Rahul Writes

(Thoughts)

दिल दिखाए दुनिया..

There are times when we realise that we have a heart. It happens when we can feel the heartbeats and when we can feel the flow of emotions that our heart deals in. We can even feel our hearts as separate from ourselves. And there are also some times when we realise we would be happier if we didn’t have a heart. This happens when our heart is hurt. It seems a heart is like having a wealth which needs guarding and care, otherwise in no time we would have some uninvited guests at the door. If we lose wealth, we can still earn it some other day. But a broken heart takes too long and a too much luck to mend.

The world’s first poet was Valmiki. He saw two mating birds being shot dead by a hunter, and what came out of his mouth was world’s first poem. This is not what a hurt can do; this is what a heart can do.

A hundred people would be watching a play; they would see the same characters, would go through the same effects, but their reactions would be different. Someone’s heart would be touched in a strange way which no one else would see.

Tears come when heart is flooded with emotions. Emotions: what are those? Are they like signals which tell us that we have lost control over our selves? Can we really keep our heart in our control? We can’t ' because we don't really understand how heart works.

Heart also sinks at times. It's the sinking feeling - where it feels something is about to stop, something has become too heavy Things dear to us look trivial and the world seems to be contracting We also feel the pain It feels as if our heart would implode and we would overflow To stop our heart from feeling this way, no medicine has been made yet.

We say heart also heals. Time is the biggest healer. But sometimes the time doesn’t come in time. We feel the same emotions everyday, same sinking feeling every night. It can’t be switched off, though a smallest provocation can switch it on. Also, some times heartfelt feelings grow intense with time and we wonder if there is an end

It seems hearts have a language which only hearts can understand. This is why we are touched so many times At a small gesture, at a smile, at a warm feeling, at a colour, at a poem, at a painting or at a photograph If one could know heart's language, one would become a lover. Hearts have a strange language

When in love, we say, "I have given you my heart". It means one's heart has become one with the lover's heart and hence one can't feel freely now. Now the heart would work in sync with the other's heart.

When we are in love, perhaps our heart grows bigger, as we sense so many things which we never did before. We feel so many things which we never thought existed. We see the same face every where; hear the same voice every time. We wonder: is it the same heart?

Heart is life and it has almost all elements of this world in it. Hence artists mostly represent a heart in the pink. If there are decorations around, they represent our heart's desires ' which are in plenty

Some times we call some others as heartless ' some others as hard-hearted. Though these things are relative, hearts would know about other hearts and hence would give such verdicts

No wonder, the biggest victory in this world is the victory over one’s own heart.

(Rahul)

Friendship Vs Love

I wrote this article in 2004. I put it here for record.

Recently, one of my friends asked our group of friends: “Which one is more important in life: Love or friendship; which one is more powerful?” Lots of guys were confused and marked the question as a difficult one. But I tried. I hope it will be interesting for you, to read my view.

In my opinion, while friendship is more important in life, love is more powerful.

Friendship is cultivated; it is nurtured by every moment shared among the friends. Friendship happens mostly in like-minded people only; or persons of similar background, or similar thinking.

But Love is something that is uncontrolled. You don’t know and you start loving someone. Any similarity is not a pre-condition. In fact, most of us love someone who is entirely dissimilar to ours. It is often said: “Love is blind.”

Friendship is a two-way process. For a successful friendship, both of you need to like each other. But one way love is possible. Some people spend their entire life without revealing their love to someone else. Nothing like this happens in friendship. Friends express their friendship very often.

Often, friends remain friends for life-long, while lovers get apart.

Love is more universal. We can love a child, our grandfather, our college, or our country. Friendship is different.

Friendship is a healthier relationship. One doesn’t force his/her friend to remain only his/her friend. You can have a number of friends at the same time. But love turns to be possessive. The partners expect the other’s loyalty with him/her. Friends often forgive each other. But lovers often break apart or their relation gets tensed on small issues.

A large number of Hollywood marriages fell apart. Because, the actors and actresses have grown in a habit of being friends with so many people at the same time and they find it difficult to remain loyal to a particular partner.

Friendship is more important. Throughout our lives, we take help of friends. Life would become very difficult, if we don’t have a good number of friends. We make gatherings, we enjoy weekends, and we share gifts in friendship. Friendship allows us to learn from our friends. As we can have a lot of friends, we get a good exposure. But if love turns too possessive, often it kills the enjoyment. Friendship is superior to love.

Love is powerful. Often, it makes us take wrong decisions. Those who have little control over their emotions, fall in love, and break so many relations, just to get remain with their lover.

Therefore I say, friendship is more important, but love is more powerful.

[Kumar Rahul, Gopalnagar, 2004]