"Howzzaaaat!" shouted many voices together. Immediately 11 years old, Rohan's head turned towards the windows .his mind was already there. He shot a quick glance at the door to see if his mother was watching him. Thank God! Her friend had called up, so she was talking on the phone she was laughing and talking at the same time seeing an opportunity, he ran to the window, asked in a voice that could only be described as a loud whisper asked, "who's team winning?." one of the boys answered , "mine."
A sudden sound made him turn around. He saw his mother standing behind him. Without batting an eyelid, he told her that the ball had fallen into a flowerpot on their window sill, and he just threw it back. He didn't want to lie to his mother but was afraid of angering her. She told him to finish the math exercise first and then his homework, after that he could play . He wanted to tell that by then his friends will go home.
This often happened with him. Without really wanting to, he would lie to his parents. When his friends called up just to chat with him, he would say that they called up to clear doubts about studies. His parents felt immensely proud to hear that.
Rohan was the only child of an upwardly mobile, well to do middle class parents. He represented the statement they wanted to make to the world, the embodiment of all the things they had wanted but couldn't be. They genuinely believed that the plans they had chalked out for their son was the best for him. They wanted him to excel in everything.
With great pride they would relate his achievements to their friends and colleagues .1st in debate, 1st in essay writing, always 1st in class .they wanted their son to shine like a star.
His mother came into his room with a plateful of cut fruits and a glass of lassi. She ran her hand through his hair and told him to study well. She told him that he cannot afford to do poorly in studies . What will people say? After all he had to get a full scholarship for an Ivy League college in the
Soon Rohan started dreaming about what he would do when he got the "dream job"—- he would play cricket throughout the day, drink as many bottles of Pepsi as he wished, eat at McDonald's everyday, watch cartoons and sports channels as much as he wished and put all his school books away and read only the Harry Potter books .
The doorbell rang. He opened the door. It was his private tutor.
AAPKI VICHAR DHARA ME BHAKAR HAME AAPNE BACHPAN KE DINO KI YAAD AAGAI. I THINK U R COME IN ONE OF GREAT PERSON OF THE WORLD. BHAWAN KAREN AAP HAMESH KHUSH RAHE AUR ISITARAH ACHCHE POST LIKHTI RAHE.
the psyche of a child well penned….i am remembering my childhood days.
I wonder if every child is blue eyed child………..then who would do the lesser jobs….while we should strive for the best facilities for the child at the same time the child should not be thrust upon the decisions of the parents……….
Its not the child’’s dream actually, its parents dreams. The performance pressure actually ruins the natural talent of the kids. I firmly believe in this “I was born intelligent, but education ruined me!” Wel expressed and written…
i feel parents are fulfilling their dreams using their children and some wants to feel proud at the cost of children’’s psychology…cant do anything dear. i am a teacher by profession n v can c the cat race among them…
boi ! i am sory if i overreach …but i seriusly hate this….i mean the luving torture of parents ….( though even they never realise it ! ) ….i wish ..the world could stop materialising dreams and let the yung minds weave their way out thru their desires n potentials …! !muaahhh!! fr presentin such a striking topic
You have Rightly presented the ongoing problem here……but we can”t help it……unless they put effort in studies……things can not be well placed in life……..parents are thinking abt the future but what abt the undue pressure on kids to perform better all the time……….
True reflection of society today. In a never-ending struggle to ensure that the child is secured for later life, parents unwittingly exert pressure to the extent that there is no space to breathe. Kids should be allowed to do what they are meant to do, i.e. have fun, play and enjoy life without the resposibilities of adulthood BUT at the same time not neglect their studies. Everything should be done in moderation.
gr8 yaar, now a days its very common. there r so much of pressure from the parents that child hardly can do any thing but to fulfill their dreams, but they don”t realize that its childhood days(the most cherished one ) which u will never comes after getting a high paid job also.
very nice.
Howwwzaatt for a little kid - honestly it is pretty pathetic parents have to force force force - can people not let a little be a little kid - the other thing that irks me is when people talk - oh my kid is that my kid is that - c”mon if you are proud of your child keep it within you - guess some people have nothing better to talk about - Let Kids be Kids the perfect little angels they are. Very niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice - take care :)))))
Very sad… for the so called competition in life we robbing their childhood and are deprive their natural growth. May be in the short run they are becoming winners, but ultimately they defeated badlly in life. Very nice post.
There were so many similarities between Rohan and my Son’’s story. His half yearlies are going on and he faces the same situation when his friends play outside & he couldn”t.
I would not say its pressure but then the student of today needs to be better then average if he intends to get admission in any of the leading colleges. By the way my Son is in 6th only hence so such pressures currently.
Good article. Undue pressure sometimes makes situation bad to worse.
theres so much burden on innocent minds nw a days that a child is hardly able to njoy his childhood. nice post
I feel some parents are so possessive that they want from their children, what they have not achieved and in that process they forget, what their child wants to be………. Please read my script written recently and posted….GIRIDHAR - VIDYADHAR………
gr8 post. parents very often overlook the basic needs of children in their quest for so called PRESTIGE. a must read for all parents.
nice post, I was lucky enough not to face these things, my parents never pressurize me for studies or competitions, i lead a very cool life, lucky me…..
thats the very point i wanted to make…. its not that parents dont love their children, but ambition often blinds them to their children’’s emotional needs
Hi, Nice Post. But you know personally I hate such mind set that my child should study and study to be number one always. That child never enjoy their childhood.
I am the sufferer, I think this why I hate such situations.
Anyway nice post