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Respecting Those You Mistrust or Dislike

Dialogue requires Mutual Respect, but this doesn't mean you can only maintain dialogue with your buddies or with people you really admire. You can respect even those you mistrust or dislike.

Respect doesn't require solid friendships/trust but it does call for the ability to see the humanity in others. It means that we see others as worthy of the civility we owe any human being?that no matter what happens in the conversations, we're not going to violate the other person's dignity. Period.  

Recollect numerous instance when I have not followed what I written above and when I look back now…regret losing my cool everytime. Hopefully will do better in future.  Let me know what you feel/think about this subject

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Frustration, Tolerance & Patience Quotient

In the last couple of years have heard and read a lot about  emotional intelligence, social intelligence, intelligent quotient to describe attributes required for people to succeed in life and business. Those were recipes for good times.

The last couple of months have been a near-death experience professionally - seem to be staring at a  bottomless pit with a feeling of complete helplessness. In these times, convinced that each one of us needs to expand our capability and capacity to handle more frustrations, become more tolerant and become infinitely more patient to handle these harsh times.

This is what I refer to as the FPT Quotient, individuals and corporations that can handle these setbacks with maturity - are the ones who will emerge as the successful leaders of tomorrow. 

Like the apt quote - Never pray for an easier life, pray to be a stronger person and keep expanding your FPT quotient;)

 

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Sanity & Optimism

We are certainly in the midst of a once-in-a-lifetime set of economic conditions. It seems that everywhere I travel to and everyone I meet, people are focusing on the bust. People are spending their waking moments focusing on the dramatic changes, on the money and jobs  lost, the challengine times ahead and the fact that business & life will never be the same again. 
 
The moot point I want to make is that we can brood endlessly over these problem, replay certain thoughts, events, memories over and over and over again and end up feeling more lousy and miserable.  The gloom & doom picture is  replayed  constantly by news & business channels;)
 
Sometimes there just isn’t much you can do, certain things happen, certain situations arise and they are beyond our control, no matter how much we try to break things down. You have to learn to accept some things, let go, and move on. Its hard to do, but you need to do it for your own Peace and Sanity.

One way of easing this is to loose the need to FEEL IN CONTROL, try and let things UNFOLD and stop JUDGING yourself and the worldBe like water my freind”. Flow in life and don’t try and form water to make the shapes you want.
 
Certainly while the size and scope of this economic dislocation is unprecedentedI don't think there is any stopping the forward march of  the  India economy.. And in the long run, let us call it the pause that the global economy is imposing on India. We will get past this one. Its indeed the best time  to be in India and to be Indian!
 
Have fun, maintain your perspective and have a great 2009!

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Darkness of Thoughts & Festival of Lights

Dear Friends,

This Diwali appears as a Dark Diwali in the current backdrop of the financial turmoil across the globe.

 

The macro-economic crisis isn’t really a financial crisis, an economic crisis, a liquidity crisis, or a solvency crisis. It’s an institutional crisis: the economic institutions of capitalism is in shock. Today, we live in a globalised, hypercomplex 21st century and we in India will be affected because of huge excess in the global system.

 

Many have lost  -  money, house, car, job, bank account in the last  couple of months. Some have taken extreme measure to killing themselves alongwith family members to escape this reality and some are walking dead today ' financially,  mentally, physically and emotionally bankrupt.

The moot point here is that as long each one of you have your "earning ability",  the "attitude to fight back" and "faith in yourself" you will make it all back and more. Maintaining a longer-term perspective and sanity is the need of the hour - one cannot afford not to fight back, reinvent oneself and stay positive in these times.

Pain here is inevitable but suffering is optional.  Hoping that darkness of thoughts in your life vanishes in this festival of lights!!

Wishing you and your family a very Happy Diwali!!

Cheers

Vish, Shilpa, Amay & Amogh

 

P.S:  Buddha's timeless classic

 

What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind.”

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Give more than you take

Many years ago when I was a young clergyman I conducted a funeral for a man I had not known. I will never forget the day of his funeral as I stood before  a closed coffin and gave a eulogy without an audience. Although the man had lived in a country most of his life and although his two adult sons lived only a few hours away, not one person came to celebrate his life. Only the funeral director and I were in attendance. At that time, I was  only 25, but the experience had a profound effect on me. How I wondered, could a person live so long and touch so few people ?

 

Later on as I learned more about the man's life, I realized that he had lived a life focused almost entirely on his own needs. For most of his later years he had been extremely bitter, and whatever light he had brought into the world had died with him. His funeral was a symbol of his life; as he lived so he died.

 

My own grandfather's funeral was an entirely different experience. When the day came for this funeral, the family was surprised at how many people were in attendance. He had been a quiet man, and yet scores of strangers came up to my mother to tell her what a difference my grandfather had made in their lives. The funeral director apologized for holding the visiting hours in a room "too small for the life of my grandfather had obviously lived. At the funeral home, one man told my mother that one day five years ago he was standing outside a dress shop looking at an Easter dress for his daughter, a dress that we could not afford. My grandfather passed by the shop  and after a brief conversation insisted on buying it, even though he had little money and said "pay me back when you can". Score of people had gathered not because of what my grandfather had taken from the world but because of what he had given.

 

This is a wonderful passage that I read in John Izzo's book  "The Five Secrets"  that gave me a new perspective and felt compelled to share it verbatim. When we give more we connect ourselves to a bigger story than ourselves. In the act of doing so, happiness finds us

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What can I do to make my WiFi Network Secure ?

In the light of recent wireless hackings in the acts of terror its imperative that all “responsible citizen’s in India who have a WiFi network at home/office”  spend few extra minutes to configure  the security features on our wireless routers or access points to make your Wireless networks more secure.

 

Have tried to make it as simple as possible, if you can blog most likely you can do this alternatively please call your technician/engineer and ensure that he/she follows this step by step process  to make your Wireless Network at home/office more secure.  Any additional suggestions/comments on thesei security best practices are most welcome

 

 

1) Secure your wireless router or access point administration interface 

Almost all routers and access points have an administrator password that’s needed to log into the device and modify any configuration settings. Most devices use a weak default password like “password” or the manufacturer’s name, and some don’t have a default password at all.  As soon as you set up a new WLAN router or access point, your first step should be to change the default password to something else. You may not use this password very often, so be sure to write it down in a safe place so you can refer to it if needed. Without it, the only way to access the router or access point may be to reset it to factory default settings which will wipe away any configuration changes you’ve made. 

 

2) Don’t broadcast your SSID

Most WLAN access points and routers automatically (and continually) broadcast the network’s name, or SSID (Service Set IDentifier). This makes setting up wireless clients extremely convenient since you can locate a WLAN without having to know what it’s called, but it will also make your WLAN visible to any wireless systems within range of it. Turning off SSID broadcast for your network makes it invisible to your neighbors and passers-by (though it will still be detectible by WLAN “sniffers”). 

 

3)Enable WPA encryption instead of WEP

802.11’s WEP (Wired Equivalency Privacy) encryption has well-known weaknesses that make it relatively easy for a determined user with the right equipment to crack the encryption and access the wireless network. A better way to protect your WLAN is with WPA (Wi-Fi Protected Access). WPA provides much better protection and is also easier to use, since your password characters aren’t limited to 0-9 and A-F as they are with WEP. WPA support is built into Windows XP (with the latest Service Pack) and virtually all modern wireless hardware and operating systems. A more recent version, WPA2, is found in newer hardware and provides even stronger encryption, but you’ll probably need to download an XP patch in order to use it.

  

4) Remember that WEP is better than nothing 

If you find that some of your wireless devices only support WEP encryption (this is often the case with non-PC devices like media players, PDAs, and DVRs), avoid the temptation to skip encryption entirely because in spite of it’s flaws, using WEP is still far superior to having no encryption at all. If you do use WEP, don’t use an encryption key that’s easy to guess like a string of the same or consecutive numbers. Also, although it can be a pain, WEP users should change encryption keys often– preferably every week.  

 

5) Use MAC filtering for access control

Unlike IP addresses, MAC addresses are unique to specific network adapters, so by turning on MAC filtering you can limit network access to only your systems (or those you know about). In order to use MAC filtering you need to find (and enter into the router or AP) the 12-character MAC address of every system that will connect to the network, so it can be inconvenient to set up, especially if you have a lot of wireless clients or if your clients change a lot. MAC addresses can be “spoofed” (imitated) by a knowledgable person, so while it’s not a guarantee of security, it does add another hurdle for potential intruders to jump. 

 

6) Change the Default SSID

Access points and routers all use a network name called the SSID. Manufacturers normally ship their products with the same SSID set. For example, the SSID for Linksys devices is normally “linksys.” True, knowing the SSID does not by itself allow your neighbors to break into your network, but it is a start. More importantly, when someone finds a default SSID, they see it is a poorly configured network and are much more likely to attack it. Change the default SSID immediately when configuring wireless security on your network.

 

6) Position the Router or Access Point Safely

 

Wi-Fi signals normally reach to the exterior of a home. A small amount of signal leakage outdoors is not a problem, but the further this signal reaches, the easier it is for others to detect and exploit. Wi-Fi signals often reach through neighboring homes and into streets, for example. When installing a wireless home network, the position of the access point or router determines its reach. Try to position these devices near the center of the home rather than near windows to minimize leakage.

 

7) Reduce your WLAN transmitter power

You won’t find this feature on all wireless routers and access points, but some allow you lower the power of your WLAN transmitter and thus reduce the range of the signal. Although it’s usually impossible to fine-tune a signal so precisely that it won’t leak outside your home or business, with some trial-and-error you can often limit how far outside your premises the signal reaches, minimizing the opportunity for outsiders to access your WLAN. 

 

8) Assign Static IP Addresses to Devices/MAC address or limit the DHCP address pool to the exact number of PC's & Laptops to be connected at home

 

Most home networkers gravitate toward using dynamic IP addresses. DHCP technology is indeed easy to set up. Unfortunately, this convenience also works to the advantage of network attackers, who can easily obtain valid IP addresses from your network’s DHCP pool. Turn off DHCP on the router or access point, set a fixed IP address range instead, then configure each connected device to match. Limit the number of Use a private IP address range (like 10.0.0.x) to prevent computers from being directly reached from the Internet.

 

9) Disable remote administration on your access point

 

Most WLAN routers have the ability to be remotely administered via the Internet. Ideally, you should use this feature only if it lets you define a specific IP address or limited range of addresses that will be able to access the router. Otherwise, almost anyone anywhere could potentially find and access your router. As a rule, unless you absolutely need this capability, it’s best to keep remote administration turned off. (It’s usually turned off by default, but it’s always a good idea to check.)

 

 

10) Turn Off the Network During Extended Periods of Non-Use

 

The ultimate in wireless security measures, shutting down your network will most certainly prevent outside hackers from breaking in! While impractical to turn off and on the devices frequently, at least consider doing so during travel or extended periods offline. Computer disk drives have been known to suffer from power cycle wear-and-tear, but this is a secondary concern for broadband modems and routers.

If you own a wireless router but are only using it wired (Ethernet) connections, you can also sometimes turn off Wi-Fi on a broadband router without powering down the entire network.

 

If you implement these steps you should have secured the WiFi network at home/office, enjoy the comfort of surfing without wires and have the peace of mind that its not your WiFi network that been hacked to send the next terror email. This is the least each one of us can do in the war against terror.

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Why do we Network - To learn or to fill address books?

Seeing an increasing number of people focused on adding more connections/contacts per week in an online world. Isn't networking now becoming a chore today where people's primary goal is making contacts/connections based on what the other person can and could do for you.

 

Wish to better understand this new trend and debate this notion that the primary goal of networking is to "make useful contact".  Isn't true goal of networking to expand thinking, get new ideas for your work and life and maybe make  some lifelong friends in the process.

 

People can sense when you are genuinely interested in discussing ideas and experiences and when you are interested in knowing them just because they can help you.

 

These are some questions in my mind that I am trying to find answers to on the true goal of networking. 

 

Do we network for idea's ?

 

Does having more contacts/connections translate into more opportunities for an individual ?

 

Is bigger the network a true barometer for success/presence in the online world ?

 

Is having more contacts/comments/visitors on your blog a true measure of your self-worth ?

 

Isn't  real networking about building richer relationships ?

 

Won't being more genuine and involved lead to better relationship and thereby lead to a better network in the long run ?

 

Would love you hear comments & inputs on these question and what you think is the true goal of networking ?

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Wisdom only comes the hard way

I want to share a few of his words with you-on the subject of optimism and dealing with life’s trials elegantly and with grace. As a young psychologist, his newborn son died. That event devastated him and plunged him into dark despair. In the book he writes of his lessons and that through his challenges “I learned what optimism really is: it’s knowing that the more painful the event, the more profound the lesson. There are so many lessons in this life we just don’t want to learn You just can’t tell someone these things and expect him to become wise. “Wisdom only comes the hard way.” Words of truth!

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Be better prepared for setbacks

The problems/setbacks happen every day, so expect them and learn to deal with them. Things do not always go as planned. You are not being a pessimist or a negative thinker by expecting problems or setback; you are just being realistic and prepared to survive any challenge in life as a way to protect yourself.

 

Problems, setbacks, mistakes and losses are all part of life. They are something we have to learn to accept. Do not let yourself be shocked if and when they happen. Be prepared. The more prepared you are, the less likely it is that problems will knock you off balance.

 

Will end this post with a wonderful saying "Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger".

 

Let me know what you think..have a great week ahead!

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Is goal driven conviction reducing our effectiveness

We live in a goal-obsessed society, brainwashed into believing that diligent focus on targets and objectives will give us what we want; but what if, paradoxically, this goal-driven conviction is reducing our effectiveness?

The harder you try to reach your goals, the less likely you are to achieve them.

We have discovered that a myopic concentration on goals focuses you (and your employees) on the future rather than the present. Too often, good opportunities there for the taking are missed or ignored. As a result, individual and organizational performances decrease, and in the process, morale drops and stress increases.

The same is true in your personal life. Loosening the stranglehold of goals can breathe new life into your creativity, fuel your passion, and help you achieve greater success. What do you say ?

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