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Shiny Vikas — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 21:37:06 +0000

The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred…unforseen incidents, meetings, and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.- von Goethe

In the universe there is an immeasurable, indescribable force which shamans call intent, and absolutely everything that exists in the entire cosmos is attached to intent by a connecting link.- Carols Castaneda

What if the question is not…Why am I so infrequntly the person I really want to be, but why do I so infrequently want to be the person I really am -Oriah Mountain Dreamer

When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you. -Lao Tzu

We are already one and we imagine we are not. And what we have to recover is our original unity. -Thomas Merton

No one can ask another to be healed. But he can let himself be healed, and thus offer the other what he has received. Who can bestow upon another what he does not have And who can share what he denies himself. - A Course In Miracles

The Funny Wisdoms of Life: Some Funny, Some Witty, Some True

Shiny Vikas — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 21:33:37 +0000

The two most common elements in the universe are hydrogen and stupidity. But not in that order - Brian Pickrell
Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it - Author unknown
I refuse to answer that question on the grounds that I don’t know the answer - Douglas Adams
Silence and smile are two powerful words. Smile is the way to solve many problems and Silence is the way to avoid many problems - Anon
There cannot be a crisis next week. My schedule is already full - Henry Kissinger
In the book of life, the answers aren’t in the back - Charlie Brown
To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funny bone - Reba McEntire
Never take life seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyway - Anon
Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes called Experience leads us to success
The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred…unforseen incidents, meetings, and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.- von Goethe

Overcoming a Rough week!

Shiny Vikas — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:25:26 +0000

Overcoming a Rough week

By Ralph Jean-Paul

We all have bad days, but have you ever had one of those weeks when it seems everything is going wrong?

Monday, your alarm didn't ring and you were late for work. Tuesday, your car broke down. Wednesday you lost your credit card. Thursday was your annual review and your employer informed you that, due to the economy, the company is not issuing raises this year. By the time Friday arrives and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, you get a ticket for speeding. How do we handle a series of setbacks and bad news?

I recently had one of those weeks where it seemed that anything that could go wrong - did go wrong. The natural reaction most people have when the walls begin crumbling is to crumble right along with them.

I have developed a habit of not letting outside circumstances consume me. I have learned in the past that the events in your life do not determine the course of your life. Rather, it is your reaction to those events that will determine the quality of your life, and your life direction. In other words, it's not what happens to you, it's how you react to what happens to you.

Most of us can experience certain negative events and dismiss them. But when negative events seem to happen simultaneously - as they often do - they feel suffocating and impossible to overcome. This is when thoughts of giving in to that feeling of helplessness seem to evade the mind. The truth is that there are many things we can do to help us cope with, and even change a bad situation.

My Story: "Did I Break a Mirror?"

I rolled out of bed Monday morning expecting my first week back at work to be a continuation of my everyday life. I had enjoyed my vacation week, but now, it was back to work. I spent the vacation reconnecting with

friends, relaxing, and celebrating my 30th Birthday. I was refreshed and ready for a productive and fulfilling week.

I had a feeling that my week was going to be challenging when I opened my email on Monday and read that one of my employees will be out for a week; meaning that time sensitive assignments would not be completed until she got back. Also, because technical issues prevented me from updating my blog, my web traffic took a nose dive. Things began to get worse from there.

At the monthly staff meeting, we were asked to be patient during our merger with another company. We were also told to be prepared for some changes. We knew that "be patient" meant they didn't know what was going on, and "changes" meant people were going to lose their jobs.

On top of that, a potential business partner suddenly stopped returning my emails. More bad news followed. A good friend and one of the nicest people I know, was moving out of the country.

To add insult to injury, someone dented the passenger side door on my car, my Blackberry started malfunctioning, and NBC cancelled My Name is Earl. All of this happened in one week!

"Did I break a mirror or offend a leprechaun last week?", I thought

After a brief pity party, I came to my senses and decided not to let those events determine my quality of life. I developed a plan to bounce back and regain control over my life.

Why We Must Bounce Back

There's power in the overcoming of obstacles. Knowing that you have the ability to recover and survive the trials and tribulations of life, is a redemptive feeling. We must realize that we do not have to be victims of

things that are happening around us. We are more likely to take more risk and act with courage tomorrow, if we are able to conquer the conditions of today.

Letting our circumstances consume us can lead to a false view of our life experience. Some who are unable to recover from the trying times of their lives begin to develop negative beliefs. I've heard people say "God just has it in for me" or "I'm just unlucky". This mindset renders us helpless and unable to act in a way that changes our circumstances.

Being unable to cope with life's obstacles can also affect our health. Depression and alcoholism can many times be rooted in a person's inability to deal with the outside world. Since the outside world seems to deal multiple crushing blows, one after another, they look for an escape or close themselves off from the outside world.

Our relationships suffer also if we are unable to bounce back. We tend to isolate ourselves from the people around us. Some people carry anger and resentment inside and it reflects in their everyday dealings with people. I'm sure you've run it to a person who seems to be mad at the world all of the time. For these reasons and many more, it is important that we begin to face and conquer life's tough conditions.

Bouncing Back

1. Find your foundation

The life we live should stand on a solid foundation. The mistake that many people make is to value their life based upon their possessions or social status. You are more than what you own, you are more than your worldly titles. For some people, it is their spiritual faith, or creative passion, or a strong relationship with family and friends that serves as the foundation for their life.

Finding your foundation means rediscovering the things that are truly important to you; the things that make your life worth living. You may have a passion for music or art. Use your current hardship to rediscover what drives you. Use those expressions of yourself to remind you that life can be enjoyable.

2. The Ant Philosophy

In some of his speeches, author Jim Rohn often talks about the ant philosophy. Ants are remarkably persistent. If an ant is on its way somewhere, and you place your thumb in its path, the ant instinctively tries to find another way. The ant will try to go over, around, and sometimes through any obstacle. Giving up is never an option.

Have you ever seen an ant come across an obstacle, stop and quit as to say, "Why are things always getting in my way"? Instead, the ant believes that there is a way to continue on the path and it works until it finds it.

When things get tough in our lives, we have to adopt the ant philosophy. Instead of feeling sorry for ourselves, and letting the obstacle win, we must attempt to find another way to get on the right path. We must be persistent until we reach our destination.

3. Verbalize It

Humans were not designed to be isolated. We need each other in so many ways. One of the major mistakes that I made when everything seemed to be going wrong was I began to isolate myself and suppressed my problems. I thought that if I threw myself into my work, eventually I would feel better. That may help to improve some circumstances, but I still felt a bit weighed down by everything that has happening.

During the week, a friend called me and asked, "How's everything?"

"Everything is stupid!" I responded, unable to fully articulate my frustration.

He laughed knowing that I had been having a tough week. After talking for a few minutes, I realized how good it felt to verbalize how frustrated I was with how my week was going. I'm not one to dump my problems on other people, but I learned that sometimes it is better to express it in words than hold on to it.

4. Wake Up Call

"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache
carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit"
~Napoleon Hill

Sometimes, it is the painful or frustrating circumstances that trigger us to learn and make positive changes in our lives. With one of my employees suddenly being out, I found major flaws in the way I managed my team. Even the way I distributed assignments left room for disastrous results in the event that one person was unable to work. During this week, I recognized and fixed several problems with my management system, which I would not have done otherwise.

During this week, I was reminded that that my day job may be in danger, this triggered me to review how I could recover from potential economic setbacks. It had been about 7 months since I reviewed my recovery plan. I realized that many things had changed with my monthly income and expenses, and it was time to revise the plan.

5. Dwell on the Good

For some strange reason, our minds tend to dwell on the negative things. That is one reason the news media usually broadcasts bad news; they know that negative happenings draw more ratings and attention.

Last year, at a gathering, I met two women who worked for the local news station as reporters. When we were being introduced, I confessed that I didn't recognize them because I don't watch the news. To my surprise, one of them responded, "Good, it's all bad news".

Even though it seemed as though my life was filled with the negative, there were many good things that happened. For example, I attended a banquet where I got to see some old friends who I miss. Also, someone gave me a certificate for a free massage at a local spa. But instead of being thankful for the good things, I made the mistake of choosing to see and dwelling on the bad.

We should take the time to be thankful and dwell on the good things that come into our lives, however small or intangible they may seem. I sat down and created a list of all the things I appreciated from the week, all the happenings that I enjoyed and all the non-tangible gifts I'd received. The list helped me put things in perspective. It also reminded me that the good times will return; in fact, they're already here, if we choose to look for them.

Learn from the Seasons

Yes, the good times will return. Most failures and obstacles are temporary but feel as though they are going to last forever. We must be subscribers to the fact that, just like seasons, bad times come and go.

Good things will eventually happen again and good things may come from your bad experience, if you choose to see them. A possible benefit to your hardship may be the potential opportunity to help someone else through their trials. It is hard to see the possible good when you are in the thick of it, but all storms must come to an end.

Spring is often called the season of opportunity and it conveniently comes after winter which is known for being harsh and desolate. The tough times will pass and in their place will be growth, and potential for great things to happen.

So, how was your week?

The Power of Guilt

Shiny Vikas — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 11:42:21 +0000

The Power of Guilt

The Duck & The Devil

There was a little boy visiting his grandparents on their farm. He was given a slingshot to play with out in the woods.

He practiced in the woods, but he could never hit the target. Getting a little discouraged, he headed back for dinner.

As he was walking back he saw Grandma’s pet duck.

Just out of impulse, he let the slingshot fly, hit the duck square in the head, and killed it.

He was shocked and grieved. In a panic, he hid the dead duck in the wood pile, only to see his sister watching! Sally had seen it all, but she said nothing.

After lunch the next day Grandma said, “Sally, let’s wash the dishes.” But Sally said, “Grandma, Johnny told me he wanted to help in the kitchen.

Then she whispered to him, “Remember the duck? So Johnny did the dishes.

Later that day, Grandpa asked if the children wanted to go fishing and Grandma said, “I’m sorry but I need Sally to help make supper.” Sally just smiled and said,” Well that’s all right because Johnny told me he wanted to help.

” She whispered again, “Remember the duck?” So Sally went fishing and Johnny stayed to help.

After several days of Johnny doing both his chores and Sally’s… he finally couldn’t stand it any longer.

He came to Grandma and confessed that he had killed the duck. Grandma knelt down, gave him a hug, and said, “Sweetheart, I know.You see, I was standing at the window and I saw the whole thing, but because I love you, I forgave you. I was just wondering how long you would let Sally make a slave of you.”

Whatever is in the past, let it stay in the past. I hope you will look forward to the wonderful life ahead of you.

You can never look forward toward your future if you are always looking back at your past.

In other words, you can't see the road ahead if your always looking in the rear-view mirror.

doesn't matter what we've done or what what problems and fears we face–lying, cheating, bad habits, anger, bitterness, rage, and so on.

God was standing at the window the whole time and He is still sending you the same message–No one can out-sin My forgiveness!

When we won't let go of our past and forgive ourselves, as well as other people, Satan and other people will make us a slave to those memories. But God was watching the whole time.

And just like that perfect, forgiving love of that grandma in the story, when we confess our past to Him he says, “My child, I know.

You see, I was watching and I saw the whole thing, but because I love you, I forgave you. I was just wondering how long you would let Satan make a slave of you.
The great thing about God is that when we ask for forgiveness, He not only forgives us, but He forgets.

written by

Dorothy Aileen Dalton