Become A People Magnet
A smile puts you in a positive mood and it makes it easier for people to approach you. Would you feel more comfortable approaching someone who has no expression on their face or someone who is smiling? A smile commutates that you are a friendly individual. Making eye contact communicates you are approachable.
Take interest in others. Find out what they like, what their interests are, and how they spend their time.
Be easy to communicate with. Help others to speak by asking questions. One secret to being a good communicator is to ask open-ended questions, like “what inspires you?” and “what things do you like most about what you do?” or open-ended questions like “tell me about your trip to
Be a great listener. People respond positively to those people who listen to them. Listening communicates that you are interested in them. Do not interrupt! Let them know you are listening by looking at them rather than around the room, nodding occasionally, making short discrete sounds of agreement, and asking follow up questions.
Share good news. It is easy to find bad news: turn on your television at 6 pm or pick up a newspaper and within seconds you will find it. Be the person who has the good news and a positive out look.
Have a story. Silence is awkward, so have a few funny or interesting stories you can tell either immediately after an introduction or when there is an awkward silence.
Follow up with a note or telephone call. This is where listening is valuable. If you were listening you can refer to something that came up in conversation and connect it to something you experienced that day. If you come across something your friend said she likes send it to her with a note saying “I thought you would like this.”
Remember dates so that you can send birthday and anniversary cards. Make associations to help you remember these dates. For example, a friend’s anniversary might be the day after your daughter’s birthday. You will have an easier time remembering that way.
Have you ever been in a restaurant or at the checkout at a store and have some angry person unjustly insult or threaten the employee? I have and if the situation demands it I’ll step in and defend the employee either by direct confrontation with the “bully” or by waiting until the bully has gone and then say something like “That guy was wrong, you’re doing good…etc”
Of course when confronting a bully you mustn’t be rude; something like “She’s doing the best she can, lay off.”
Depending on your marital status and age this can be tricky but in general a well placed compliment will create an instant connection. “You remind me of ____” or “That was a great cup of copy” or “I really like the music you’re playing.
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