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Watch Now - Inspirational Video

Posted in just think on 09/30/2009 09:17 pm by Sensible Woman



Hello my friends,

How are you doing? How was your day?

I would like to share an interesting video with you all. Hope you enjoy especially guys who are carrying some extra luggage with them. This video is my brother’s (recently I found out) all-time-favorite video. Whenever I see him using our computer, he watches this video often. He says - this is really inspiring. No wonder he got up at 5 AM in the morning and did some workouts and fast running. The end result is amazing. He is going to gym these days regularly. Even his coach was astonished to see this transformation. I am the witness. : ) I am so happy for him. He was fat and now he is slim and very smart looking. I keep pulling his legs , “Hey John (my bro’s name) I could see one pack and what about 5 other packs?” And he told me to wait until this December 2009. So I am waiting patiently.

Stay fit and healthy always coz health is wealth.


Here’s the video…

Take care!!

Goody Night!!!

With love
Sensible Woman



 

Family Knots

Posted in just think on 07/21/2009 12:37 pm by Sensible Woman



Untangling Family Knots

by Ann Voskamp

“It’ll get better if you get closer.”

John’s mom laughs as she untangles five-year-old John and Malakai, two boys practicing for a three-legged-race at a community gathering. But our Malakai is close to tears as I unknot him from a snarl of arms and legs and feet. “Really, if you’ll get closer, put your arms around each other, you’ll find it gets easier.”

John’s mom takes an arm and wraps it around a shoulder and I find one too and direct it around a neck, and the boys shyly giggle and step out again. “One-two! One-two! One-two!”

John’s mom chants, and I cheer, and the boys stride off in rhythm, arms flung over shoulders. And the boys turn faces to each other, happy eyes shining, and belly-laugh. Us mamas can’t help but laugh too. They’re maneuvering life’s tangle!

For isn’t family life a bit of a three-legged race? Days tie us together, and schedules trip us up, and everything snarls. We stumble and fall and it hurts. “It’ll get better if we get closer. ” Because relationship - love is the most transformative force in the universe. It’s what God wants with us: intimate relationship. Get closer. And it will get better.

Too often, I buy the lie, the one the serpent hisses.

  • Speak harsher and it will get better. (More tasks will get accomplished.)
  • Push harder and it will get better. (More places can get crammed into the hours.)
  • Bluster longer and it will get better. (More life squeezed into life.)

But don’t I know it? “A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city …” (Proverbs 18:19). The harshness, the blustering, the pushing, offends and we trip. Knees and elbows smash and we bruise. It gets harder to get up.

A flurry of accomplishments will not get us happily across life’s finish line. Tasks aren’t the purpose or the priority. If to-do lists are what compel us, inevitably, we’ll stumble. Because that’s not the essence of family life. The essence of family life is the care of souls.

When we tenderly draw near, collect hearts, wrap each other in arms and love, we hit our stride. The three-legged race (or five legged or seven legged or ten legged race) becomes a happy delight. We get closer. And it gets better.

What I’m learning as we step (sometimes fumble) through the three-legged race of family life, these ways of getting closer genuinely make it better:

  • Reach out and gently touch when you talk; make it a practice to always connect before your direct.
  • Fully listen to conversations with your ears, eyes, whole body language. Smile into eyes.

Relationship is ….. all there is.

  • Make time for walks, a mug of hot chocolate, a chapter of a book read aloud together. There’s no better way to spend time than making time.
  • Fill your words with the affection you feel. Children don’t assume they’re loved when our words aren’t loving.
  • Tuck in with long talks in the dark, a foot rub, prayers. It’s the happiest way to finish a day.
  • Slow down : the priority is hearts not household tasks. Take a deep breath and preach to yourself often: “I want to be, more than I want to do.”

Relationship is not just the priority. It’s all there is. Our family relationships are hallowed. Aren’t they forever? (And, yes, true, clean floors and schedules aren’t.)

The three-legged boys practice intently and when the race begins, I’m at the other end, arms wide open, ready for Malakai and John as they step, tumble, laugh across the finish line. And when they fall into me and I wrap them up, this happiness feels good. We’re closer and it couldn’t be better.

Lord, cause me to draw near today to You, to others. Relationship is all there is!


 

Humble Yourself

Posted in just think on 06/15/2009 08:26 pm by Sensible Woman



An Unspoken Bible

His name is Bill. He has wild hair, wears a T-shirt with holes in it, jeans and no shoes. This was literally is wardrobe for his entire four years of college. He is brilliant. Kind of esoteric and very, very bright. He became a Christian recently while attending college.

Across the street from the campus is a well-dressed, very conservative church. One day Bill decides to go there. He walks in with no shoes, jeans, his T-shirt, and wild hair. The service has already started and So Bill starts down the aisle looking for a seat.

The church is completely packed and he can’t find a seat. By now people are really looking a bit uncomfortable, but no one says anything. Bill gets closer and closer and closer to the pulpit and, when he realizes there are no seats, he just squats down right on the carpet. (Although perfectly acceptable behavior at a college fellowship, trust me, this had never happened in this church before!

By now the people are really uptight, and the tension in the air is thick. About this time, the minister realizes that from way at the back of the church, an Elder is slowly making his way toward Bill. Now the Elder is in his eighties, has silver-gray hair, and a three-piece suit. A godly man, very elegant, very dignified, very courtly. He walks with a cane and, as he starts walking toward this boy, everyone is saying To themselves that you can’t blame him for what he’s going to do.

How can you expect a man of his age and of his background to understand some college kid on the floor? It takes a long time for the man to reach the boy. The church is utterly silent except for the clicking of the man’s cane.

All eyes are focused on him. You can’t even hear anyone breathing. The minister can’t even preach the sermon until the Elder does what he has to do. And now they see this elderly man drop his cane on the floor. With great difficulty he lowers himself and sits down next to Bill and worships with him so he won’t be alone.

Everyone chokes up with emotion. When the minister gains control, he says, “What I’m about to preach, you will never remember. What you have just seen, you will never forget. Be careful how you live. You may be the only Bible some people will ever read.”


 

No More Recession!

Posted in just think on 06/10/2009 08:54 pm by Sensible Woman


Warren Buffet’s Advice for 2009


We begin this New Year with dampened enthusiasm and dented optimism. Our happiness is diluted and our peace is threatened by the financial illness that has infected our families,organizations and nations. Everyone is desperate to find a remedy that will cure their financial illness and help them recover their financial health. They expect the financial experts to provide them with remedies, forgetting the fact that it is these experts who created this financial mess.

Every new year, I adopt a couple of old maxims as my beacons to guide my future. This self-prescribed therapy has ensured that with each passing year, I grow wiser and not older.

This year, I invite you to tap into the financial wisdom of our elders along with me, and become financially wiser.

Hard work : All hard work bring a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.

Laziness : A sleeping lobster is carried away by the water current.

Earnings : Never depend on a single source of income. (At least make your Investments get you second earning)

Spending : If you buy things you don’t need, you'll soon sell things you need.

Savings : Don't save what is left after spending; Spend what is left after saving.

Borrowings : The borrower becomes the lender’s slave.

Accounting : It's no use carrying an umbrella, if your shoes are leaking.

Auditing : Beware of little expenses; A small leak can sink a large ship.

Risk-taking : Never test the depth of the river with both feet.

(Have an alternate plan ready )

Investment : Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

I'm certain that those who have already been practicing these principles remain financially healthy. I’m equally confident that those who resolve to start practicing these principles
will quickly regain their financial health.

Let us become wiser and lead a happy, healthy, prosperous and peaceful life.


 

Character

Posted in just think on 04/07/2009 11:57 am by Sensible Woman


If I take care of my character, my reputation will take care of itself.

 

DARK IS BEAUTIFUL

Posted in just think on 04/02/2009 11:46 am by Sensible Woman


I was moved by this article, being a dark girl, I had hard times in my life too. I remember the times when people had those looks in their eyes. I remember the times when some guys made fun of me in the bus stop. Those days were really tough. In many cases, I do feel dark girls are rejected by the society though they are very talented. This attitude of our society should change!

I have a dream - I would like to see one dark girl reading the news in Indian News Channel. I have seen one girl in BBC News Channel though. Have you seen one in our country? If so, please do let me know.

I do have another dream - Matrimonial column should read - “Looking for a dark girl“.

Is that possible? Well, If you have seen anything like that, please do let me know. I haven”t come across any advertisement till date.

I am waiting for that day!

This article is dedicated to all the dark and wonderful people in the world. I get angry when people make fun of dark-skinned people and make them feel inferior. God has given us so many things and the colour of our skin is such a superficial thing if you really think about it.

Dark-skinned people generally have a low self-esteem and the advertisements for fairness creams on television just add fuel to the fire. A dusky girl cannot get a decent job and can make a guy fall in love with her only by using the fairness cream and becoming 'six shades fairer.' That is incredibly demeaning. Okay, so the guy is besotted and marries the 'now fair' girl and if she gets tanned on her honeymoon is he going to desert her? A man who judges a woman by her skin colour is so not worth it.

What is fair?

The matrimonial advertisements claim 'Wanted fair and good-looking' girl. As if these pre requisites decide the compatibility with the groom and their happiness as a couple. It is time people realize that fair is not necessarily lovely and ban fairness creams from the market. Look at the dark-skinned people who have made a mark like Nelson Mandela, Dhirubai Ambani, Oprah Winfrey, Michael Jordan, Bipasha Basu and President Barack Obama. So next time someone puts you or a dark friend down, look them in the eye and tell them to back off. Because real beauty lies deep within.

VAISHNAVI CHANDRAMOHAN, Sri Ramachandra University


Dark is beautiful, Do you agree with me? : )


 

Enjoy Today

Posted in just think on 03/24/2009 08:27 pm by Sensible Woman




 

Formidable Disease

Posted in just think on 03/19/2009 07:37 pm by Sensible Woman


As I was walking on the road, I felt like eating chocos. The bakery caught my eyes at the right time, so I bought vegetable puffs, apple cakes and chocos. I reached home safely and tasted my favorite chocos.Then I comfortably sat on our sofa and flipping idiotic box - that’s right TV channels. HBO impressed me because I saw Tom Cruise and a charming actress casting in the movie “Sweet November”. Something really struck my heart. In that movie, Sara had cancer and she was living her life to the fullest. Those things certainly did make a huge impact in Nelson’s life (Tom Cruise). Is that how people who are affected by cancer live their lives?
Answer is a Big No - not all to my knowledge. Few - Yes.
My colleague’s dad is a cancer patient. He is in a critical condition and doctors asked him to take his dad home. All I could hear him say - he has a oral cancer, my mom is crying day and night. He added, “My dad has done many good deeds in life, I have seen it and that’s why he is still alive”. He conceals all his emotions. But this guy never forget to send thoughtful and beautiful mails across to his friends. Still I don’t have any words for him to console. Whenever I see him, he says a big Hi to me. Frankly speaking, I feel so bad on the inside of my heart.
Today morning when I was getting ready for my work, I saw Times of India paper lying on the floor. I picked it up. Shilpa Shetty & Jade’s picture drew my attention. The news goes like this - Jade is in the hospital in critical position and Shilpa Shetty went to London to see her. She could’nt meet her.

Whenever I get bored with my work, Google is my stress buster. Are you
surprised to hear that from me? Let me tell you how..
I usually key in some useful keywords in the search box and try to do some research or study. While I was doing that today, I eventually landed up to something which I haven’t seen in my life. Are you really anxious to know?

At times I play with the dog which comes in the word doc, I’ll select the dog and right click on it, then choose animate to see its’ funny actions.

Again Cancer News.

I am really surprised, why am I talking about this formidable disease? Do you think whether I have keyed in cancer in the search box? Not at all. Then how did I get in there?

I searched for poems, quotes, short stories, humour and women. Can you believe it? But I ended up visiting cancer site.

There is a site for cancer patients in UK. There are nearly 1000 people who have registered to share their emotions, seeking some guidance and so on…

One of today’s blog reads -

I have melanoma, and I’m not very happy about it! I’m only twenty one…I feel too young to have cancer. I’m waiting for the results of my sentinel node biopsy, got about two weeks to wait still, but I can’t stop thinking, ‘What if they’re positive? And I have, in all likelihood, less than 5 years to live? What would I do with my time left?!’ And these seem like absurd questions for someone my age to be thinking about! I don’t know what I will do. Maybe I will travel…maybe I will continue as normal. I don’t know. I just want these results so I can decide what to do with my life, ir the rest of it at least, however little time I may have left!

Fear - Another Blog

Hi, have just signed up. One of the things I find difficult is coping with all the emotions that have come with the bc. Anxiety has been awful at times and I started having panic attacks. It’s a bit better now I have had surgery (20th January) and have started chemo (5th March). But I’ve had quite a run of side effects this last week and when I feel really weak I just sit and cry. At the same time, chemo hasn’t been as difficult to cope with as I had been expecting. I try to live a day at a time, then wonder in my low moments if that’s naive. I never thought I’d get cancer. It was a bolt out of the blue at a time when I was already unwell. Will I ever feel back to normal? What should my expectations be? I have felt alone in some respects although family,
friends and staff have been tremendous. It doesn’t take away the fear.

I am glad in one way that those people are able to seek help from one another by sharing their feelings. They are able to comprehend very well as they all suffer from that disease. Still, very few are making the most of their lives.

My call for today - Look at that community, what is striking is that they are real people going through so much in their lives. We might say in our hearts that we don’t belong to that community at all. So are we trying to say some curse on them, bad people and ….?
Can anyone give an answer why some people go through this? Who send this disease - God or World’s friend - Devil?


Before we break our heads to find the answers, all I want to convey is that we need to learn what life is all about from them.

If you get an insight from this, I firmly believe you will see a different “I” in your eyes.

Let’s sprinke some smiles to the people around us.
Let’s not complain and live in the past memories.
Let’s make those changes in our thinking today and
Be happy every single moment if not atleast every single day!

Thank you very much for your patience in reading this little lengthy blog! Hope you started to think about your life. I am happy for you my friend.

 

Judge Me By The Footprints I Leave Behind

Posted in just think on 02/16/2009 11:49 am by Sensible Woman



I read this article today. It’s really worth stopping by and spend just five minutes of your precious time to read this story….

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought
in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. “Mom and Dad, I’m coming home, but I’ve got a favor to ask. I have a friend I’d like to bring with me.”


“Sure,” they replied, “we’d love to meet him.”
“There’s something you should know,” the son continued.

“He was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mine and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us.”


“I’m sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live.”
“No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us.”
“Son,” said the father, “you don’t know what you’re asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can’t let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He’ll find a way to live on his own.” At that point, the son hung up the phone.


The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn’t know, their son had only one arm and one leg.

The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don’t like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren’t as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are.

Thankfully, there’s someone who won’t treat us that way. Someone who loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the forever family, regardless of how messed up we are. Tonight, before you tuck yourself in for the night, say a little prayer that God will give you the strength you need to accept people as they are, and to help us all be more understanding of those who are different from us!!!

There’s a miracle called Friendship that dwells in the heart. You don’t know how it happens or when it gets started. But you know the special lift. It always brings and you realize that Friendship Is God’s most precious gift! Friends are very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, they correct us when we go wrong and they always want to open their hearts to us. Show your friends today how much you care.