Archive for September, 2009

Compassion through Meditation

I start my day with meditation.  Its one of the billion ways to start your day.  Sit in a padmasana and start breathing deeply.  Now move a step further, close your eyes and think of a beautiful picture, count from 100 to 1, or another way is to hum the word "Om!!!."  This has a magical effect.  After some time, you will feel so fresh. 

 

The world will be a better place if we show kindness to each other.  Kindness is the quality of understanding another person and feeling his pulse and doing things accordingly.  The King of Pop Michael Jackson had already said in his song "Heal the world, make it a better place, for you and for me and the entire human race ."  Now the million dollar question is: "How to develop compassion?"  It will start from none other than YOU.  Your love for your neighbor, parents and friends and helping them in times of need will spread just like a contagious disease.  We all know smile is contagious.  So is compassion.  It spreads from one level to another and then again into another person.  It's a wave just like a sea striking the shore again and again ceaselessly.

 

A report in New Scientist states that people's capacity of compassion is being studied by psychologist and neuroscientists.  Meditation increases the compassionate feelings.  It helps improve physical and emotional health. The acts of doing good, known as altruism, is spread through social networks.  I am presently reading the reputed Bengali author, Shankar's book "Aami Vivekananda Bolchi."  It's a wonderful book where the extracts are collected by the brilliant author and compiled into a book, which throws light on how compassionate was our pride of Bengal, Swami Vivekananda.  Swami Vivekananda used to practice yoga and meditation religiously and the biggest example of this scientific study is his act of helping people.  He used to give openmindedly and as you go through his life in this wonderful book, you will understand a little bit of meditation everyday can transform into a different person.  You inculcate your powers that are hidden deep inside you.  You bring forth the power with the art of meditation.  Life is full of distractions.  So its high time you concentrate and "Be Yourself."  This slogan of "Be Yourself" from the popular product of women, Elle 18 is really wonderful and your practice of meditation can help develop the multi-million dollar quality of compassion, which can bring peace in this world.  Millions of dollars spent in war between countries will be saved.  Many bloodsheds can be stopped if you have kindness in your heart.  If you can help a needy person on the roadside, you should feel that you have done something more than mere worshipping your household deity.  You have helped a soul in need.  A friend in need is a friend indeed. 

 

The study was done at Harvard Medical School in Boston.  They chalked out a cooperation game.  Scientist Nicholas Christakis devised this game.  He organized 120 students and he made groups of four.  They were asked to give money to their group.  The game lasted five rounds and after each round the students were reorganized so that no two appeared in the same group.  The researchers told the participants at the end of each round how much the others in their group had given.  Generosity was found to be infectious.  If one person gave a dollar more, then the other person gave 20% more to the other group, taking into account that there is a predicted group average. 

 

Finally, I would like to express generosity in a poetic way:

 

A city without generosity

Without water

Need water to survive

Need YOU by my side

In times of need

YOU are my friend indeed

YOU give my shelter in stormy day

I show you my kind heart

I am not going to flirt

True kindness comes from a broad mind

A mind without congestion of bad thoughts

A mind without impurity

A mind that bows down to helpless

Like Mother Teresa

Mother of all Poor and Orphan

With Millions of fan

Meditating for God's children

Praying for the poor

It's a good act to be sure

With a mind so pure

I feel like Mother's Blessing is always with You

Bowing down in front of Almighty

Doesn't make you less mighty!

You are the King of All Soul

You wipe the tears of the Sick and Poor

Make the world a better place to live!

God's blessing is always with you!

Never argue about the existence of God!

Its there in all good soul!

Worship Man?the Messenger of God

With right prayers, you feel the presence of your favorite friend

A beloved friend is a compassionate friend!

Compassion heals the injured soul!

Compassion is like infection

Compassion gives you mental elevation

You become free of tension

You become cool and calm

You see a sea of possibilities

You help the person drowning in sea

You become an example

You become an ideal neighbor

A great, great Samaritan!

 

 

 

Real Life Tom and Jerry Show

On August 5, 2009, a Tom and Jerry show occurred in front of me.  It's an urge to get out as I chased the mouse that entered the bathroom.  It quickly slipped into the hole.  My mother warned me not to go to the ground floor room but as I wanted to write blogs in my computer, I went there and switched on the light.  Then I closed hole that drains water out of the room.  Suddenly I found a mouse moving around in the attached bathroom.  I wanted to open the hole so that it can pass out but it pushed the rag to the side and passed out swiftly.  While moving out of the hole, it said, "Cheekkkk!!"  I think it meant "Hurray!  I am free!"  It went to the outside dark corridor where he will join his friends and tell the story how a boy chased him. 

 

In the Cartoon Network, the Tom and Jerry is a very popular cartoon.  The cartoon is popular as it is full of action with its story full of twists.  The mouse always trying to get free from the cat called "Tom."  The Jerry, the cute little mouse living in a hole of the house where the cat is kept as a pet.  The Americans love cats and love to keep them as pet. 

 

The mouse's escape from my hand has got a higher level of meaning.  We have heard of the popular saying "When the cats are away, the mouse play."  Here there is no one and usually they love damp, desolate  and dark places.  Our ground floor room is cool, dark and desolate.  We, most of the times, live on the first floor.  Here the cat symbolizes the family member living in the house and the mouse is the animal in real life.

 

Tom and Jerry show happens frequently in real life.  The fight between the America and Osama Bin Laden has become a Tom and Jerry Show.  The cat being the American Army and the mouse is the cunning Osama Bin Laden who always finds a way out of the grip of the American campaigning in Iraq and Afghanistan.    

 

Political Parties Create A Bad Impression of Kolkata

While writing on this topic, I could not think of a better heading than a sentence like this.  Being a BPO (back office) worker for more than three years, I feel if the Kolkata's bandh is less than it happens in a year, then the good companies will come and start their set up here.  Not only BPO, but many companies think twice before thinking of West Bengal where strikes has become a part of life.  Immobilization cannot go on and should not be taken as a weapon of protest.  It affects the image of West Bengal.

 

Our ex-Prime Minister, Jawaharlal Nehru described Calcutta as a "city of processions."  Even half a century later, the image is the same.  The Bengali politicians feel happy to stop things.  The rivals of the Marxists are following the same way as the CPM do.  The hardships the rally of the opposition party caused is really irritating.  In Metro railways, the compartments are crowded more than usual even at the first metro of 7 a.m.  Most of the villagers are using metro to reach their spot on time and the stench is unbearable.  The metro railways has become a local train.  Our present railway minister will never increase the metro railway fares to make it a decent mode of transport.  The populist measures of increasing three stations from August will be comfortable for many people and the crowd will increase making it even more comfortable.

 

The recently held procession of the Trinamul chief caused a lot of discomfort.  She wants a change in the state.  She wants to change everything that is Marxist in the state.  Probably she will succeed in capturing the Writers Building in the assembly elections of 2011.  Her introduction of the exclusive ladies train, three stations of metro railways and other programs will help win hearts of many those who had voted against her.  She forced Calcutta and stopped everything in order to promise all those changes.  I think here is a contradiction.  Many promises have been made and broken by the political leaders.  Very few political leader can keep his words after the election.  I remember the famous quotation worth saying here, "Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely." 

 

Stunning Story of Stonehenge

The scientists are trying to figure out when the rocks were first erected on the stonehenge.  The stonehenge are structures found in Southern England and they are found in various patterns in circles and its amazing how these massive blocks were stones were erected at the ancient times.  They are found in Salisbury Plain, 80 miles southwest of London.  It consists of giant sandstone blocks and normal blue stones.  The blue stones are volcanic rocks with a bluish tint and white flecks. 

 

Techniques for the study:  Radiocarbon dating and analysis of soil pollen and sea shells for finding when the stones were set up. 

 

Researchers involved:  Tim Darvill, archeology professor at Bournemouth University and Geoff Wainwright, President of the Society of Antiquaries.

 

Historical importance of Stonehenge:  World Heritage Site since 1964.

 

The duration of the Research: 2 weeks.

 

Mr. Wainwright thinks the time when the Stonehenge was built could be found by studying the bluestones situated at 250 km away from the Presili Hills in North Pembrokeshire.  The research suggests that the bluestones were thought to have magical powers!!  The stones standing for more than 5000 years ago are marked by burial mounds.  The archeologists are digging a trench on one of the stone pillars sockets and taking samples and dating them.  The legend tells us that wizard Merlin built these magnificient structures.  They are meant for sacrifices for the sun worship.     

 

My Memorable Journey to Rajgir 'The Land of Buddha and Mahavira

Rajgir is the beautiful land of mountains, Buddha temples and many historical spots.  It is situated in Bihar.  The word "Bihar" means travel.  There are many Buddhist temples and ashramas.  Rajgir was previously known as Rajgriha.  Many folklore and history is associated with Rajgir's Nalanda.  Emperor Jarasandha's life history, the "malla yuddha," a war directed by Sri Krishna between Bhim and Jarasandha, Bindusar, Mahamati  Ashoka's ruins are worth seeing.  The prince of the Shakya Kingdom transformed from Sidharta to Lord Buddha.  This transformation happened in the Gandhakut mountains of Rajgir.  Mahavir, the 24th Tirthankar made the first religious gathering in the mountains of Rajgir.  Mukhdam Bada is another great personality whose activities in Rajgir are worth remembering.  The Kushana architecture is seen in Nalanda where a very reputed university was set up.  I will never throw away the shoe in which I travelled to the world most renowned ancient university, the Nalanda.  While travelling the ruins, my feet was aching but one could imagine the pain took by the archeologists digging out the whole university campus.  Our highly respected ex-President, A.P. J. Abdul Kalam directed the reconstruction of the Nalanda University and we should all be very thankful for this great personality who has made mark not only among the fields of science but also among the young generations by writing motivating books like "Ignited Minds," "India 2020" etc.

 

For a long time, I was planning to go to Rajgir.  I and my father were planning to go together.  But the timings of our leave never met as I work in a medical transcription company where there is hardly any holiday on national holidays and the festivals enjoyed by the Bengalis.  So I went to Rajgir alone.  I started my journey on July 3, 2009 and reached there on July 4.  I stayed for two nights of July 4 and 5, 2009.  The name of the train was Janta Express.  It had been booked my tour operator, Max Tours and Travels.

 

I did my booking of hotel at Max Tours and Travels (198 Vivekananda Road, Kolkata-700 006, Phone:   (033) 2354-1436, 9830505421).  This tour operator helped me get a hotel in Rajgir named "Rajlaxmi."  I stayed there for two nights.  I stayed there on the nights of July 4 and 5.  My tour operator told me that the check in time there is 12 but when I reached there, I found that it was 9 a.m.  The charge of the room was Rs. 400 plus 10% tax, so it was Rs. 440.  On the July 6, I stayed in another lodge, which was in the ground floor.  It took Rs. 150.  Its name is Hotel Sarada Group.  The room at Rajlakshmi was painted in light green with color television, dressing table, double bed, attached bathroom with showers.  There are windows on the Eastern and Western side of the room.  From the windows of the eastern side, one could see the rising sun over the mountains.  On the western side of the window, one could see a broad corridor.  The floor of the room was tiled.  There was another window overlooking the road.  The road in front of the lodge was a little bit dirty as the local municipality was digging up the road to repair the telephone cables.  For this reason, when I tried to contact Rajlakhsmi from Kolkata but failed to connect as the repair of telephone cables are going on and the Max Tours did not give me any mobile number of Bablu Koley, the proprietor of Hotel Sarada Group.  The manager of this lodge was an old, potbellied man with spectacles, soft spoken but very efficient.  Hotel Rajlakhsmi is opposite Ramkrishna Math.  This hotel is located in Rajgir and Nalanda being the district and the state is Bihar.  The pin code is 803116.  The mobile number of the owner of the group of hotels that includes Rajlaxmi, Mahalaxmi (at Rajgir bus stand) is 9431487646.  If I had got this number, I could have got the information that there are only State Bank of India ATM but no Axis bank ATM.  But I had the Axis ATM card in my wallet and only Rs. 1000, so I had to transfer Rs. 700 from Kolkata with the help of my father to the account of Mr. Bablu Koley for the final payment.  I stayed in Room No. 6 in this lodge.  The other rooms were also filled up.  There are provisions of three people staying in one room as I saw three pillows.

 

The Janta Express booked by my tour operator is absolutely a "bad choice."  Why?  Because the train moves smoothly till Bakhtiarpur.  Then the problem starts.  You have to wait for two hours as the Janta Express will go away leaving only one bogie on the line.  A local train called Danapur Express will come and take you to your destination called Rajgir.  I did not wait for hours while going to Rajgir and took a bus from Bakhtiarpur.  The bus took me there within two hours though there was a traffic jam.  It took Rs. 35 as its fair.  It was a small luxury bus.  On my return journey, I waited at Bakhtiarpur as I do not know an alternative route and my luck was so bad, it was so bad that I had to wait 11 hours!!! i.e. the train reached Bakhtiarpur within 2-1/2 hours.  The Danapur Local started from Rajgir at 4 p.m. sharp.  It reached Bakhtiarpur at 6:30 p.m.  The train finally left the Rajgir station in the morning of 7th July around 5:30 a.m.  Every time I travel by train, the return journey is a disaster.  The train comes late every time.  I don't know why this happens.  My return journey from Delhi, Madhupur, Ghatsila, etc. all were extremely boring return journeys.  On my return from Ghatsila, I faced a rain along with heavy storm on the platform and that was a horrible experience!

 

On July 3, I took Janta Express from Howrah Station.  I left home at 7 p.m.  I took a taxi and my father accompanied me to the station.  I reached the old Howrah station.  I went to the old platform at 7:30 after buying a platform ticket.  Most of the counters closed, one was open.  It seemed the railway authorities were so careless about the passengers.  The guards were there and numerous food stalls can be seen in the station.  Thousands of people are there, some sitting, some lying on the ground, some running to and fro.  I found that the station is a place where people come and go like the blood circulation in the human body.  There are big charts.  The voice of the announcers are not like the Radio Jockeys.  The voices reflect are poor speech training and the microphone is of low quality.  It's a wonder how the railways run its business in spite of thousands traveling to and fro without tickets.  The reservation compartments are being regularly checked by the ticket collectors and the daily passengers are not caught but only some have the courtesy of buying a monthly ticket.  I saw the Janta Express waiting on the platform.  I checked the charts and took the train and went at the S1 compartment.  My seat number was 34.  The price of the ticket was 236.  But as I boarded the train, the compartment became filled with hawkers and daily passengers like a local train!  Oh, no, it was such an unpleasant experience!  There were businessman, a big fat old man with flowing white beard who had reserved seat from Howrah and there were other businessmen who were carrying big packs and they put the box on the top sleeper.  The reserved train has become a goods train without any money.  Think of the loss of the Indian railways!!!  After 9 p.m., the compartment became free and one could comfortably sit and have dinner.  I took my dinner, roti and curry that my mother prepared for me.  As time passed by, I took out a book "Ami Vivekananda Bolchi" written by Shankar, a reputed Bengali author.  I was reading the book and I read till 11 p.m.  Somebody in my compartment asked to switch off the light but another person pointed to me saying, "He is reading a book."  Then much later, the light was switched off only a dim blue light was there at regular intervals in the compartment.  The outside was pitch dark.  It was July.  So the sky was shrouded in clouds.  No rain.  A few days ago it was raining.  I did not bring an inflatable pillow with me as the travelers in a train usually carry.  I used the book of Swami Vivekanda as a pillow as I believed that in that way good thoughts of the great personality will enter my mind and I felt really nice passing the nice on a hard pillow.  The pillow was hard but the person, Swami Vivekananda and his lifetime notes in diaries have been collected by Shankar and as I was reading the book, I was having a great time.  The train stopped at many halts and in big stations.  Finally around 8 a.m. on the next day, the train stopped at Bakhtiarpur.  I found the passengers leaving and later found the compartment completely empty.  I felt what I should do and asked one person, he told me that the train will stay here for 2 hours and then Danapur local will take it to Rajgir.  I felt impatient and anxious.  I took a bus from Bakhtiarpur.  It took Rs. 35.  The bus was stopped at different stops and taking up passangers not only inside but also on the roof.  I saw other buses and it was quite common in Bihar to carry people like goats ready for sacrifice.  It often topples and on the way, I had the way for 45 minutes because of a road accident and one could see a long queue of buses and private cars waiting to get the green signal from the police who came for clearing the damaged vehicles with the help of a crane.  At a terminus, I got down from this bus and I was shown another bus that goes to Rajgir and the conductor gave him the fair.  So I was moving in this bus, and it is bigger than the previous one with a TV and the seats are comfortable.  I reached Rajgir and took a tonga, a cart driven by a horse.  The tonga moved towards the Hotel Rajlakshmi.  I reached Rajlakshmi around 11:30 a.m. and signed the log book.  The room number was 6.

 

The room at Hotel Rajlakhsmi was painted green with a double bed, fan, color television, windows on three sides and an attached bathroom.  An attendant used to serve me water in a light purple jug whenever I needed.  On reaching this lovely and beautiful room, from which one can see the mountains of Rajgir and see the road in front and the bazaar and the beautiful Ramkrishna Math in front, so overall the location of the hotel was very central and not far from the historical sites.  There were Japanese and Burmese temples nearby and just by calling a tonga in front of the tonga, the tourist will go straight to the historical sites.  The tongawallah (the horse cart driver) took Rs. 15 to reach this lodge.  I was watching the color television and some channels have been blocked as Conditional Access System is at work here in Rajgir.  I regularly watched the Bhojopuri channel called "Sangeet Bhojpuri."

 

I took bath.  I took lunch at 1 p.m.  I slept for a while in the soft bed.  I gave my Tata Indicom Cell phone some charge removing the TV plug for one hour.  I got myself ready for the trip from 3 p.m.  I wore a Punjabi and a trouser.  I took my Kodak digital camera.  On coming here, the manager gave me a conducted tour plan.  They are as follows:

 

PLACES OF INTEREST

1.  Kali Bari.

2.  Maa Anandamoyee Ashram.

3.  Digambar Jain Temple.

4.  Naulakha Temple.

5.  Ramkrishna Math.

6.  Burmese Buddhist Temple.

7.  Japanese Buddhist Temple.

8.  Mukdun Kundu.

9.  Benuban Park.

10.  Saptadhara Hot Spring.

11.  Benuban Bihar.

12.  Jaladebi Temple.

13.  Kailash Temple.

 

BY RICKSHAW OR TANGA:

1.  Ropeway.

2.  Ratnagiri Parbat and Shanti Stup.

3.  Maniyar Math.

4.  Sarno Bhandar.

5.  Bimbisar Bindisale.

6.  Veerayatan Museum.

7.  Benuban Japan Temple.

8.  Rathyer Chaka Daag.

9.  Jay Prakash Narayan Park.

10.  Grihadut Parbat.

11.  Deer Park.

 

CONDUCTED TOUR FOR TAXI OR BUS

1.  Nalanda University and Museum.

2.  Kundalpur Temple.

3.  Huen Tsang Memorial Hall.

4.  Pawapuri Jain Temple.

5.  Shambu saran.

6.  Gaya and Buddha Gaya.

7.  Kokolat falls.

 

**THE SPOTS I VISITED HAVE BEEN UNDERLINED ABOVE.

 

From this travel guide card, I also come to know Mr. Bablu Koley owns three hotels here at Rajgir and they are as follows:

1.  Maa Sarada ( near telephone exchange) (9431487646).

2.  Rajlaxmi (25505).

3.  Mahalaxmi (Bus Stand- 9334805608).

 

The Hotel Sarada Group can be booked from Kolkata at Bipin Bihari Ganguly Street and the address is 5 B. B. Ganguly Street, Kolkata 700 012.  (Phone:  32441309 (11 a.m. to 7 p.m., 9433752723).  The proprietor this Hotel Sarada Group could be contacted through his Rajgir mobile 09431487646, and his Kolkata Mobile number 9339899493.  This hotel was located near post office Rajgir, Nalanda district, Bihar 803116.

 

Now lets give you an overview of the historical attractions of the place.  They are as follows:

 

SAPTARSHI AND BRAHMAKUNDA:  It is at the base of the Baibhav Hills. It is a hot spring.  There waterfalls are named after seven saints.  The temperature of water of the underground spring is 45 degree centigrade.  The water of this spring can cure skin disease.  People within and outside India come to bath in this wonderful spring.  If one climbs the stairs of the mountain, he will get a Lord Shiva temple built by Jarasandha temple and a Jain temple.

 

SATPARNI CAVE:  Here Lord Buddha stayed for six months along with nine disciples.  Here the holy book called Tripitaka was composed.

 

FORT OF AJATASHATRU:  The son of Bimbisar created this fort around 500 B.C.  this fort is popularly known as Ajatashatru Garh.

 

JAIL OF BIMBISAR:  Ajatashatru put his father into prison and kept him here in this jail, which is located underground.  I could see a square shaped crater filled with water.  The guide told me that from this hole, there are stairs leading to the jail.  Here Bimbisar died.  In the Archeological Survey of India descriptive plate, it has been written this way:

"This structure has been identified with a jail of fifth century B.C. where King Bimbisara was kept in confinement by his son Ajatashatru.  It consists of 2 meter thick stone wall, each arm measuring about 60 meters with circular bastions at corners.  During excavation an iron manacle was found from a cell, which also supports its identification with a jail."

 

AMRAKANAN OF JIBAK:  Jibak was the physician of the kings of Magadh.  Jibak's hospital was in this Amrakanan.  The Archeological Survey of India called this site as "Jivaka Amaravana Vihara."  To describe in a few words, "Jibaka was a renowned physician in the royal court of Bimbisara and Ajatshatru during 6th-5th century B.C.  It represented an extensive mango grove to Lord Buddha and constructed monastery for the community.  These elliptical structures have been identified as Jivaka Amaravana Vihara."

 

SARNA BHANDAR OR SONE BHANDAR:  This golden treasure is very interesting and it is a cave where the valuable treasures are stored.  It has not been disturbed as the use of a dynamite to explode will cause the mountain above to collapse.  King Bimbisar protected his valuable items from Ajatashatru by keeping in this cave and sealing the gate.  This is a secret chamber and its exit is near the Sataparni cave.  In the wall, the guide pointed to me that there are 32 inscriptions of where the valuable items are kept.  But it has not been possible to uncover the coded language.  The coded language is very interesting and any visitor visiting that cave will be amazed.  The British wanted to get the valuables by firing with a canon.  But Acharya Jagadish Chandra Bose asked them not to do so.  Presently this looks like a cave.

 

MANIYAR MATH:  This is completely mythological site.  According to mythology, the saints used to perform puja here.  There is also a different opinion that King Jarasandha used to keep the defeated kings here.  Near the Maniyar Math, I found this plate written as follows:

"Protected Monument:  This monument has been declared to be of national importance under the ancient monuments and archeological sites and remains act, 1958 (24 of 1958).  Whoever destroys, removes, or injures, alters, defaces, imperils or misuses this monument shall be punishable with imprisonment which may extend to three months, or fine which may extend to 5000 rupees or with both."

 

The Archeological Survey India describes Maniyar Math as follows:

"Located almost at the center of the old city of Rajgriha, these ancient sites can be identified with the "Manimala Chaitya" mentioned in the Pali texts or the shrine of Mani 'Nag, mentioned to in Mahabharata.  The main attraction is a well-like structure 1.20 meter high stucco images of a linga decorated with garland, four armed Vishnu, Nagi image Ganesha twisted with snakes around his body and six-armed dancing Shiva.

 

Unfortunately most of the images have now disappeared.  From there art-style, the images belong to Gupta Period the fifth century A.D., the minor structures such as alter platforms and shrines etc. seem to be constructed for religious and ritual purposes related to serpent worship."

 

BURMESE BUDDHIST BIHAR:  Located at walking distance from my lodge, this is a beautiful temple built by the people of Burma.  Its in Kund Road, Rajgir.  The worship hours are 6 a.m. to 12 noon and 3 p.m. to 8 p.m.

 

I took two photos of myself.  One photo in front of the Nalanda ruins.  This photo was taken by a security guard.  He is a very old man with his hair in head totally white.  He pointed out to me a 16 headed date palm tree near the Nalanda ruins.  I was amazed.  I saw such a type of palm tree in Mandarmoni.  It's a very rare species.  Another photo is taken in front of the Japanese temple.  It was taken by a boy who came here to visit the temple like me with his friend.  I went to the park at Benuben just beside this Japanese Buddhist temple.  It was maintained by the Paryabaran Ban Bibhag and Nalanda Ban Pramandal, Bihar Sharif.  The entry fee is Rs. 3.  The park is beautifully decorated with a wide variety of trees, a pond, a meditation hut, etc.  Then the tonga-driver took me to a spot where the Mahavira's life is displayed in miniature models.  This museum is similar to our Nehru Children's museum in Kolkata where Ramayana and Mahabharata are displayed.  But the miniature art work is far superior quality than in Kolkata.  This museum is called "Sri Brahmi Kala Mandiram Veerayantan.  I went to this spot on Saturday i.e. 4th July.  The entry fee is Rs. 12 and I entered here at 17:25.

 

NALANDA UNIVERSITY:  Now I am going to tell you about Nalanda but this is not my description but I followed strictly the description given by the archeological survey of India.

 

NALANDA:  "History of Nalanda goes back to the date of Mahavira and Buddha in 6th century B.C.  It was the place of birth and nirvana of Sariputra, one of the famous disciples of Buddha.  The place rose into prominence in the 5h century A.D. as a great monastic cum educational institution for oriental art and learning in the whole Buddhist world attracting students from distant countries including China.  The galaxy of luminaries associated with it includes Nagarjuna, Aryaveda, Vasubandhu, Dharmapala, Suvishnu, Asanga, Silabhadra, Dharmakirti, Shantarakshita, and celebrated Chinese travelers Hiuen Tsiang, and I-Tsing have extensively described the monasteries and shrines of Nalanda and the life of monks there.  Various subjects like theology, grammar, logic, astronomy, metaphysics, medicine and philosophy were taught here.  The institution was maintained by the revenue collected from the villages bestowed specifically for the purpose by the contemporary rulers as evident from inscriptions.

 

Nalanda Mahavihar, regarded as one of the greatest universities of ancient world was founded by Kumaragupta I (413 ' 455 A.D.) of the great Gupta Dynasty, King Harshavardhana of Kannauj (606-647 A.D.) and the Pala Kings of East India (8th to 12th century A.D.) continued to extend patronage to the centre.  The decline of this great institution started in Late Pala Period but the final blow came in around 1200 A.D. by the invasion of Bakhtiyar Khilji.

 

Excavations conducted by the archeological survey of India during 1915-1937 and 1974-1982 have exposed the extensive remains of six brick temples and eleven monasteries arranged on a systematic layout and spread over an area more than a square kilometer.  Basically a 30 meter wide passage runs North-South with the row of temples on the west and that of the monasteries on the east of it.  The dimensions and dispositions of the rooms within monasteries is almost identical.  The most imposing structure is temple No. 3 at the southern extremity, which was constructed in seven phases.  It is surrounded by a number of votive stupas and other minor shrines.

 

Other than structures, the excavations have unearthed many sculptures and images in stone, bronze and stucco.  Significant among the Buddhist sculptures are Buddha in different postures, Avalokitesvara, Majusri, Tara, Prajnaparmita, Marichi, Jambhala etc.  A few are of Brahmanical deities like Vishnu, Siva-Parvati, Mahishasur-Mardini, Ganesha, Surya etc.  Other noteworthy discoveries of excavation include the murals, copper plates, stone and brick inscriptions, sealings, plaques, coins, terracotas, potteries, etc.  The antiquities have been exhibited for the visitors in the nearby museum."

 

Monastery No. 01:  This monastery is considered to be one of the most important among the group of monasteries from chronological revealing the nine levels of occupation as indicated by the superimposed structures, drains and floors.  The lower monastery was erected during the rein of Devapala (circa 810-50 A.D.) by a king of Sumatra as hostels for the monks.  It had a central rectangular courtyard, pillared verandah all round in front of the cells, a shrine at the middle of the eastern arm, a well and a teacher's platform and the entrance towards west.  It was at least double storied as evident by the staircase at the southwest corner.  The upper monasteries have 34 cells containing bed platform for monks and shelves for keeping books and valuables in the corners of few cells, pillared verandahs in front and entrance towards west approachable through a massive flight of steps.  ..The evidence of destruction of Nalanda by fire can be noticed in a few cells and stucco images also placed in the niches of the portico.

 

Temple Site No. 3:  During the year 1861 Alexander Cunningham carried out a small scale excavation over here and identified the site as Nalanda.  Later on a series of excavations followed by conservation by the Archeological Survey of India took place during 1915-1937 at this site.

 

Monastery No. 5:  This monastery does not conform to the nature and general scheme of other monasteries.  Its northern and southern arms are having only three cells whereas the western arm has two rows of eight cells.  Some of the cells in the front row are connected with the verandah whereas few cells are interlinked with corbelled doors.  A large staircase descending from the south-east corner of monastery no. 4 connects this monastery.  On the basis of antiquarian finds it appears that the monastery was constructed during the Gupta Period.

 

On my way towards the Rajlakshmi lodge at Rajgir, I took lunch, a non-vegetarian meal for Rs. 20.  I opted for this lunch outside as the lunch at the lodge costs Rs. 50.  After lunch, I reached the nearby shop for mobile recharge and bought a cash card for my Tata Indicom mobile.  I went to my lodge and took rest.  There were frequent power cuts in my lodge but due to the presence of generator, the discomfort amidst the sweltering heat in July and at times when no rainfall in Rajgir, one could relax on the lodge watching TV at the dining room and also individual rooms provided with the television sets.  On the manager's table, I saw Hindi newspapers.  In the evening, I spent time watching TV and reading books.  A book is a great companion.  A book can give you extensive on a particular area and in times of crisis, reading a book can take you to a completely different world of the author.  Reading books is a better option than watching television as reading helps you concentrate and television watching is not a great thing if you do it for long hours.  I slept around 9 p.m. switching the lights off and I could see the sky all around as on the left side of my building, there are slums and far away there are mountains with millions of stars above creating a magical atmosphere at night.  I could see these through my windows on the two sides.  There are windows at the inner verandah but the light was not on and there was darkness there.  The insects who love to fly around lights were pestering me and so I ordered a mosquito net for a sound sleep.

 

I woke up in the morning of July 5 and ordered a tea in the lodge, which costs Rs. 5.  I did yoga and was watching TV.  The habit of watching TV returned as here there is no internet café.  So I had to read books and watch TV and sometimes move out of the lodge with the camera but the two days passed out swiftly and my dear parents, father and mother kept in touch with me over the mobile phone.  There were plenty of towers all around, so there was no problem of network.  I had lunch which comprised of bread and butter and an omlet.  I ordered the lunch.  I packed my bags as the check out time in this hotel is 9 a.m.  I asked the manager the day before about a cheap room to stay in Rajgir till 3 p.m.  He arranged a room at Maa Sarada Lodge and I stayed there paying Rs. 150.  In this room, there is no television.  There is an old fan with the old style of wooden support (kori borga) ceiling.  There are small holes in the thick walls to keep lantern during times of power failure called "ghulghuli" in Bengali.  I slept the afternoon there after the lunch, which comprised of a rice, fish, dal, potato fries and a desert at the end.  I woke up around 3 p.m. and took a tonga and went straight to the Rajgir station.  I saw the Danapur Local waiting.  There are two compartments of the train that will join the Janta Express at Bakhtiarpur after two hours of waiting.  The Danapur local will leave these two bogies of Janta Express to the station like a child abandoned by the parents.  The train bogies remained in the station like the orphan child without any parental care.  The passengers moved around the station to take some fresh air sometimes.  But I did not leave the compartment.  The train did not come after two hours to join the two bogies but came 11 hours later.  Just think of my frustration!!  Such long hours of waiting and parents calling me in mobile.  Later I heard that in Bakhtiarpur, my parents were calling me over their mobile and could not get response as I believe that this region has very few towers.  They heard of the train late from the enquiry office of the Eastern Railways.  They were very anxious as you all know Bihar is not a good place and anything could have happened in an isolated compartment like that where anyone can step in freely from beggars, hawkers or thieves.  I was just reading the book "Ami Vivekananda Bolchi" by Shankar and thinking of what to do.  During the night, the lights went off as the train could no longer supply electricity for the poor passengers kept praying to God for the train to leave the station.  The railway ministers come and go but the plight of the railway passengers remain the same.  The ticket checking was there on my journeys both going and coming from Rajgir and on my return journey, they caught a handsome man with a very beautiful wife.  The ticket checker saw some irregularities in a student and asked for a fine and the boy did not want to go with him to the next station and there was a dispute.  One memorable incident in my return journey are a group of old women who sat in my front and they were singing religious songs of Lord Mahadeva and that was really a wonderful experience.  They were singing one after another and I saw a large number of Lord Mahadev devotees boarded the train wearing saffron clothes and came down at Gusudih.  Another remarkable experience is the scenary of long stretch of mountains of Bihar.  There were some hills, some mountains covered by thin layer of grasses, some trees could also be seen scantily.  The mountains are so close you would be interested to ride on top of them.  The enthusiasts who climb the mountains make those who do not wonder why they are climbing the hard massive stone structures, but it is the experience and the thrill involved, which provides impetus in rock climbing, the thrill of discovering and feeling the earth from the top just like a vulture who flies very high above our head and can see the spot of his food.  The clouds touching the mountain peaks was looking awesome.  If I had a pencil and paper, I would love to draw that beautiful scenery and take a photo and paste in one of my networking websites like MySpace and let the world see how beautiful are the hills of Rajgir!

 

The train bogey started leaving Bakhtiarpur.  This is the station where the two bogies stood for around 11 hours and left the station.  In the morning around 5:30 a.m., I took some tea from the vendor passing by.  The quality of tea in Bihar is wonderful.  You get the good quality of milk and so the taste is unique here.  The drinking water is good quality.  Many vendors are selling water bottles in distilled and purified form.  Many passenger are buying the bottles for Rs. 10.  I reached the Howrah station around 5:30 and took a hired taxi from the pre-paid taxi both where it took Rs. 110 to reach Paikpara.  When the train entered West Bengal, I was feeling quite restless to reach home as nearly 25 hours in train is really strenuous.  The taxi driver named Pappu advised me:"You could have taken a jetty launch (?) from the banks of the Ganges and take a taxi from the other side of the bank, it could have cost you much less!"  I thanked him for the suggestion but I told him, "I am too tired to take my baggage and board a ferry launch and then go and catch a taxi."  This route is costly but its comfortable for me.  In a situation when there is a train journey of long hours, its better to catch a taxi and go home straight rather than an economic way of going home.

 

My journey to Rajgir is memorable for a multiple reasons.  Firstly, the beautiful hills and mountains of Rajgir are really a great thing to see.  Secondly, the historical spots stirred my love of history that was buried since school life.  I bought pamphlets of Nalanda.  I bought statues of Buddha.  I collect old coins and it is my hobby.  I collect old bus tickets etc.  Old is gold but it becomes expensive when you want to sell, your heart yell and you cannot leave it and keep it close to your heart.  Here lies the unity of all history loving people around the world and especially for me as I studied anthropology, a subject that studies cultural and biology evolution of mankind from all angles.  Third, Rajgir has good roads maintained by the Government of Bihar and its really worth travelling in the clean roads towards the historical sites.  Fourth, the horse cart travelling in Rajgir is unique and my first experience in life.  Fifth, watching closely the people of Bihar is an opportunity you can miss in Kolkata.  There are many nonBengalis in Kolkata but what is lacking is that they have merged with the Bengali culture and so they can be seeing enjoying the Durga Puja but in their native place, you see their cultural activities distinctly.  Sixth, on the day of my return journey, I stayed from9:30 a.m. to 3 p.m. in Maa Sarada lodge where the reputed Bengali actor named Chhabi Biswas stayed during his shooting of the Bengali film "Pathey Holo Deri" and that building is 75 years old and the building named Hotel Rajlaxmi where I stayed was three years old.  Rajgir's hills and mountain and the historical sites will attract people from all parts of the India and world.  The effort of the Government of Bihar in maintaining good communication of the sites is worth mentioning.  A trip to Rajgir will enlighten your soul as it's the land of Lord Buddha.  Many architectures of Burma and Japan can be seen in this place who had built beautiful temples for the growth of Buddhism.  Rajgir is both a religious as well as a thing of beauty that will spurt a feeling of wellbeing among the minds of hundreds of visitors flocking to this wonderful spot in the winter when snow covers the peak of the mountains creating a heavenly atmosphere.

 

The Effect of Internet on Real Life Dating and Intimacy

Online dating is affecting the real life ones.  We meet different people over the net and talk with them online.  Most of the time is spent and one person can have a large number of dating partners as compared to real life dating.  If we look into the matter deeply, we find that real life dating is costly.  You have to arrange for a spot to meet, spend money of food and gifts to please your partner etc.  In internet dating, you can sent a beautiful message, which can easily draw the attention.  You can comment on the photo in a beautiful language.  It is the language, your profile photo and profile design that matters in internet dating.

 

Researchers in Australia have conducted a web audit on over 60 online dating sites and in-depth interviews and found that the internet is altering the dating, emotion and intimacy.  If your profile is designed with beautiful language, attractive designs and very attractive photos in your album, you will become popular and get a lot of friends who will want to be intimate with you.  But if the profile is not attractive, you will have less friends.  People will talk less even if you come online.

 

The world has changed a lot.  I mean to say you may be a different person but your profile in the social networking site with beautiful language and design may take you to a completely different social status in society.  In this way, through online dating, many girls fall in love with boys whom they find totally different or freak in real life.  So never trust the online profile of your friends.  It might be deceptive.

 

Galary of Reptiles in The Indian Museum

On one fine Saturday afternoon, I went to the Indian Museum.  The entry fee might be Rs.10 but the items displayed could cost crores of rupees in total.  The items were exhibited beautifully.  There is a beauty in the variety of the world of reptiles.  There is a charm in this museum, which sets in apart from all other museums of Kolkata.  People come to this place from distant lands and also from different villages of West Bengal and other states.  A person visiting Kolkata should visit the Indian Museum and get a lot at the vast collection making it the pride of Kolkata and the treasures in the museum makes it a heritage building with the archeological collection of the pre-Independence period. 

 

In the gallery of reptiles, I came across the following varieties:

  1. Estuarian crocodile.
  2. Marsh crocodile.
  3. Gharial crocodile.
  4. American alligator.
  5. Marsh crocodile.

 

Turtles can be of the following types:

  1. Green turtle.
  2. Loggerhead.
  3. Hawksbill.
  4. Little tern.
  5. Ibisbill.
  6. Fantail snipe.
  7. Chinese oyster catcher.

 

 

The different types of lizards and snakes displayed in the museum are as follows:

  1. Common Indian Takshak.
  2. Assam olive brown snake.
  3. Indian spring tailed lizard.
  4. Desert fat tailed gecko.
  5. Common Indian Krait.
  6. Common Indian bronze back.
  7. Painted bronze back.
  8. Common green whip snake.
  9. John's sand boa.
  10. Golden free snake.
  11.   Common rat snake.
  12.   Yellow monitor.
  13. Common Indian wolf snake.
  14.   Buff striped keel back.
  15.   South Indian flying dragon.
  16. Common fat tailed gecko.
  17. Tuberculated agama.

 

 

Different types of fishes can be listed as follows:

  1. Guitar fish (Rhinobatos granulatus).
  2. White tip reef shark (Triaenodon obesus).
  3. Balfour's shark (Hemigaleus balfouri).
  4. Zebra shark (Stegostoma fasciatum).
  5. Brown lined reefcod (Epinephelus undulosus).
  6. Blue lined sturgeon fish (Acanthurus lineatus).
  7. Moon fish (Mene maculate).
  8. Spotted butterfish (Scatophagus argus).
  9. Vermiculated spine foot (Sigamus vermiculatus).
  10. Milk fish (Chanos chanos).
  11. Spade fish (Epiphhus orbis).
  12. Yellow finned sea robin (Peristedion poshumalava).
  13. Sea horse (Hippompus kuda).
  14. Blackspot snapper (Latjanus fulviflaminus).
  15. Round batfish (Platex pinnatus).
  16. Boa fish (Tetrasomus gibbosus).
  17. Seven banded demoiselle (Abudefoluf septemfasciatus).
  18.  Triple spines (Pseudotricanthus stiglifer).
  19.   Slender sucker fish (Echeneis naucrates).
  20.   Rainbow wrask (Thalassoma purpurea).
  21.   John's snapper (Lutjanus johni).
  22.   Japanese threaded bream (Nemipterus japonicus).
  23.   Yellow branded pigback bream (Lethrinus ramak).

 

 

Some excellent examples of the living fossil fish are as follows:

 

  1. Australian lung fish (Neocratodus forsteri).
  2. Russian sturgeon (Acipenser gueldenstaedi).
  3. South American Lung fish (Lepidosiren paradoxa).
  4.  African Lung fish (Protopterus assentens).
  5.   Common Atlantic sturgeon (Acipenser sturio).

 

 

 

 

Ultraviolet Rays as Medium of Communication

The ultraviolet rays are invisible to the human eye.  The female Chinese jumping spiders use these rays.  They use this ray during mating season.  I congratulate the researchers from the National University of Singapore.  They provided the first evidence of animals using ultraviolets rays for communicating with member of its species. 

 

The researchers made a series of mate choice experiments with Chinese Jumping Spiders.  The female spiders are known to mate with males that reflect ultraviolet rays than those who do not. 

 

Human beings use body language as a medium of communication.  Language plays a vital role in communication.  Body language suggests what is in the mind of the person you are talking to.  What is really fascinating about man is that this body language is independent of the person's upbringing.  It cannot be taught and it is an involuntary action, as I have felt talking with a wide range of people as an anthropology student and also as a keen observer of human beings.  If you show respect to a person, say leaving a seat in the bus, he shows some kindness to you.  What you think throughout the day is reflected on your face.  You might think that nobody is looking at you, but you will find that being the most intelligent being in the animal kingdom, man can surpass other animals in terms of cheating.  You never know what the person is going to do next.  About the choice of mate, its hardly predictable.  A boy infatuated by the girl loves her and she pretends loving him or rather she loves him truly but as she sees a better boy with bright prospect in career, she tries to switch over.  For this reason, I have seen cases of murders in the newspapers.  Body language knowledge becomes useful for the interviewee who wants to pass the interview and land on a job and its important for the interviewer who wants to get the right candidate.  If human beings had emitted ultraviolet rays like these spiders, then I must say with a smile, things would have been much easier.

 

The Right Way of Meditation

I have left gym and embraced yoga as the ultimate form of exercise.  I feel meditation done in the right way can purify the internal system remarkably.  10 minutes of meditation in the morning will make you feel fresh.  At the time of meditation, forget about the materialistic world.  Think about a beautiful picture, say a landscape.  You can count from 100 to 1 in odd numbers.  Relax your body.  A beautiful, calm, relaxed, unperturbed soul is highly valued in this world torn by war, stress, struggle, calamity, hardship, etc.  Before starting with meditation, take a glass of water.  As you drink the water, feel as you are taking honey and feel happy always.  A good feeling generated in the mind is worth millions of dollars rather.  Reading study materials and serious works might be a priority but leave them aside for 10 minutes. It is the desire to be a good listener and the patience is something that is highly valued in the competitive world.  You may not succeed in the upcoming interview but if you practice the concentration exercises after the meditation, you will feel a power greater than muscle power.  A power that will uplift your soul and elevate your mind to a limit where there is peace and peace. 

 

Living in peace is the ultimate goal of mankind.  You may have lots of money, but without peace, life becomes meaningless.  Life loses the purpose.  The purpose of life is to live in the present, taking care of your family and helping people in times of need.  Never think of "gain-loss" in life.  Even if you leave a seat to the old man, help your father in times of crisis, it will help generate a feeling equivalent to the blessing of God.  Helping and taking care of human being should be your ultimate goal but not jeapordizing your life. 

 

Being physically and mentally fit not only helps you, but your family is free from anxiety and tension.  If you fall sick, you go to doctor and your mother, father or wife has to take care of you.  Feel their life, touch everyone's life by your caring attitude.  Your caring nature at home will have an effect on your workplace.  If you love your family, you will work well for its betterment.  If the company where you are working prospers, you will be blessed by the Almighty God.  You might be an atheist but having a faith in a Supreme Being helps in times of pressure when nobody is there beside you.

 

By practising meditation regularly in the morning and at night followed by some yoga exercises, your body becomes completely relaxed.  Your physiological function is highly associated with mental function.  Pranayams or breathing exercises help in the internal cleansing of the body.  After this pranayam, if you do some chanting of "Harey Krishna Krishna Krishna, Krishna Krishna Harey Harey, Harey Rama, Rama Rama, Rama Rama Harey Harey" and count it in your fingers 10 times and then increase to as many as 20 times before you start your day, you will feel a purity in your mind.  I don't know what power is there in this chanting of "Hare Krishna" but you will feel absolutely pure and fresh.  Anulom Bilom Pranayam helps a great deal followed by Shitalee Pranayam.  Take water regularly and as you  take water each time, feel as you are taking up all the good things on earth. 

 

Meditation in open space is the best thing.  You sit in the bench of your nearest park or garden and inhale the fresh air of the green environment.  Look at the greenery for some time.  Close your eyes and think of a world full of trees, colorful birds, and try to feel as if you are sailing in a boat.  Feel the fresh air you are inhaling.  Feel the warmth of the sun above you.  Exhale gradually and feel all the tensions and anxieties, worries, are going out of your body.  Feel the freshness of the blooming flower inside you.

 

Resolute to do something good today.  Resolute the best things and the best work and the best service at your workplace.  Mental peace brings satisfaction at work.  Their might be something annoying at your office.  No workplace is perfect.  So never expect a perfect office.  Try to perform well as much as possible.  The alternative job will come when you settle down in home after work and after a nap in the evening, start meditating.  This time keep searching yourself.  Try to think of what is best within you.  Always remember you have two hands, two legs and two eyes.  Many people achieved the impossible with these organs.  So try to rejuvenate these organs with meditation with yoga and show the world you can do what others don't.

 

 

 

 

Web Socialising at Work Place

The use of social networking sites at work place has become a habit to many office goers if they get a chance.  This networking sites are created in such a way to make you addicted.  You log in to a networking site, for example, Orkut and you get to see your friends who are online and start talking with them in Google Talk, which is now within the site.  This can be done while you checking the Google Mail.  There is a website called way2sms where you can talk logging into Google and Yahoo IDs.  There are attractive communities where you can interact with thousands of people by posting your message.  You can watch videos from different profiles provided they are accessible and if they are in your friends list or sometimes restricted for outsiders who are not your friends.  You can get friends who have the same hobby as yours.  You get in touch with hundreds of likeminded people and develop a network as per your mentality and cultural background.  So here comes the addiction when you cannot live for a moment without it.  Even mobile phones can be used for Orkut, Facebook, etc. just by downloading an application.  So every time you are online and in touch with people around the world!  If some one stops you from using the networking site, he becomes a nuisance to you.  You boss wants productivity and so I have seen companies installing software to block the networking sites.  It is always a better option not to use it in work place and it helps you concentrate more on work.  On the other hand, the addicts of networking sites never think that their work is going fine, so why the ban on the sites.  But the level of work the company wants and the level of competition the companies face is really tough.  So it has become a matter of survival.  Therefore whether to use it or not to use has become a million dollar question.

 

I used Orkut a lot and had reached 830 friends and it included people from countries like India, Brazil, United States, etc.  I have now reduced it to 150!!  Still I am not sure all are genuine profiles.  But gradually I realized most of them are fake and create five or six IDs.  There are many fake profiles in a networking site and in this world, anyone can copy your profile and create a profile like yours copying your photos.  Even my friends' account have been hacked and I have seen my account hacked too.  So it is better you leave the fake world and make friends in your office and neighbourhood whose help will bring joy and satisfaction in your life.  About using networking sites from home, my advice is to keep it private at home or from cyber café.  At your leisure time, you do as you like but at work, concentrate on work because always remember work is something that will bring prosperity in your life with the blessing of God will always be with you.

 

Keeping in touch with your favorite friend is a good habit.  Take my example, I work in a medical transcription company, the company allows access to networking sites but I rarely take such an opportunity to open Orkut or Facebook.  The home or cyber café is the right place to do that.  A Boston based firm conducted a survey on the effect of the social networking at the workplace.  The report states that the productivity is hit hard and it reduces 1.5% of productivity as the output of the employee and the organization is dependent on a number of factors.  It could be because of lethargy or disenchantment.  In my opinion, people become so de-stressed that they come to an inertia of rest rather than inertia of motion.  Do you remember Newton's First Law? Yes, that is exactly what I mean to say.  As per the Third Law of Newton, the reduced productivity will affect the employee's incentive for the month and finally the increment.  Taking work casually comes due to a casual attitude and in a workplace, being over relaxed will leave you sidelined for further promotion in your job.  The social networking includes a wide range like talking over the phone, texting, e-mail, and good old-fashioned personal interaction.  The employers have not put restriction over the use of phone and stepping out of lunch.  But they are regarding the networking sites as a menace in the workplace causing reduced productivity.  But from the humanitarian point of view, social networking does not make life mechanical and insular.

 

If you spent a few minutes with the help of networking sites will help develop new contacts, which will enhance productivity.  A recently conducted research at the University of Melbourne stated that 9% time spent on the internet at work for fun increases the productivity.  If an organization is friendly to the employees, then there will be no dearth of productivity as per the Melbourne study.

 

The use of networking sites are work place should be restricted.  It is better to use at home or cyber café and after all your future is in your hand, and it is always better to do work first and play games and chat in the sites later.  In this competitive world, if you get sacked for your addiction, you will lose confidence in life.  This should not happen and so the priority must be work.  I have realized this 2 years later.  I was also an addict like most people but now use it mostly in cyber cafes or home.  It is better to develop real life friends, take the friends of your networking sites as many as possible and talk over phone.  This develops a good habit of talking with the person and a good style of talking is highly valuable and people will love you more if you talk over phone rather than leave a message in the networking site, which is rather a cool option.  If the person in your networking site does not reveal his/her real identify, then just delete the individual.  When solving cyber crimes, the detectives see who are the friends and your name probably will crop up being the suspected person's friend.  So it is better to avoid fishy profiles.