In the wake of two shocking incidents that took place in Bangalore and Hyderabad, couples committing suicide because of extra-marital affairs with their colleagues, I just thought of writing a small article on how to avoid such incidents. This is really a serious matter and if not dealt on at an early stage could lead to such incidents in our personal life too. I have done research on human behavior and psychology and am trying to put-in some text which may (or may not) be helpful to you. Never-the-less I feel it’s worth knowing such things and if possible every individual can make a conscious effort to more or less follow the same.
Some people don’t take advice but taking good advice may do you no harm. Thos who are not married this is the best article as before starting a new relationship if you are ready for it, will only help you to lead a happy life.
We spend 40/45/50/60 hours a week with our colleagues. This is the most we spend with any members of our family. So it’s obvious they are an integral part of our life. Good, understood. But an important point to remember is colleagues are colleagues and not friends and if you think they are friends then you are highly mistaken. Imagine working together for 9 hours a day together and then returning home and continuing to talk with your colleague on phone. This is what happened with that Infosys guy who could not stand this behavior of his wife and killed her and committed suicide. Which husband would like his wife talking on phone with her colleague and that too male counterpart? Or which wife will like her husband doing the same? Just keep yourself in that situation and see. Anger will creep in within you.
So whatever gossip or topic you want to discuss with your colleagues do it during office hours and once you are out of office forget about your work and your colleagues unless it’s official matter.
Just check this unnecessary talk
A guy and her colleague walking out of office at 6.30p.m. At 7.30 or 8.00 the guy calls that female, Guy: Hi, how are you? Where have you reached? (Don’t you know how she is and where she must be at this time)
Lady: I am fine. Reached home.
Guy: What are you cooking today?
Lady:So and so (Now here the lady knows that the guy has called to flirt with her and the call is unnecessary. It’s the duty of the female to
say something to avoid that guy. If she doesn’t at this stage then this
call will be going for another 30-45 mins and questions like ‘When will you be taking bath? What time you will sleep? What will you bring for me for breakfast for tomorrow will creep in?’ and imagine the state of the family members of that lady at this point.
They expect the lady to come and talk with them for sometime but here this lady is enjoying a talk with the guy with whom she has been working since morning. No wonder such people will have a horrendous married life.
A simple thing to think about. Say you are not married. You go to office and come back say at 6.00 in the evening. You have so much of time left. Can’t you read some books and increase your knowledge rather than spending one-two hours on mobile. Girls can start experimenting with new dishes. Main thing to understand is such gossiping on calls becomes on habit and bad habits die-hard. You will be addicted to talking and this can be bad as time goes on. One you start working you have to come out of college life. In college you could enjoy, flirt, do anything you wanted. But this is real life. Be responsible or else you will be responsible for your terrible life and the life if your husband/wife. Any person no matter who he/she is would never like his/her wife/husband having such relationship with her/his colleagues.
Last year 90% of divorce happened because of Extra-Marital Affairs and in that 80% because of relationships with colleagues. And we would not like this to happen with us. So start from now.
Guys see to it that you don’t put an habit of calling you female-colleagues after office hours or on weekends or holidays, even if they provoke you or give missed calls. Let them spend time with their family members or other friends. You also do the same. Good girls don’t give missed calls. And girls who give I need not say what kind of girls they are. Stay away from them. You can talk as much as you want in office. And gals, if any guy calls you then it’s not bad to say ‘No, Let’s talk in office’ or ‘I am busy, talk with you tomorrow’ to that guy. Do it twice and they will automatically stop calling. Guys have this habit of flirting and you allowing them to flirt will only help them do more. Relationships can always be maintained in right manner. Never succumb to emotional pressure like ‘You don’t want to talk with me or what’ or ‘You can call him but you can’t call me’ or ‘You talk for so and so time with her but with me only this much’. Some people fall for this because they don’t want to lose a friend. Again I say colleague is not a friend. They are just here to work and keep on moving in their life. They go to other company, go for growth and so on. They will not wait for you in the same office to be with you forever. So don’t be emotionally attached with your colleagues. They are competitors and always on their toes to show you down in front of seniors and managers. You may not realize now
but this is a fact, be ready for it.
Imagine a girl getting married and someone says to her to be husband, that guy over there is the one who regularly calls your wife or your wife gives missed calls or calls that guy. Always this thing will remain on the back of his mind. Similarly someone tells the bride that your groom always keeps calling that girl or vice-versa'. Imagine yourself at that place. Situations arise because we allow them to. No one can lead ideal life but we can always make an sincere effort to lead one.
Another note to be taken about: (strictly male to female and female to male contexts)
If your colleague calls you. Just check out whether if he calls others also. If he doesn’t then find out why? No guy will call other girl if he is not interested in that girl. In a group there can be five females but it’s not necessary that a guy calls all five. He will only call the one on whom he is interested.
Similarly, a girl will not give missed call to everyone. If she gives then she must be really lonely. Stay away from them or you will be caught in their loving talk. Guys normally fall for girls because of their beauty or their talk. So if a guy colleague comes to you and proposes you then it’s not his mistake completely, it’s more of yours because you were the one who used to give him that space.
Also you become a topic of gossip among your fellow colleagues if they come to know that one of their colleague is calling you and not calling others. And there is nothing more dangerous than office gossip. It can cost you your job and just remember how easily you got this job.
SALUTING THE BRAVE SOLDIERS WHO LOST THEIR LIVES IN THE MUMBAI TERROR ATTACK..
PRAYING FOR THE DEPARTED SOULS OF VICTIMSAND THEIR GRIEVING FAMILIES …
LIGHTING CANDLES TO PAY HOMAGE TO THEM ALL….
Thanks & Regards,
God can be realised only through love. God will not reside in a heart devoid of love, which is like a desert. Other paths develop conceit, separating man from man and man from beast. They contract and do not reach out, shrinking your awareness of the Divine. Love is expansion, and expansion is divine life. Sow love; it will blossom as compassion and tolerance. It will yield the fruit of peace. God is reflected in the medium of Nature; in everything His image can be perceived.
The 7 Ups For Fall !
‘This is the day the Lord hath made;
let us rejoice and be glad in it..’
The best way to dress up is to put on a smile.
A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
‘The Lord does not look at the things man looks at.
Man looks at outward appearance,
but the Lord looks at the heart.’
3. Shut Up!!
Say nice things and learn to listen.
God gave us two ears and one mouth,
so He must have meant for us to do twice as much listening as talking.
‘He who guards his lips guards his soul.’
. . . for what you believe in.
Stand for something or you will fall for anything.
‘Let us not be weary in doing good; for at the proper time,
we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good…’
.. . . to the Lord.
‘I can do everything through Christ who strengthens me’.
6. Reach Up !!
.. . . for something higher.
and lean not unto your own understanding.
In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path.’
7. Lift Up !!
.. . your Prayers.
‘Do not worry about anything; instead
PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING.’
If He had a wallet, your photo would be in it.
He sends you flowers every spring, and a sunrise every morning.
He could live anywhere in the universe, and He chose your heart.
What about the Christmas gift He sent you in Bethlehem ;
not to mention that Friday at Calvary .
Face it, He’s crazy about you.
Have A Successful Week Ahead !
Her Mother had left, a new chapter is born
Watching her Pa being both Mother and Dad
He done all he could although he still looked so sad!
She crept up the staircase to be on her own
Hands both together in prayer she did weep
Then drifted away into a wonderful sleep!
All of her worries now letting her be
Away from all harm where no one could go
Gently and calmly she rocks to and thro!
Now she awakens in arms which are wide
A beautiful vision of a lady in white
Rocking her gently and whispering Sleep tight!
Refreshed and so happy no knowledge of pain
She goes down the stairs as light as a kite
Then whispers “Daddy don’t cry, it will soon be alright!”