First, here comes the theory. I read at more than one place that the reason for fear is the feeling of “separation”, the feeling that we are different from the object of fear, or the “Anyatva bhavana” to be precise. When the same reason is said by 3 to 4 different
“enlightened” souls, who have practically proved to have overcome fear, the theory, atleast to me, seems to hold some water. Though the kind of fear that they intend to conquer and the overcoming of “Anyatva bhavana” is at a more evolved level.
For me the removal of this “Anyatva bhavana” seems to hold key for more than the one malice of fear. Think of it, if it sinks into ur head that you are no different/separate entity from the object of fear/hatred/anger etc, the feeling disappears. There will be more tolerance and acceptance emerging in life.
This incident from Ramana Maharshi”s life comes to my mind. There was a theif in the Ashram one night. Oblivious to the fact that Ramana Maharshi was a simpleton unlike a few other swami”s who have luxurious ashrams, hefty bank balances and lot of valuables, the thief broke in to the ashram. Unable to find anything worth stealing, he wakes up Ramana Maharshi and asks him where he has put all the money/valuables etc. He gets a reply that there is nth worth stealing in the ashram, neither money nor valuables. The thief persists and on getting the same answer, looses his temper and slaps ramana maharshi. Immediately, there is commotion and all the disciples of Maharshi rush to beat the thief black n blue for manhandling their guru. Maharshi puts them off and lets the thief escape saying “Will you pull your teeth out because it bit your toungue?” (THAT, for me is the difference between the person who talks and the one who walks the talk. For every one of the latter we have hundreds of the former!)
Then, the other day, I was surrounded by more than a couple of street dogs (believe me, they were not looking very friendly:o)) while i was trying to get into our car 50 feet away, at 10PM! I was carrying my 1 n half yr old son and all the wrong reasons for which the blore street dogs occupied the headlines came rushing to my mind. I am always amazed at the minds ablity to dig up all such (ir)relevant data from eons ago in fraction of second,
while it takes hell lot of time to remember where i”ve put my bike keys just 5 mins ago !
The mind and it”s shenanigans however demand a separate blog! We make it to our car safely and once cozy behind the closed doors, the above theory about the reason for fear came to my mind.
I declared solemnly to my hubby “Where there is feeling of being separate, there is fear. Once you realize that you and the dog are the same, like two body parts of the same One being, the fear disappears.” It sounded ridiculous when told in the vicinity of “fear” and with my hubby jocularly threatening to throw me out of the car to demonstrate the theory to him, we pulled away from the parking!
However, though it did sound impractical to me and in that situation, I do not take the above incident as a disproof of the theory. It only says that i have not yet reached the stage where i can “live” the theory at phycial level. It is only at the highest level of evolution that one is not petrubed by physical harm. But what i and anyone for that matter can do is to use this theory as a filter at emotional level to counter the negetive feelings of superiority, inferiority, hatred, jealousy, anger etc. While you may lovingly hate your crooked/flat nose for spoiling ur otherwise beautiful features, you
dont hate it enough to smash it or cut it off…isnt it? ;o)
Musings:
As we discussed, we found this as one more of the chicken egg genre of problems, if there is feeling of oneness, the fear goes. And for the fear to go, we want to know for sure that there exists oneness! :-)) As vivekananda says about the paradox of God, “while eastern philosophy says one needs to believe in God to see him, the western rationalism wants to see him to believe him.”