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Mindset of Breaking the Queue

Mindset of Breaking the Queue

 

One of the basic problems with Indian civic society is the tendency of people to ignore the queue. We rarely come across organized system of following queue and waiting for turn. This lack of basic etiquette often becomes reason for unruliness and we see the exhibition of rudeness, indiscipline and unethical practices around us. Queue is the quickest and most efficient way to move ahead where there are more people than the service can cater to at one time. Children are taught this basic lesson right from the beginning in schools. But as they grow up and gain in physical strength, some more than others, they start asserting their physical strength to bully others. The first thing a bully hates is to follow queue. Later on the social stature enjoyed by them due to power or money comes into force. Among grown ups more than physical power it is the status which comes in the way of queuing up. In most cases in India moneyed or powerful don't have to be in places where queuing up is required, there are alternates available in this society full of classes. Even at the most revered religious places these people have created their class system ignoring the queue. If at all they have to stand in a queue, their impatience and discomfort is worth seeing. In most public offices they get it done using bribe or contacts or by sending their employees or paid servants instead to do the job. One of the chief causes of corruption is this mindset. Among the masses muscle power, physical force and rowdiness is on display. It is here that tempers flair, pushing and jostling takes place and baser human tendencies come into play. Weak, women, old and children have to be at the mercy of the strong at ticket windows, bus stands, railway platforms, etc.

If we can learn to respect queue system our society will get rid of many of its ailments and become a pleasant place to live in.  

 

 

 

 

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Human Beings and Suffering

Human Beings and Suffering

 

 

 

Ever since the birth of mankind on this planet, and in spite of having passed many stages of so called progress, development, growth or evolution, whatever we name it, the inherent weaknesses of humans have been the same. The basic animal instincts of insecurity, fear, aggression have always been there in humans. And more purely human attributes of avarice, lust, exploitation, pretension etc. have made human life more painful. Survival mechanism has been used by the mighty to perpetrate more and more atrocities on the weak. Feudal tendencies have always worked on the theory of exploitation- where various names are given from time to time to justify the dictum- might is right. Even the so called development of civilizations across the earth and rule of law, have not been able to check these tendencies. In one form or the other the rich and the powerful have been suppressing the resourceless and weak.

What have our so called evolved souls whom we call prophets, rishis or gurus, been able to achieve? May be, they were able to understand this truth and tried in their contexts to educate the masses to shun these tendencies for the collective good of all. But other than dividing the mankind into further groups and sects, they achieved little else. From fearing the Nature and imaginary gods, the mankind now fears known gods and religious dogmas, but the basic instincts have not changed. Even where there is no fear of any godly acts like in case of atheists- the situation is no different. Given a chance a human being will succumb to greed, lust, aggression, corruption in the name of survival.

The ones who understand it ' the so called attainment of gyan or enlightenment- also cannot escape the suffering, if not for themselves, then for others. Even if they renounce the world or move away from rat race- certain attachments which are inherent in human nature become reasons of their suffering. The feeling of bliss or paramanand is limited to only a glimpse and the moment of reckoning or enlightenment- rest of their lives are no different. The fate of the ones who are powerful and at the top of the survival hierarchy is no different either- they are also prone to suffering for various reasons- the discontentment persists.

Then, is it in the genes of humans to remain suffering and discontented? Is it because of the state of imperfection this world is said to be? Is it because the entire living experience is an illusion-maya and so it has to be fake- resulting in dissatisfaction?

From time immemorial the human civilization has seen many cycles of evolution, ultimately progressing in no direction- from barbarians to empires and then only the change in nature of empires from physical to political to economic to technological- the basic instinct of feudalism has been transforming. This is no progression, only transformation. So how can the suffering end if the cause of suffering is constantly around? Ghalib perhaps understood this cosmic reality and so he wrote:

Qaid-e-hyat-o-bande-gham, dono asal mein ek hain

Maut se pehle aadmi gham se nijaat paye kyuon

 

Rajiv Sharma

 

 

 

Posted in Philosophy.

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Pass me by

 

Pass me By

To just enter the woods

Without a path

And let the trees decide for me

Which way to go, where to turn

And where to stop a while

To pick a chat

With a shady eager one.

Such unplanned journey

With no fixed time and destination

Appeals to me

And I feel

Greatest truths of life

Lie there.

Let the world pass me by

In their hurry

To reach

Where?

Posted in Poetry.

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Whispers

 

Whispers

Tonight, my love

Do not whisper to me

Anything that's said before.

Let us talk about

The unsaid

For which the human race

Has waited so long-

That will set us all

Free from Bondage of eternal years

That Paradise

That Utopia

That Elixir

New world order

Of Philosophers, saints, poets, thinkers

So near yet so far, so far

Listen without prejudice

With open mind

Or we can go on endlessly

Whispering just nothing to each other.

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Long lost life

 

Long lost life

Sometimes

Long lost life

Comes across by chance

In awkward, uneasy settings.

And instead of blowing the dust

To make it look brighter

It distorts the pleasant image

Causing permanent damage.

Her slender waist and long thick knot

Imprinted in the mind

Or that tall, brooding, jean-clad, dreamer

Who lived in your memory-

Till that sudden appearance in public

Loaded with heaviness and body toll of everyday life

Shatters the image forever.

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Moon

 

Moon

I found moon smiling at me last night.

I looked back and smiled.

It turned red and hid

Behind some minaret in Lahore.

I waited

For it to re appear.

But no,

It was no hide-n-seek.

It was out of sweet shyness,

Knowing fully well

I can't go across

To have a second look.

Alright.

I can wait

Till moon-rise tomorrow

And then

Shall have my heart's desire

Fulfilled-

To see the both together again

The smile and the blush.

Posted in Poetry.

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The Consultant

 

The Consultant

They come to consult

To seek advice

Expecting solutions to all their problems.

I earnestly hear

And give advice

Provide solutions

Suggest alternatives.

Strangely,

The problems are solved.

Collection of my experiences

Is handy and I smile

To myself.

I wonder though

Why can't they read their own books?

Who taught me to tread all lonely paths

That I have traversed

All the first steps that I took

With lump in throat

And smile on face.

Never let anyone know what went inside.

When storms gathered and winds broke

Bridges collapsed and paths got lost

I wiped my eyes and walked on

Didn't wait for guides or help.

Don't even remember how I got company

Of Ghalib, Colleridge, Dostovesky, Frost.

And now this universal vision

Helps me to give advice

To those who require guides.

Posted in Poetry.

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What became of the Dreams My Love

 

What became of the Dreams My Love

How do I explain

What became of the dreams?

How I came to take up residence

In fertile plains

Rejecting the claim of deserts

And mountains over my existence.

I understand your surprise

To see me surviving in a routine,

Even I face a stranger often

Mocking at me in the mirror

Ever since I transplanted myself

In firm ground.

I may have even grown roots by now.

Remember we said, Money can't buy happiness!

I saw my happiness slipping away

From my hands daily for lack of it.

Turned my tragedies into comedies

Because no one bought tragedies.

Ordinariness became a way of life

Epic machinery rusted for lack of use.

Here I am a part of this urban jungle

Breathing the polluted air

Sleeping in air-conditioned room.

Can't help it now

Even if it breaks your heart, my love.

 

Posted in Poetry.

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Rahul & I…

 

Rahul & I

I would like to share a very interesting episode with all of you I have a friend 'Rahul whom I had not been able to contact for eight years. In fact he had shifted to Surat long time back and even I was away from Amritsar for six-seven years before that. This is before the cell phone and emailing became common. So we were just out of touch His parental house is here…and it was always at the back of my mind to visit them and take his contact number. But eight years passed. Whenever some common friends met they asked me about him and I would say that I planned to get his contact number from his parents. Anyway, to cut the long story short, in the beginning of this year I received a call from a common friend- Sabina who was in town and I insisted upon her to drop in. And she did along with her hubby. It was a very pleasant evening remembering college days when we used to be just a part of one another. We remembered how I had gone to Delhi to attend her wedding and reception and so on. And we discussed Rahul I promised to her that I'll visit his parents on the first opportunity and take his number. I have now been in regular touch with Sabina since that meeting after a gap of years.

Last Sunday, I got free early from 'walk-in interviews' that we were conducting and it was a sunny afternoon. As I started from office for home I thought I could visit Rahul's house on the way being a Sunday I thought even uncle would be home. As I drove my car I was full of nostalgia and was wondering what changes might have taken place in his family in the last eight years and lost in my thoughts I just forgot to take the turn towards their locality. I took a detour and came from the other side leading towards their house. As I parked my car outside that house facing the park a place which I used to frequent like my own home what I saw was a shock! The house was being demolished. There were labourers removing the doors with hammers. No one familiar was in sight. I went inside full of emotions and walked into the living room. It was intact. The doors leading to bedrooms and drawing room had already been removed. I walked from room to room with a lump in my throat. Wooden wardrobes in the bedrooms were still untouched even the keys were hanging in the concealed locks. I was so overwhelmed by the scene that I just came out with the urgency to know what happened. The labourers had no idea except that the house had been recently sold off and the new buyer wanted to demolish it..demolition had started on that very day. But no one was able to answer the questions in my mind. So I thought of contacting the neighbours. A young boy flying kites on the rooftop answered as I rang the door bell. He told me that Kapil-elder brother of Rahul was there the day before for the final deal of the house and he gave me his cell number.

I came back still full of questions and emotions. That house was almost new twenty years ago when we used to study together. Many nights I spent there with Rahul and Gurmit- our other common friend, studying together. And those were some of our most memorable and enjoyable moments.

In the evening I left a message on Kapil's cell for Rahul. And I got Rahul's call soon after. We talked and it was as if we were never away from each other. He told me that even his parents had shifted about seven years ago to Surat and stayed with them. So there was no point keeping the house he said. I shared with him the emotions I felt when I visited that place after years. Yesterday evening I took my wife and kids also to have one last look at the house that was so much part of my best years of life. Both Rahul and I are happy to once again be in touch and will meet soon on a vacation. We shared in brief the developments in our life and talked about other friends with whom I am in contact he is cut off completely from everyone. I'll pass on to him a few contacts and share with them how I got in touch with him again ..   

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Conscience check

 

Conscience Check

Just as we make use of 'history' option to check which all visits we made on our PC during a particular time on the net etc., if we use this option to check our flow of thoughts, at least once a day, our findings will be quite interesting. Of course it is not possible to keep track of all the domains our mind wanders about, but at least the more prominent and active thought wanderings can be recollected for reference or reflection- a sort of conscience check. And if we succeed in making a habit of it by fixing particular time of day for this exercise, it can become a very effective tool to control and monitor our thought process towards a desired direction- with unwanted, negative and wasteful thoughts getting a conscience check.

 

Posted in Reflections.

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