Science explains that it is a predetermined genetic disposition to be an introvert or extrovert. Extroverts get some feel good chemicals when they interact with people which gratifies them.The brains of introverts themselves produce such feel good chemicals which does not need them to reach out to others.
Extroverts gets bored soon without company. They savour the time spend with other people and try to chose jobs that involves meeting people and communicating. Extroverts are highly receptive and tuned-in with their environment, are naturally responsive with people and can almost talk about anything under the sun.Extroverts can be easier to get to know than introverts because they’re more open with their thoughts, feelings, and opinions.No wonder extroversive people are great fun to be with and also great entertainers wherever they are! They are the live wires capturing attention and stealing hearts.
When persons who have the opposite traits marry each other it is the Extroversive person who has to always take the lead in initiating a conversation or interaction most of the times. At times it is bound to create a friction.It is frustrating on the part of the extroversive spouse as to why it is him who has to always take the initiative. Conversely the introversive spouse might get annoyed at why there has to be conversation all the time and feels pressurised to open up or talk more which is against his natural tendencies! He feels his harmony is disturbed.
We find the extroverts of the Virtual Era Orkutting and Smsing nonstop and frantically staying connected with people round the globe round the clock. At times it makes me baffled as to how they could stay in touch with a whole lot of people(100+ friends!!) all the time and what is the need for it in the first place! It would take the focus out of important activies like quality time for the family, keeping oneself fit and healthy,enjoying hobby activies ,growing spiritually and learning new things!
thank God…….after reading the comments here, i can now be sure I am quite normal………coz the way i can swing from being an introvert to an extrovert,
depending on the situation………i used to wonder about myself……
The chemicals would get produced because of the feelings and mood of the person, and not the other way round, right? The article is well writen and you have explained things very well. Going the extrovert way has no limitations and one should also some times think why is the need to “reach out”? Means why the extrovert person would feel like always talking to others, etc. A bit of sceptism may do wonder
As Jagjit Singh sang: “Kyun tum itna muskura rahe ho, kya gam hai jisko chhipa rahe ho” 
There are no general rules as such. Some extrovert persons drive themselves to breaking limits and collapse. Some introvert persons go into silent depression and end up as shade of the former. Its a complex issue to think of. I myself appreciate a “middle way”… Many of us are introverts in general, but very chatty and extrovert with those whom we trust and love… Keep writing… (Rahul)
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quite prudent post…thanks Tamilini.Will you visit my blog and read some of my posts…may be you advise me something which none else has done… .. need sincere and impartial advise of a friend…best wishes….ranjit
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That was a lovely comment on my GB - Gracias mi Amigas - cool here and the fall colors are emerging - as lovely as the dance in the rain
hey, but listen- we do change from being an intro to an extro or the reverse during the course of our life and the experiences. Many people change in early youth days - like an extrovert child may be an introvert adult. So i suppose , the circumstances play a role too.
“I love to be alone, but i hate being lonely”, Now this makes me wonder where do I fit? A good thesis, but maybe next time you could cover an Ambivert as well ;). Most of us act differently in personal and professional relations. And as long as one isn”t sad leading dual personalities; I see a lot of fun in it; though yes detrimental activities isn”t what am talking about! Cheers to the research!! :).. Makes me wanna go on solitude lanes.
A good comparison!!
Wonder what made you write on this topic???
I think the way our personalities are formed are both as a result of nurture as well as nature. There is a constant interplay of both. So it isn”t as if we are cast in iron moulds. A lot depends on what we choose to become. I think it is possible to srike a balance. Reaching out and connecting brings happiness if there is genuineness on both sides. At other times, solitude brings deep joy . I feel we should not stubbornly handg on to any image that we create for ourselves. We may miss out on much.
Sometimes I feel like an introvert and at times like an extrovert….depends on who I am with I guess..can there be a combo?? hehe
good dissection, by the way what are you?)
good dissection, by the way what are you?)
Nice explanation of introverts and extroverts… And very true that introverts are happy with themselves.. But I have seen many introverts turning out into extroverts… It also depends upon situation a lot… Nice blog….
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Sometimes i like to be alone..read books,listen music,love to see nature…n sometimes i hate to stay alone..want more than 100 friends…n send sms frantically:))..what type of person am i…can u tell me:)
By the way, learning new things can be done through SMS too ..
I find it difficult to agree that being introvert or extrovert is genetically predetermined … Sometimes, the environment that a child leaves in is also responsible … And there have been cases of introverts becoming extroverts too … But yes, I do agree with you that forcing an introvert to become extrovert is not a good idea … One must understand that each person is unique.
Nice description of extroverts and introverts, Tamilani ……..and introverts write on serious topic on Rediff iland !
nice posting
Introvert – someone capable of making mistakes all by himself. Extrovert - someone capable of making the whole group to commit mistakes.
Introvert – someone capable of making mistakes all by himself. Extrovert - someone capable of making the whole group to commit mistakes.
Introvert – someone capable of making mistakes all by himself. Extrovert - someone capable of making the whole group to commit mistakes.