WORK is the need to survive and also to encash the luxary of life. I understand the importance of work in our life and also in our society. And now when men and women are equal, they are doing the jobs together and complementing each other. Womens and mens are doing commendable job at home front and at the work front. Also the life is so demanding that one has to overcome all the competitions and has to come out victorious and moreover the peer pressure is increasing day by day. If we talk only about women working population then yes, they are in all the fields and proving their superiority.
Nowdays womens are no longer captured behind the four walls of the house, rather they are showing the world to their kids. A new trend that I am noticing nowdays that wherever womens are going whether it is a get together, a birthday party, a wedding reception or meeting a stranger they have been asked a similar question ” Are you working”? if the answer comes YES then the position of the lady really gets stronger and if the answer is NO then ……………….. just a emotion less OK comes out.
I am not working but still I am working 24/7. I am on my toes since morning till night. But officially I am NOT WORKING. The scenario has really changed as the society has changed its outlook towards women , for good, for sure. Now the society wants to hear that girls, the womens are working and doing something good to earn for themselves and for the family. But still I think the view of society is still the same when it comes to HOUSEWIVES. I dont understand why housewives are always considered to be the person without work? The only difference that I can understand is they are working without salaries and they are in a NO THANKS JOB. ‘ such a small thing, i could have done it’, still you have not done this’ no work just boring saas bahu serials’, kaam hi kya hota hai ghar par’………… well these are the incentives that usually been given to a housewife, without realising that this really hurts!
I gave up my job, my career for my child, not on a compulsion but by choice and now after three years of my post as a housewife, i have learned that this is a real thankless job. when you are among people and the question comes ARE YOU WORKING? then ofcourse NO is the answer, but then then i really want to explain that i am working though i am not……………….!
Well thats the fate of being just a housewife.
My child has started his school and now I am desperate to strart my career afresh, and want to come out of the four walls. I am confident that I will because I can.
A change should be there the way we consider the status of a housewife. If they will stop working , I wonder how others will continue………………
(nitu)
All the best for fresh start coz I like u should follow your heart rather than worrying on what other think on that….
giving up your job for your childs career .. i would say that its just so great … and if you decided to move on again jus follow your heart best of lucks ….. logon ka kya hai .. woh to kehte hi rehte hain ….
You are rt Nitudi,women are blessed with the unique capability of striking a balance between her profession and personal life.
We all tend to think that what fetches us money is work. But that is not true. Work is priceless. Take a example of raising kids and family, no money can do it right but your own time and dedicated work.
Nice post.
I do agree with Aameenji . i was both a house wife till my son was in class II and now working since 10 yrs. Both the jobs are challenging. at the end of the day i feel its all about u and ur child and yr continuous communication with the child. .. so all the best dear
Hello…….nitu ji….. i read your article, and i dont agree with you… This is what you think…. but the reality is different, those who are at home, are doing much more than what those who work outside….. I am not against the working woman and favouring house-wives, but to grow up a kid and look after the house, is also not a small job, its more responsible, then working outside….. For three years you were at home and took care of your child, you would have known how difficult it is….. So dont think that being a house-wife, you are inferrior than other working ladies. Ok, now since you are free from that responsibilities, you can go for work………….. but just keep in mind, to look after kid and manage the house also needs management skill, financial skill and HRM too.
A ”Housewife’’s role is the toughest.To complement a ”working woman” tag alongwith the all-important one of being the lady of the household is doubly compounded,to say the least.Do go all out to re-enter the sphere of a ”career-woman” if you please but unless there be some domestic compulsion,won”t it be nice to sit back and enjoy the freedom of ”free time” and ”bright ideas” at home as a ”continuing ,working,housewife” mam?whichever way,do only that which please you .
In the second comment referring to matrimony, the reverse about boy side and girl sides is also true. Means there is a general suspicion about children where mother has been a working woman…
Take the time of matrimony: when the boy side comes to know that girl’’s mother has been a working woman, a little doubts comes in the mind. It is generally accepted that working women would have some problems in family, or children lesser taken care of; though better educated, but with lesser values. Now this is another bias, if we take it to extremes, and one day I am sure some working woman will write an equally convincing post - why working women are actually doing a thankless job! Right? Working even in office and then also at home, and yet getting accused at both places of not giving enough time! So you should feel lucky in a way… I agree with what you conclude.. All the best! Regards, (Rahul)
Regarding the curious questions, also note who asks the question “do you work”. Most of the time while knowing each other, we tend to ask this question. Why? Because may be the woman is working in a related field or similar sector company to me, and hence I would get a connect and would get another topic to talk about, right? So it helps in ice breaking. Its not that people give an emotionless OK for home-makers, it is just a lost opportunity to talk more! I hope you would agree. As such I agree about the ”thank less” status of the job. But many other things in life are also ”thankless”. And why should we care if others give us thanks or not, after all it is OUR family that matters! And housewives make better families, we all know that.