I was waiting with my mother for our turn at a doctor's chamber. She too was waiting for her turn. I had seen her earlier too, at the same place. We only smiled at each other on the other occasions. She was accompanied by her son who was perpetually talking on his cell-phone. Bored, she struck up a conversation with us. Her husband was admitted in the hospital and she had come to talk to the doctor about her husband's progress to health. They had been married almost 46 years ago. She did not meet her husband till everything was fixed by the families. There was no going back then. She told me that she always visualized a husband who was dapper likeDev Anand but her husband, well… (all she did was smile sheepishly).
But, good girls did not defy their families, so she got married to the guy with loads of regrets about what may have been. Initially, though she never showed it, she was full self pity. But as time flew she realized how unwise she was in her judgment. With an impish smile on her face, she told me, how some of her friends were almost jealous of the way her husband looked after her. He made sure that she was always treated with respect by everyone in the family, even by their own kids. When their second kid was born (they were on a foreign posting) he took care of the home & the older kid leaving her to concentrate on the new-born & herself.
Today, she feels her husband was God's greatest gift to her. She is especially thankful that she did not voice her displeasure when marriage negotiations were on, otherwise who knows what kind of man she would have been married to. She acknowledges that in the success of their long & happy marriage her husband's contribution was great. And, she added tongue in cheek, the men of her husband's age all look more or less the same today, no matter how good-looking they were in their youth.
This encounter reminded me of what Sister Adele ,Principal of our school, used to tell us —– instead of fretting at the sight of the cloud look for the sun behind it & you shall see the rainbow appear'
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#1 by me.tarunsingh
Genuine first thoughts
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me: haan bahot hi acha hai yeh … and its good point is again its so plain n simple … u havent tried to justify anything - just a plain story that says it all
#2 by ANKIT SRIVASTAVA
Wonderfull!!!!!!!!!!!!! You should be a Counsellor…you have a great convincing style of narration
#3 by Sharath gowda
Nice story,Sadly marriage is no more the revered institution it once was.I feel couples have lost the ability to compromise.
#4 by Virag
excellent …… thnx 4 post
#5 by bubblymasti
We aspire for things which we may not get, forgetting the Gift of God, which is there for all of us, the present. Nice, moving story of a woman, who although belongs to the old world, was modern enough to think of disillusionment. She, however, accepted what was given to her and realised that she had been handed a treasure in her husband. (Maybe the husband may have a similar story).
#6 by Manojkumar Nair
very true sarita..well if i compare ur posts refering some movie scenes forgive me..i am a big movie freak..this reminds dil to pagal hai…where madhuri and her friend argues for…someone who is made for you…and when madhuri tells.. how can u marry a guy whom you dont love..she tells..who knows he is the one made for me!! i guess we have this very strong belief system of marriage and then loving the person whom we marry..and all most of the examples around us are easily proving that…and the beauty is it really works!!
#7 by rajeshkumar ram
nice beautiful thoughts and right conclusions…thanks you for the post!
#8 by bhagwant pandey
Nice sharing Sharita .. its true ..Nature fixes everything naturally, the main thing is that we should always keep our attitude positive and faith on HIS decision ..
#9 by Srinivasan Parthasarathy
Very nice!
#10 by Srinivasan Parthasarathy
Very nice!
#11 by shabbir abbas
Hmm……….very nicely Drafted Sarita ……..many Congratulations for that………….I always believed that its not the appearance which matters but its the behaviour and thoughts that some body has…………Appearance we can change any time …….and in today’’s world a Poor Black boy and grow and Become a Rich White women(read MJ) so its never appearence…………..yes i agree that sometimes we do fall in love or we do attracted towards somebody coz of looks but that happens only for the first time………..we always try to observe certain behaviour of somebody based on our judgement capability and then draw some conclusion about him or her……………..Thanks for sharing this……..GOD BLESS
#12 by sanat ray
instead of fretting at the sight of the cloud look for the sun behind it & you shall see the rainbow appear’
well darkest before dawn = as they say. but the darkness is also imminent when it goes awry. matter of fact, real life and the essence is poignant.
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#13 by rajeshkumar rai
ha ha ha…. me have no regrets for been made to run away with a TDH…SHE KEEPS IRRITATING ME AND I WISH TO BE IRRITATED BY HER ALL MY LIFE…..THANKS FOR SHARING THIS ……THIS IS LOVE AFTER MARRIAGE!
#14 by Pradeep
Beautiful post sarita……. it is often said marriages are made in heaven … jiske jo milna hota hai wahi milta hai
….. the post sufficiently proves that ultimately what works in marriages is not look but love, respect, understanding, sacrifices, mutal understanding which both husband and wife develops over the period of time for each other…. keep sharing such good work
#15 by Nilesh
Unlike physical beauty, beauty of soul lasts forever. Nice post.
#16 by rakesh tiwari
Sarita jeewan chalne ka naam chalte raho subho shaam…….journey is going on
#17 by HariOm Chawla
Nice post, Sarita. Ultimately, what counts in marital life, as in all other relations, are the basic human feelings of love, kindness, empathy and care for each other ….
#18 by Rahul Malhotra
Ther are love marraiges and there are marraiges having love after marraige. In love marraige the love may last or may not last , but in marraige having love post marraige we have the nice and lovely stories like the one you shared. Hope this kind of love lasts between two person when they decide to live togeather in life. God bless the feeling of love
#19 by Think Tank
The point you made is: Keep the faith in good things in life, and remain a positive person. All troubles come with their expiry dates not visible to us. And the power of being positive is that, it changes negative situations into positive ones too. Very nice episode, thanks a ton for capturing it. (Rahul)
#20 by Think Tank
Very nice. Whether we love to see this or not, there are countless such stories living within us, but our media and our movies glamorize only the break-free kind of love marriages. It is because love-marriage has a commercial aspect which would suit these industries. For the last quote, I think the teacher must be thinking about Jesus - the “only true living God” - in her mind when she would tell this to you people :), as she would like all to “praise the lord” for rains or no-rains. Anyways, this criticism is imaginary and not needed
(I think it still came in my mind because you specifically mentioned that she was a Sister and hence a Christian; if you just said addressed her as a teacher, my dislike for Christian Missionaries won”t come out then 
#21 by tanuj neogi
Countenance is not all. It counts, but ultimately what remains is the mutual respect for each other through the long journey of life. A very, very touchy & sensitive post…
#22 by Moe M
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#23 by Anonymous Poet
wonderful and a thoughtful post that ends with an very positive and message, and the fact that life’’s journey indeed teaches something or the other in whatever it has for us
#24 by AAMEEN KHAN
Nice article and the teachings of your principal……. Ek kahaavat hai ki, pati-patni ke jodi, uuper se tay hokar hi aati hai….. aur shaayad isiliye dono ek dusarey ke puurak hotey hai.
#25 by Gopi Goswami
nice post with a great message…
#26 by Rita
Wonderful post, I loved it! Thanks for sharing and keep it up.
#27 by hina tiwari
sometimes it makes me think that how each of us has got a unique life story, this one was also good. The last line from you school sister is so true , we should rather look for bright side of the clouds. Good post and that aunty was correct after some time all men look so same
#28 by Laxmi
wow! dats really nice………………”don”t go by the face value”….:)
#29 by nitha Mohan
gr8 message.
#30 by Snehal
As usual …wonder ful post ….thanx for sharing
#31 by chandrakant parmar
nice story. every thing turns good if you feel good……………nice story
#32 by rahul
Well narrated life story…n true life is full of surprises…when v think everthing will be good den suddenly bad things happens and when v think everthing will b bad den good things starts…dats life…always unpredictable….liked it…tc
#33 by Karthik - Dexter
Such a nice post saritha, we often complain about things until we realize the positive change it has brought in our life…
as usual, a wonderful post by you… :-))
#34 by febin joy
nice post…. and very true….
#35 by nitin bhatnagar
a wonderful post….this post also explains why the marriages were so successful in earlier days,
#36 by sidhartha kukreja
nice presentation
#37 by toms abraham
When you are joyous, i laugh loud.. When you are filled, i cry out… When you bleed, i feel the pain and in the rain we both dance like cupids…..Thats the relation.. An inseparable relation continuing for ages. Relation of true dedication and faith. Relation declared by god. Husband and Wife.. A divine anatomy..
#38 by waseem n
so true yaar . very nice post
#39 by rahul mahajan
how to express my feelings. but i will tell 1 thing, “Without me this world can not exist like that life can not exist without this type of things
#40 by rasheed
chal sarita ek kaam acha kiya tune yeh post main apni hone wali(jo bhi ho) bivi ko padvaonga