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Three Words for 2009

January 2nd, 2009


Three-Word Phrases, can be tools to help develop every relationship.


There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words.

When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

Let Me Help:

Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

I Understand You:

People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.


I Respect You:

Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

I Miss You:

Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you.” This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say “I miss you.”

Maybe You’re Right:

This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when you say “maybe you’re right” is the humility of admitting, “maybe I’m wrong”. Let’s face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you normally do is solidify the other person’s point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying “maybe you’re right” can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.

Please Forgive Me:

Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I Thank You:

Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many ex-pressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count On Me:

A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating “you can count on me.”

I’ll Be There:

If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there.” Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

Go For It:

We are all unique individuals. Don’t try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to “go for it.”

I Love You:

Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: “I love you.” Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is gone.


OM SAIRAM


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February 4th, 2008


A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds,
 “What does love mean?”
 
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:


“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn”t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That”s love.”

Rebecca- age 8


“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.

You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.”

Billy - age 4


“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne
and they go out and smell each other.”

Karl - age 5


“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.”

Chrissy - age 6


“Love is what makes you smile when you”re tired.”

Terri - age  4


“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.”    

Dilip -  age 7


“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.
My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss”

Emily - age 8


“Love is what”s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”   

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)


“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,”

Nikhil - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikhil”s on this planet)


“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.”  

Noelle - age 7


“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”


Tushar - age 6



“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.

He was the only one doing that. I wasn”t scared anymore.”

Cindy - age 8


“My mommy loves me more than anybody .

You don”t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.”

Komal - age 6


“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”

Edison-age 5


“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.”

Chris - age 7


“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone
all day.”

Mary Ann - age 4


“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” 

Lalita - age 4


“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” (what an image)

Kiran - age 7


“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn”t think it”s gross.”

Mark - age 6


“You really shouldn”t say “I love you” unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”    

Jaya - age 8


And the final one — Author and lecturer  once talked about a contest he was asked to judge.

The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.


The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman”s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

“Nothing, I just helped him cry”


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