Friendship Vs Love
Friendship Vs Love
I wrote this article in 2004. I put it here for record.
Recently, one of my friends asked our group of friends: “Which one is more important in life: Love or friendship; which one is more powerful?” Lots of guys were confused and marked the question as a difficult one. But I tried. I hope it will be interesting for you, to read my view.
In my opinion, while friendship is more important in life, love is more powerful.
Friendship is cultivated; it is nurtured by every moment shared among the friends. Friendship happens mostly in like-minded people only; or persons of similar background, or similar thinking.
But Love is something that is uncontrolled. You don’t know and you start loving someone. Any similarity is not a pre-condition. In fact, most of us love someone who is entirely dissimilar to ours. It is often said: “Love is blind.”
Friendship is a two-way process. For a successful friendship, both of you need to like each other. But one way love is possible. Some people spend their entire life without revealing their love to someone else. Nothing like this happens in friendship. Friends express their friendship very often.
Often, friends remain friends for life-long, while lovers get apart.
Love is more universal. We can love a child, our grandfather, our college, or our country. Friendship is different.
Friendship is a healthier relationship. One doesn’t force his/her friend to remain only his/her friend. You can have a number of friends at the same time. But love turns to be possessive. The partners expect the other’s loyalty with him/her. Friends often forgive each other. But lovers often break apart or their relation gets tensed on small issues.
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Friendship is more important. Throughout our lives, we take help of friends. Life would become very difficult, if we don’t have a good number of friends. We make gatherings, we enjoy weekends, and we share gifts in friendship. Friendship allows us to learn from our friends. As we can have a lot of friends, we get a good exposure. But if love turns too possessive, often it kills the enjoyment. Friendship is superior to love.
Love is powerful. Often, it makes us take wrong decisions. Those who have little control over their emotions, fall in love, and break so many relations, just to get remain with their lover.
Therefore I say, friendship is more important, but love is more powerful.
[Kumar Rahul, Gopalnagar, 2004]
I very much agree with sapnemereapne.Love is base of all relations and friendships and it ocurres mostly when there is similarty between two.
i think, love without friendship is impossible; and friendship without love is also impossible. i love my spouse more and more day by day because of the friendship between us; and my friends r friends to me because of the love. Both can be alive only if there is understanding and care. bus dono mein pyaar ka roop aur maina alag hota hai. and one more thing love is a commitment with lots of responsibilities and in friendship there is no compulsion.. And if we have both in life i would say heaven is here.:)
A balanced article which takes into consideration the pros and cons of both friendship and love… However, might differ a little with…… “Those who have little control over their emotions, fall in love, and break so many relations, just to get remain with their lover”….
i liked this one. and i agree what u said in this post. ;and it dosent seem that this is written by a kid. ( read ur comment)
@vibranthues: I checked that post again, since I had forgotten it. At that time, I was a kid :) “Those who have little control over their emotions, fall in love, and break so many relations, just to get remain with their lover. ” I was not saying that people fell in love because they had little control over emotions, but that those who couln”t control, broke so many other relations. I think it was inspired by movies and other stories. I agree with you that it is blind, and the one in it sees the world in a completely different way, and hence can”t actually be blamed for anything. It makes fools out of intelligent people and in a way does the impossible things. - all your points :) - But yes, it is not always a nice experience - and in case of rejections - it destroys many a things. It is cool to be dead, but horrible when things die while we live. Actually, it is not worth taking a risk… but we can”t do anything, it happens… (Rahul)
hi…a very nice post…deep thinking involved there…but i dont agree with ur last lines where u say tht those who dont have control over ther emotions fall in love…coz u are contradicting the saying love is blind…love does not involve emotion…bcoz its a feeling where if its controlled it cud ruin u…love cud make u or break u..its ur choice…even a very controlled and intelligent gentleman cud fall in love…sometimes he mite not even knw tht!!!!hence i really feel tht love is something tht cud strike anyone…at any age…at any time….
So true and I liked the concluding line a lot that Friendship is important and Love is powerful!
very true analysis…very nice
Hi Rahul,
Today when I was just read ur blogs I found the topics ”Frenshp vs Love ”,you don”t believe, its really nice thinking I telling you from the bottom of my heart its really touch my soul you r great . thank you.
Hmmm….deep analysis there…very true…love is very powerful…very nicely written..
For me, there is no standard formulaa that works.. love can be easy or difficult ,as can be friendship.. opposites attract in both friends n lovers…both can be forever or ephemeral .. and that’’s ok… each functions to change our lives in some way! And that’’s why we invest what we do in them!
Very intellectual analysis; “Friends often forgive each other. But lovers often break apart or their relation gets tensed on small issues.” you wrote this but in my opinion it is not always true; even lovers also often forgive each other and friends often break apart on small issues.
“friendship is more important, but love is more powerful”…its true.
Hi, its a good comparison. Quite agreeable too.
Only my commet is, I feel, Friendship can happen between anybody, it is not necessary that they should be like minded.
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what is the point of having a friend who doesn”t love you or care for you. So what is friendship without love?
Good analysis of both. Very true indeed….
Being deeply loved by someone gives u strength.Loving someone deeply gives u courage. Friendship often ends in love but love in friendship never ends. I think Friendship values a lot
Both for me! :)
Yup, I agree with the basic idea, but I don”t think friends need to have similar interests to sustain their friendship. My friend cannot stop saying how different we are from each other :)!
Hmmm, the eternal debate! Can’’s they be the same thing too? Or is that an ideal situation! well analysed.
Love is passive and Friendship is passive communication.