There are events that we all wish had never taken place, there are moments that wish we could take back and there times and things that we can’t express in words. Coping with the death of a loved one is tough, but life has to go on, Here is how we can best deal with the death of a loved one…Allow yourself to accept
When a person dies a sudden death due to unnatural reasons, there arises a strong sense of disbelief and shock. To begin with, one must acknowledge this loss and not live in denial. Initially, one only feels startled and shocked as the pain and trauma surfaces only after a few weeks. Loss of life in an unexpected, sudden manner that gives no forewarning can definitely leave near and dear ones feeling
vulnerable, shaken and deeply perturbed. For them, the world almost comes to sudden halt and movement in any direction seems impossible. Initially, people struggle in acknowledging the bitter fact and live in denial. What people must remember is that what they are feeling is a very normal reaction to a very abnormal situation.
Death is always accompanied by questions ' like “why.” When our near ones have died we often pose this question. We ask, “Why is this happening?” What did I do to deserve this” In these times, it is always important to lend ears to the one grieving and to be with them. The loss of our loved ones all of a sudden is a difficult proposition. When someone is grieving, he or she needs the love and support of friends more than ever. Bereavement is a powerful, life-changing experience.
Grieving is important
If people hold on to a grief, it may not be dealt with for years. So, crying and bereavement, believes is imperative during situations like these. Let the people who have lost their loved ones cry. The close relatives of the ones dead should ideally vent out their pain. The psyche behind this is that if they do not take the grief out of their system, it will kill them from inside. Let your emotions out instead of bottling them up. Talk about your feelings…no matter how irrational they might seem. The grieving process helps the individual to vent his/her emotions and clear the system from any kind of blocked emotions. With time, one slowly starts to accept the reality and integrates this to their existing life experiences. Therefore, let the bereaved ones cry if they want to and give them their space of talking and sharing the sorrow. They just want someone to listen to their pain at this moment.
When a person dies a sudden death due to unnatural reasons, there arises a strong sense of disbelief and shock. To begin with, one must acknowledge this loss and not live in denial. Initially, one only feels startled and shocked as the pain and trauma surfaces only after a few weeks. Loss of life in an unexpected, sudden manner that gives no forewarning can definitely leave near and dear ones feeling
vulnerable, shaken and deeply perturbed. For them, the world almost comes to sudden halt and movement in any direction seems impossible. Initially, people struggle in acknowledging the bitter fact and live in denial. What people must remember is that what they are feeling is a very normal reaction to a very abnormal situation.
Death is always accompanied by questions ' like “why.” When our near ones have died we often pose this question. We ask, “Why is this happening?” What did I do to deserve this” In these times, it is always important to lend ears to the one grieving and to be with them. The loss of our loved ones all of a sudden is a difficult proposition. When someone is grieving, he or she needs the love and support of friends more than ever. Bereavement is a powerful, life-changing experience.
Grieving is important
If people hold on to a grief, it may not be dealt with for years. So, crying and bereavement, believes is imperative during situations like these. Let the people who have lost their loved ones cry. The close relatives of the ones dead should ideally vent out their pain. The psyche behind this is that if they do not take the grief out of their system, it will kill them from inside. Let your emotions out instead of bottling them up. Talk about your feelings…no matter how irrational they might seem. The grieving process helps the individual to vent his/her emotions and clear the system from any kind of blocked emotions. With time, one slowly starts to accept the reality and integrates this to their existing life experiences. Therefore, let the bereaved ones cry if they want to and give them their space of talking and sharing the sorrow. They just want someone to listen to their pain at this moment.
Yes, one one of our professors of HR described exactly this process, and I had experienced the same in the initial phases when one relative was diagnosed with cancer… Thanks for sharing it here, I agree with this.. Regards, (Rahul)