching that I should atleast post the pic of marriage so finally i decided that let me jot down something……….
The bigger blog will follow once we are back from the reception in the native place………till then enjoy madi……..(I hope thats the correct way of saying that.

Take care……catch u soon.

Since long I have been trying to put this blog together, infact exactly after I had some important news to share but then this became difficult as I am commuting from Delhi to Ghaziabad back & forth and time seems to fly away so soon
The months have flown by!!!! When I look back now, I realize that it's only two months that Raj proposed to me officially and see where are headed ..

The month of October passed in frenzy. Both Raj and myself waited and waited for some formal inquiry by my father but to no avail. Then finally we decided let Raj's father speak to my papa and lets see what happens next! Meanwhile Diwali came and went by. It was on Choti Diwali that I got to know that my company is shutting down. So we were all sent back home telling that they will let us know if we are back in business.
However, being the manager has it's own advantages. I had first hand information that we are not going to be back in business now though some how I waited for some miracle to happen. May be due to human nature, we always wait for some miracle to happen. But then when I met raj aka Vicky (God how much I find this name funny!) I somehow felt that for once I may not need miracles and things will happen on it's own, the only thing, which I need to do, is push a little.

It started with Raj writing a letter to my parents!!!! Yeah ' yeah no need to look shocked, he actually wrote a letter to my parents, attached his photo along with his family charts both mother's side and father's side. He also made sure that our Astro Charts matched too well well no fudging but he actually walked upto come center and took out our kundlis! Whoa!!!! They matched with 26 gunas matching. My mother was impressed by this trouble that he took to flatter my parents but the papa will always be papa. So all this not at all convinced him and both of us started having nightmares. It seemed like my last and only chance to get married ever to me. I could not imagine myself getting into the arranged marriage outfit.

The wait was testing my patience now for once. I was getting jittery day by day and in middle of all I managed to shift my all stuff from Gurgaon to Ghaziabad. My office driver and myself managed to load all my stuff in the office cab and shifted easily in two days. My landlady had the shock of her life when I told her that I am not going to stay there anymore. She managed to extract Rs.500.00 as penalty for her curtains which I used throughout the year but never washed ..heeeeeeeeee-heeeeeeeeeee .but then the curtains seemed, no not seemed but they were hanged on such a height that I could not manage to take them down and wash, huh! But then never mind, she was happy so was I that I don't have climb on any table and get them down. She said she will get them drycleaned but mum said no she would wash them in machine and spend ur hard earned money somewhere else!!!! .he he he he he he mums would always be mum ..my father wore a ' I-give-up-on-this look when mummy said all this.

So, back to where I started .myself and raj pataofying my parents or rather my papa. Imagine I had to do nothing extra or special when it came to pataofying his parents but I guess it was too much for him and his family. And may it was more because my parents were skeptical that we have never met and decided to get married so for them may be it was justified. However, my contention was that be realistic, don't give any weird reactions. So the conversations started between our dads ..and we reached to a final conclusion that they all are coming to Ghaziabad to meet us all on 12^th November'2006. So the house was abuzz with the ring ceremony-taking place on Sunday. Every one was roaming around with ' what- will-happen-next look on their faces at home though every one was getting ready for the same. Mummy took me to market to buy the sarees, and then I hunted the market for Raj's ring.

Apart from this some things for the family and the endless wait to see him and meet him was killing me. We kept tab on each other thru sms and phones when he was about to reach, I just asked him casually as to what he was wearing. He said capris and tee .and I went berserk because I did not want my papa to see him in casuals and poor chap had to change clothes 30 minutes before the train reached the New Delhi Station .heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee-heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

We met the next day in Delhi. It was one of the most memorable day for me. I had butterflies in my tummy .it was funny though! I knew Raj inside out yet there was this nervousness about me as to what will happen when he sees me, how are we going to react when we see each other and all ..Then we lost each other on Station. Frantically we made calls to each other and there I saw him for the first time in Blue jeans and white and blue shirt waiting for me. He was almost similar to his snap but I found him different .First I thought no no I should not be meeting him and in one moment's time I even wanted to say no to marriage ..for me it was like a life time decision. I never thought I will ever be able to marry but then seeing Raj waiting for me on the station was like what am I doing? Is it true that I have decided to get married?

Whatsoever ..the day was spent looking at shops in janpath than at each other, bargaining with the vendors rather than speaking to each other .but when the time came to part for the day .I did not wish to go back!!!!!!! It was like ' day was over so soon, huh!
But then I was sneaking so I had to be at home on time, officially I was on leave but I was roaming with Raj on Delhi and on top of that papa was back home before time so my poor mum cooked up the story for him that I am in parlour! What the heck am I suppose to do in parlour when Raj was around ..heeeeeeeeee-heeeeeeeeee

Came Sunday and they were there at my home. I saw his parents and bhaiya for the first time. I was there on my terrace behind some tree leaves and saw them entering. I was wearing red color suit and then after 15-20 minutes I walked in to meet them all and his dad got up and gave me Prasad ..I went red with all the big smile (I guess Raj will be able to tell better if I went red!!!) my brother was at his best when it came to commentary ..he kept telling me, behave like a girl and not a boy ..walk like this on stairs etc etc ..he was at his wackiest best and he found Raj cute!!!!!!!!!!!! (Well, I think guys do look cute but the coming from my brother was like ok guys are actually cute & sweet) .We had some tea & snacks followed by Lunch. Meanwhile my nani, nanag, mama and mami had come so the atmospeher had become a little light. Noni was the kid of the scene so we had some good time out there. Then after lunch my mami came and asked me ' "bittoo are u sure that you wanna go ahead?" and I was like mami what's wrong. She was like nothing just want to make sure that you are mentally prepared. And there I was in another half an hour in new saree and some funny makeup my mother had called another two aunts of mine and they all came in such a hurry burry .and one aunt of mine came with all the make up stuff in hand. Just as I was wondering why she has brought all this, I realized that the hands of my another aunt were on my face with some foundation an all and I was like nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!

But then my sweetest aunt whispered ' shut up and be quiet till the time u marry. I heard her 'cos even hers was love marriage so I was mum and I went out with all others and in another half an hour Raj and myself WERE ENGAGED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We both sat there dazed with all those happening around us .it was like ' finally we did it!!!!

There were some real funny moments like when my aunt wanted Raj to cover his head with handkerchief, he did not know why is that???? Then I confirmed from aunt in which hand of Raj do I need to put ring? Admist all, we were able to pull through ..

I spent next two days with Raj, roaming around on the streets of Janpath and Connought Place, eating icecreams, catching up with breakfast with my MIL and Raj we even wore same color clothes on both days all out of sheer coincidence watched movie together!!!!(ok ok no weird thoughts running ur minds plsssssssss ..we were officially engaged and we had every right to do koochikoo with each other in movie hall though we did not do anything do we regret, I guess yes .well ask raj about that ..heeeeeeeeeheeeeeeeee) .

We finally bid each other good bye on 14^th evening to be together on 24^th January'2007 forever which is also Raj's b'day as well now I can officially shout from my roof top ' WE R ENGAGED ..YUHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I would like to thank all the ilanders who came together to celebrate this moment of ours and we are thankful to the Rediffiland for bringing us together……….and we are gratefull to each one of you for the best wishes sent across and for blessing which we accumulated throughout

………Well just a quicky post….heeeeeeee-heeeeeee females can’t digest the things in their tummy no!!!!!!!!!!!!………okie okie no suspense…….me and raj got engaged on 12 Nov’2006 at my home place Ghaziabad………am i happy or on 9th cloud(donno but somewhere i am and he too!!!!!!)………he is still here in Delhi……..will put a detailed post soon once i come out of this frenzy………yuhoooooooooo

……………huh, these guys caught me……….credit goes to jasir, rajesh, mansi.They were all online on yahoo and i don’t know what happened to me that i joined the conference.But then that’s the mistake I committed and then they all hanged me to death……………yessssssssssssss………..they managed to get the name out of me of my Guy………….i begged, i asked that it will be unfair for the rest of the gang on iland.I even said that Ash and Vidhya will kill me but to no avail, huh!!!!!
Ok, so the cat is out of the bag…………
I don’t know what should I write or rather I should say from where i should begin?….ok it all started from the time i started blogging, can’t recall but he commented on my blog………and then i guess he added me as friend too and I accepted the request(did i oblige him?)………..and then the reading and commenting started.It went well………i will get worried when he will not comment on my blogs or will not respond to my guest book entries for long (why so, I was not too sure but then I was attracted to him)………..but then me….me….me, no i can’t afford to fall in love anyways.Ok break,………..no i didn’t fall in love then. How could I afford to fall in love then, I was just out of breakups and yes I believed blindly that I am no good at maintaining at relations so he is just another crush, that's what I used to feel. And then he was a fashion designer so he must known to too many girls!!! That too beautiful ones so where do I stand in front of them heeeeeeeeee-heeeeeeeeeeee.

I would mark him the mails on gmail but he will not respond. Infact his 2-3 blogs even mentioned my name but I would consider him a snob when all my mails on gmail went unanswered……….one day(again i can’t recall when and how?) we caught up on yahoo messenger and the life changed overnight……..in the morning and in the noon we would catch up on yahoo messenger…………it was august’2006. I would wait in the morning for him to be online then at lunch time it was so very stupid to have a crush on him but then I had, now looking back I can say I had crush on him from day one. (ok, all those who are smiling now stop smiling and keep reading it's always sweet, no, to hear or read someone's love story, huh!)

I asked for his number (why on earth did i do that, sorry i again can’t recall?)……he said why and i said some nonsense and then he gave the number. Initially we started with the sms…….some funny ones, some used to chat with each other……….then lo, behold, he called up one night all of sudden as we exchanged the sms………….and he sounded real handsome hunk on phone!!!!! I was like “Oh my God’………..then with a break of one day or two we would call up each other and take on turns to call each other so  that the bill does not shoot up…………
I would tell him what i like what i don’t and got to know slowly and slowly as to how similar were we to each other…..we both did not like milk, we both liked tea, iced tea ..we even had same way of enjoying the rain!!!!!!!!!!!!!…………….and he liked to play with my dupatta, it was then I started realizing that we both may be attracted to each other …..and then he told me he wanted to say something…….although i knew it but then like all other females i wanted to hear out everything……….then he decided that he will tell me on my b’day and then finally after lot of exchange of sms, he decided that no he cannot wait for my b'day to disclose the secret so he said that in the night he will tell me what he wished to say ..and then the endless wait started for the night ..

It was around 8:30 p.m or 9 p.m( now don't say that I can't recall the time, it has to be the same time because that's the usual time that we talk to each other) and he called up and we started with the usual chit chat and then I said ok, tell me what you wanted to tell. Silence ..and then it was like Raj what is it tell me, no, you are making me nervous. A little more silence and then he said ' "I feel that we will make a good couple that we should start our family together and as a matter of fact I love you." .(I am taking a deep breath while recalling all this, that's why this long break).

It was too much for a grown up yet a young at heart girl like me. When I listened those words, I was like as if an electric shock passed through me (I hope it is like that only!), but it was like amazing ..and then in my earlier relations no one ever treated me as a queen whereas with him it was different ..when he had said all this, the feeling took time to sink in and silence followed between us. He was relaxed with all the things out and I had no reaction to give him. I was all choked. I said I will call him back. He said, ok (poor chap, I think made him more nervous by saying that). After putting the phone down, I let the tears come out and I cried (ok these were tears of happiness!!!)and then I called back. One ring and he picked up ' "hello." Again silence. And then I spoke ' "I love you."

Then the flood gates opened and we spoke to each other as if we plan to spend the whole night together. It was our future together, our dreams, our family, our parents, it was all so exciting.

And then we both remembered that I have to get up at 3 in the morning and it was already 12 or so in the night. We wished each other goodnight and slept. After such a long period of time I guess I managed to sleep immediately without any hitch peacefully.

Since then the life has all of sudden become more beautiful rather now it has become more meaningful .may be that's why they say that love is beautiful. I am still trying to come to the terms that God made someone so far (not so far, though) for me and we waited for good 27 years for each other to be together.

So now the time has come or rather the circumstances have been created by the fellow bloggers that I tell his name. To start with, he is a fellow blogger, a fact made clear in the beginning. This is how we met on Rediffiland, i.e. through blogging. He is fashion designer by profession (I can see some familiar smiles, ok am I suppose to blush?). He is a tamilian, he resides in Banglore. His name is Lakshmi Rajan aka Vignesh aka Vicky Podiz but I call him Raj.

I am sure for some people it's a shock, for some it's a plain surprise, the old vanilla type and for some it's a long wait which is over .heeeeeeeeee-heeeeeeeeeeee it just happened ..and we both are really thankful to the Rediffiland for bringing us together and the rediffilanders who have been waiting since long with so much of patience to hear my heart out. We are thankful to all our friends, our family members (mine have yet to say yes), my kiddo brother who is real tensed with all this complexity arising out all of sudden .and we both seek the blessings of the elder members of the Iland and best wishes from the fellow members of the Iland for our beginning together.………….

P.S. I am using this pink color ‘cos they always put lovey dovey things either in red or pink…….so i chose pink

It’s been long that i managed to post something on the iland.I have been trying to post something since long but then no time and if i have time then the health. Well - well……..no i have no dengue, even i thought that i have the same after i had fever.But after the blood test, they said no dengue but then they gave me another tension by saying that it can be typhoid, now what on earth did i do wrong that i should suffer from this fever, huh!……….never mind.Baki sab toh theek hai but agar mere office wale mujhe chutti de dete toh kya chala jata.When i tell the firang boss who is here for few days that i may have typhoid, he said that my doctor is a fool and walks away.Now when i dont come to office in time the next day and sms the ceo that i had high fever last nite and came in late, then the firang boss asks if what i was telling him yesterday was true, i say yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And then he is embarassed, what nonsense, no?

What’s new on my part? Ok ok, some of you are real curious to know what is happening on the personal front that too with my love life…………hmmmm, seems funny to write openly about him as such but then it’s been almost 27 years that my search is succesful to an extent that if the need arises i will elope with him………….i still cannot tell about him but a brief note about him for sure………he loves me a lot and really caring, i can drive him nuts and he will not mind the same and pampers me like a baby and now a days we are in the ‘pataofying my parents’ mode……….so wish me all the luck………….I will post more on this once the things are finalised from both the sides.Till then keep waiting.
On the funnier part, i told my brother about him, infact i emailed him confessing about him and he surprised me by telling that he knew about him!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He read some of the sms in the phone and till the time i am comfortable with the guy he has no problem, cute brother………………but then he is like that, one stupid who is cute in his own way……..i am sucked up now sitting all alone, so will go and chit chat my way thru ops people…………..

 I don’t know but since morning I am grinning from ear to ear!!! It’s funny but then whenever there is a pressurising situations and circumstance(i think both these words mean the same,anyways, it looks more glamourous), i always grin. Everything around me will all of sudden turn into one seriousness challenge(opposite of laughter challenge!)……….no matter how much i try but everything will have a funnier side and one can find me laughing like stupids!
I was in office at 5:15 a.m., well to be here at this hour ofcourse i got up at 3:00 a.m so that finally i can be out of the bed by 3:30 a.m and then there i was like a pretatma walking down the road for the cab but the cab was already there.Grrrrrrrrrr…………
And then the driver comments,why have u applied oil in hair or what? I am like even if yes then why should on earth it matter to you……..but neverthless i answer him no and stupidily ask him the reason as well(again the funny syndrome at work)……he feels that my hair look flattened, now don’t ask what did he mean by this ‘cos I have no fair idea and never bothered to ask. The only difference i was able to make that instead of my hair half tied, i made a pony today………

I sat there in the cab flicking music channels, one day i am sure my right hand thumb will give away due to excessive sms and this game playing in the cab with the music channels! Well a piece of advice for all those who plan to fall in love with an outstation guy! Get married soon, else, the fingers in ur hand will be all broken one day due to sms game or else u will keep hearing the sounds in ur ears due to excessive talking on phone……….some may feel that why on first place have an outstation boyfriend? Nice thought but then u may never know when you are love struck………..heeeeeeee-heeeeeeeee……….never mind all this, over all it’s a great feel to be in love and to be loved.Now I don’t know if m out of my mind or what but then I just had 4-5 hours of sleep and here i am sitting and writing a blog(I should be working on balance sheet on a serious note) but then since morning I have been hit by this funny syndrome so I am making sure that every one around me is laughing…………
Our company has appointed a new housekeeping person…….mr.lechrous……well- well, he is our Ops manager and a firang but then today he charged himself after the housekeeping blokes and asked for the disinfectant and cleaned the toilet!!!!!!! so my company driver told me not to worry now, in case the housekeeping ppl do not turn up we have our back up ready…………..heeeeeee-heeeeeeeeeee
Oh yes! The GM is working in australia. I asked something in australia from my immediate senior and I was amazed to receive a reply from him and out of sheer fun i complained about another firang here in India and posted a smiley too, ok don’t be too shocked, GM also believes in posting the smileys and to my utter surprise he replied back”not to fear, i am at rescue, u won’t be killed and smiley”……….………i had fit of laughter and I told every one around me that he is working today, u better contact him for all x,y,z…………..lets see………..

Ok, now time to wind up the blog(ok i know its not complete and no i am not throwing a fit or something), it’s just that my sweetheart is online so I will laugh with him now(i can already see raised eyebrows and questions thrown at me, wait when time comes I will answer them)…………….till then chill, i will be back with a bang and all smiles

SOURCE - e-mail from a friend………………..

How to make a woman happy

It’s not difficult to make a woman happy; a man only needs to be:

1.    a friend
2.    a companion
3.    a lover
4.    a brother
5.    a father
6.    a master
7.    a chef
8.    an electrician
9.    a carpenter
10.    a plumber
11.    a mechanic
12.    a decorator
13.    a stylist
14.    a  good mother
15.    a gynecologist
16.    a psychologist
17.    a pest exterminator
18.    a psychiatrist
19.    a healer
20.    a good listener
21.    an organizer
22.    a good father
23.    very clean
24.    sympathetic
25.    athletic
26.    warm
27.    attentive
28.    gallant
29.    intelligent
30.    funny
31.    creative
32.    tender
33.    strong
34.    understanding
35.    tolerant
36.    prudent
37.    ambitious
38.    capable
39.    courageous
40.    determined
41.    true
42.    dependable
43.    passionate
44.    compassionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

45.    give her compliments regularly
46.    love shopping
47.    be honest
48.    be very rich
49.    not stress her out
50.    not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

51.    give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52.    give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53.    give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:

54.    Never to forget:
       * birthdays
       * anniversaries
       * arrangements she makes

HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

1.    Bring beer
2.    Hand over the remote.

AMAZINGLY TRUE, ISN’T IT!