Is there something you desperately need? Your sense of desperation and your need will work against you, and will make it even more difficult to attain what you’re after.
By very definition, whatever you need you do not have. When you continually reinforce the idea that you do not have something, you continually push that thing away from yourself.
Replace your desperate need with a passionate desire. That will frame your situation in a much more positive, powerful perspective.
With desperation, you feel like giving up. With passion, on the other hand, you create the energy to move decisively forward.
With need, you feel an emptiness that drains your every moment. With desire, you constantly motivate yourself to create fulfillment.
Let go of your needs, for they will only keep you needy. Replace them with positive desires, and feel the empowering passion that will make those desires happen.
A woman, renewing her driver’s license at the CountyClerk’s office, was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.
She hesitated,uncertain how to classify herself.
“What I mean is,” explained the recorder, “do you have a job or are you just a ..?”
“Of course I have a job,” snapped the woman.
“I’m a Mom.”
“We don’t list ‘Mom’ as an occupation, ‘housewife’ covers it,” Said the recorder emphatically.
I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised,efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like, “Official Interrogator” or “Town Registrar.”
“What is your occupation?” she probed..
What made me say it? I do not know.
The words simply popped out.. “I’m a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations.”
The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in mid air and looked up as though she had not heard right.
I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written, in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.
“Might I ask,” said the clerk with new interest, “just what you do in your field?”
Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice I heard myself reply, “I have a continuing program of research, (which mother doesn’t?) In thelaboratory and in the field,(normally I would have said indoors and out).
I’m working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family) and already have four credits (all daughters).
Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the human ties, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.”
There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk’s voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.
As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants — ages 13, 7,and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model,(a 6 month oldbaby) in the child development program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than “just another Mom.” Motherhood!
What a glorious career! Especially when there’s a title on the door.
Does this make grandmothers “Senior Research Scientists in the field of Child development and Human Relations”
And great grandmothers “Executive Senior Research Scientists?”
I think so!!! I also think it makes Aunts “Associate Research Assistants.”
We wanted a fruit salad for supper. The recipe said, “serve without dressing.” So I didn’t dress. But Tim happened to bring a friend home for supper that night. They both looked so startled when I served them, I think it was the salad.
Wednesday: I decided to serve rice and found a recipe which said, “wash thoroughly before steaming the rice.” So I heated some water and took a bath before steaming the rice. Sounded kinda silly in the middle of the day. I can’t say it improved the rice anyhow.
Thursday: Today Tim asked for salad again. I tried a new recipe. It said, prepare ingredients, then toss on a bed of lettuce one hour before serving.” I hunted all over the place for a garden and when I got one, I tossed my salad into the bed of lettuce and stood over there for over one hour so the dog would not take it. Tim came over and asked if I felt all right.I wonder why? He must be stressed at work, I’ll try to be supportive.
Friday: Today I found an easy recipe for cookies. It said, “put all ingredients in a bowl and beat it.” Beat it I did,to my mum’s place. There must have been something wrong with the recipe, because when I came back home again, it looked the same as when I left it.
Friendship is one of the many blessings God has given each one of us. I am so grateful for the lasting friendships I have cultivated through the years. As women, we know that truefriendship is a sacred commodity. This is a relationship that is to be cherished and revered for a lifetime. We’ve experienced friendships that have come and gone because of misunderstandings,differences in lifestyles, spiritual or personal growth. For whatever reasons, they have left a permanent mark on our hearts of what true friendship really is.
I say this with great humbleness: as a child I was very shy and reserved. During my early years, I longed for friends. I wanted people to accept and like me. Even in high school, I felt like an outcast because I wasn’t chosen to be in what I thought was the “In” group.
Consequently,this had a negative affect on my self-esteem. I placed little value on myself.Myself-worth was overshadowed by the quantity of relationships versus the quality of true friendships. As I matured, I learned to filter through those relationships that weren’t holding me up in the best light. Sometimes that meant I had to light the path on my own.
Self Acceptance our elite, and not so elite,society would have you believe that it is about who you know or who you are connected to. There is nothing wrong with having well-known friends or being in the circle of connected people. However, it becomes a problem when yourself-worth is based on whom you know.
Be you -love you! Wherever you think you aren’t in life yet, should never be an indication of where you are headed. Accept your shortcomings, mistakes; accept that some people won’t like you and some you don’t need to be connected to anyway. You can receive all the accolades you can stand, but until you can accept and love yourself, they are only a clanging cymbal.
The Key is Quality Not Quantity. Networking is one of the hottest concepts in building relationships in the professional and entrepreneurial world. We are taught to meet and connect with as many individuals as we can. Whether it is to find a new career/job, build your business or build future relationships down the road.
Isn’t it funny how sometimes we enter into relationships the same way? We get sucked into a lot of drama and no substance. Then we scratch our heads trying to figure out how we got ourselves into this situation. You will later realize that sometimes less is more. For me, a quality relationship whether it is personal/professional is one based on character, excellence, and standards I set for my own life. Not perfection, but one of value that adds to not distracts from.
There Is Joy In Being Your Own Best Friend. A true friend is someone who accepts you as you are, feels those fears and anxieties with you, and sees your limitations. A true friend will celebrate you, cry with you, and reason with you for your own good. I can truly say that I have a small, yet valuable set of friends who have helped me to be the best I can be. However, I am learning to be my own best friend too.
When I feel like I’m not where I need to be, I smile and remember where I came from. When I fear stepping out of my comfort zone, I feel the fear and say, “go for it girl”. And when I am confronted with my limitations, I tell myself to do what I can. A way will be made because God never fails. I find pure joy in laughing at my quirkiness, the silly things I say and do. When you become comfortable with yourself, you’ll realize you don’t need a crowd to feel good.
Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install LOVE. Can you guide me though the process?
Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?
Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready. What do I do first?
Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?
Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?
Tech Support: What programs are running?
Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge, and Resentment running right now.
Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from beingproperly installed. Can you turn those off?
Customer: I don’t know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?
Tech Support: With pleasure.Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness.Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.
Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is that normal?
Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.
Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, “Error - Program not run on external components.” What should I do?
Tech Support: Don’t worry. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, buthas not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.
Customer: So, what should I do?
Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive-Self Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.
Customer: Okay, done.
Tech Support: Now, copy them to the “My Heart” directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.
Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart.Is this normal?
Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time. So LOVE is installed and running. One more thing before we hang up. LOVE is Freeware. Be sure to give itand its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.
If you love someone, Set her free… If she comes back, she’s yours, If she doesn’t, she never was….
THE NEW VERSIONS ARE …..
Pessimist: If you love someone, Set her free … If she ever comes back, she’s yours, If she doesn’t, as expected, she never was
Optimist: If you love someone, Set her free … Don’t worry, she will come back.
Suspicious: If you love someone, Set her free … If she ever comes back, ask her why .
Impatient: If you love someone, Set her free … If she doesn’t come back within some time forget her.
Patient: If you love someone, Set her free .. If she doesn’t come back, continue to wait until she comes back …
Playful If you love someone, Set her free … If she comes back, and if you love her still, set her free again, repeat …
C++ Programmer: if(you-love(m_she)) m_she.free() if(m_she == NULL) m_she = new CShe;
Anima l-Rights Activist : If you love someone, Set her free, In fact, all living creatures deserve to be free!!
Lawyers: If you love someone, Set her free, Clause 1a of Paragraph 13a-1 in the Second Amendment of the Matrimonial Freedom
Biologist : If you love someone, Set her free, She’ll evolve.
Statisticians : If you love someone, Set her free, If she loves you, the probability of her coming back is high If she doesn’t, your relation was improbable anyway.
Schwarzenegger’s fans: If you love someone, Set her free, SHE’LL BE BACK!
Over possessive person : If you love someone don’t set her free.
MBA : If you love someone set her free instantaneously and look for others simultaneously
Psychologist : If you love someone set her free If she comes back her super ego is dominant If she doesn’t come back her id is supreme If she doesn’t go, she must be crazy .
Somnabulist (that’s a person who studies sleep) : If you love someone set her free If she comes back it’s a nightmare If she doesn’t, you must be dreaming.
ERP functional expert : If you love someone set her free If she comes back, map her into your system If she doesn’t, carry out a gap-fit analysis
Finance expert : If you love someone set her free If she comes back, its time to look for fresh loans If she doesn’t, write her off as an asset gone bad.
Marketing Specialist : If you love someone set her free If she comes back she has brand loyalty If she doesn’t, reposition the brand in new market
American President: If you love someone Set her free If she comes back she must be carrying weapons of mass destruction, so attack Iraq If she doesn’t, it’s the work of Osama so attack Afghanistan
So I guess there’s a point in life or perhaps a couple that make you stop and ponder things. It seems the older you get, the more you start to notice and fully comprehend that once you are born you also begin to die. Whether it is a morbid thought or not it is true. Whether we like it or not, it is still true, and unlike math two true’s don’t make a false, or is that backwards?
Doesn’t matter. Math doesn’t make sense. The point is its reflection time. Here’s food for thought: Did you know how many days there are in the average lifespan? 70 years= 25,550 days. 75 years = 27,375 days. 80 = 29,200 days. 90 = 32,850 days. I read that in an article some time ago and it really jumped out at me. I thought to myself, damn that isn’t very much. Especially considering I’ve lived 8700 of those already. So that is about a third of an average life span.
So the question is what now? How will you use your time? Time is the only thing that doesn’t offer you a second chance in life. Once it is gone, it is gone. Definitely puts things into perspective. It seems life is really short as they say. Although I’ve never agreed with that statement I can understand it.
Are you living life to the fullest? Are you taking advantage of all the opportunities that come your way? Are you aware that most opportunities usually disguise themselves as hard work? Have you realized that most things worth fighting for are always difficult? Have you done what you planned to do? Have you gotten what you wanted? Have you left something for the next generations? Have you left your mark? Have you met all the people and visited all the places?
There is the story of the boy who said “I’ve got places to go and people to meet”. That is what he did. So my friends, without much subtlety I say “don’t let time pass you by without getting the most out of it.” Take care of your health; take care of your relationships, whether with family, friends, strangers, God, loved ones and kids.
Take care of your work and invest time in becoming better and better and if possible even better, develop your talents, whether they are in art, music, sports, or any other aspect of life. And most of all instill a sense of love and gratitude for everything in your life. For in due time, unfortunately most things whither and die, but there are few that do remain. Those are entirely up to you!
Emotions cause you pain and they actually dictate behaviour to you.In other words when you are emotional you are no longer in control.For example, when you are excited you might think excitement is good.You cant actually think clearly.The emotion of excitement takes over and leads you to act.Its not always the best action that is born from excitement and you dont have any control.The same goes for anger.The emotion clouds your judgement and through this you act.You act without using your consciousness.The result is an outcome that is not always favourable and one that you have no control over.
