She beleived love is a matter of convinience…a science student that she was…pure logic…what u dont see and feel doesnt exist…”say what u feel,i m no psychic…dont xpect me to read ur mind”she would often say to him…He said so often”if u dont understand my silences,u wont understand my words!!!!”she would get so irritated..’god we are so different’ she would yell…
three years of wooing,and 2and a half years of being married,she sometimes gets a glimpse of what love can be all about…each time he understands what she wants or what she is feeling…even if they havent been able to communicate all day…he can say how her day has been…from the sound of her breathing,the temperature of her palm or even the way she sips water…now she too understands him without words…and she says to people if u cant understand a persons silence,u wont understand his words
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Like the song …good friends are those among whom silence never uncomfortable… Cheers
i liked the last sentences Shwets…..so meaningful……
great……………
so true, but sometimes it real frustrating when they don”t understand neither silence nor words. thats all part of a relationship.
thnx raghu.ur right..silence is much beyond this…here the other senses convey…..i hope to grow to love enough to understand real silences!!!!!
i liked the part too where prasad and Trisha spoke about the perils of ur mate understanding ur silences…it can sound like barging into space ,but if there is understanding that is the best way to respect space na
thnx anjali for sharing…dont call it lonliness please…call it aloneness…dont be lonely be in love with urself..that is most important
sometimes silence can be understood and sometimes silence can be felt but then the word —understand and understood–needs to be in place…because when the audible or legible words do not convey the silence is found but then too the silence is not silent as the other senses like eyes, face, expressions, gestures convey….so silence is not silent …..and yes one who can understand surely is great
Good one dude…. Wish u good luck for future also…. I saw the comment by anjali….. Good that u tried to cope up with the situation and have found the solution also… Best wishes and good luck to u…….
Love the way it is expressed. Nevertheless, it is also true that the line that divides ”getting used to it” and ”understanding silence” is very thin. Not to desanctify this piece but after all sharing something that striked me.
Hi Dude, really a good lession. I can say this is one of the way to understand feelings of a person. But I think there are a few person those will undersatand this words. Any how good collection. Keep it up. You can also see the comment that “Anjali” gave about her experience and now she is able to overcome her problem. Good and my wishes are with you.
Prabhat (http://prabhatnath.rediffiland.com)
She is so lucky that her husband understands her so well. I got married quite late and cannot tell you how badly I was treated. Before marriage, I was the angel and Rani but after becoming the wife was insulted, maltreated to such an extent that had to take decision of living alone once again. But life goes on. I am lucky to have good friends and relatives. I have started presenting Research papers, attending conferences, writing for Newspapers and to top it all, I love my loneliness which has helped me become whole once again. With best wishes,
Anjali
Well expressed! liked it a lot!..regards…ZEUS.
my life is all about silence,for past 11 years i am tryying to explain that very silence to her,hope she will realise it at the fag end of her life.i remained unknown to her to make that silence and my words survive in her consciousness,i will see that she doesnt depart this world with empty hands.
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Shwetu, it’’s true. I remember my MBA teacher’’s words,way back in 1986…Quote” Enjoy the silence between the words”.
A man falls for a woman, who can make him larger than he is, boosting his ego constantly. And a man’’s libido is not between his legs but between his ears. And money makes a man more virile than anything else in this World. Example, Playboy mag. owner, 87 yr. old tycoon has 5 girl friends and he says he had 7 , 2 years earlier.
On the lighter note, I wish he is my neighbour…. as the Onida ad. goes..Owner’’s envy, neighbours” Pride. haha!
Your blog was good. Keep it up.
I think your talk of empathy in love has a lot of meaning! light heartedly, one can say that in the first year of married life, she talks, he listens, in the second, he talks and she listens, and then both talk, and the neighbors listens. But in a serious sense, love is exactly what your blog says, I hear the sounds of silence, hello brightness my friend! (changed darkness!)
This is a better post for my wife to act on…. express with silence.. ha ha… I wud rather not take risk to tell her.. read in eyes..understand without words etc…
It can be dangerous yaar… sometimes if she get wrongly.. sometimes if she get correct one
i too hav experienced this….its true
Interpreting silences is a dangerous terrain. I prefer words anytime… Cheers, T
silence speaks louder than words
…..Amar
Truely said…….We need to understand that Men and Women are two different entities and have to respect their individuality.
If both understand the depth of these silences, then words are often not needed to express feelings. You are often thinking abt the same things and whoever starts the discussions, the thought process is often the same.
Happy Diwali and a cheerful new year
Misty!
hey, well said shewta, keep nice always.
hi its vry nice.I hav undergone these feelings .
“if u cant understand a persons silence,u wont understand his words”.. that was sure a beauty, but I also believe that if the almighty has given you the gift of speech utilise it too :). Well versed
“if u cant understand a persons silence, u wont understand his words” . . . now that is some awesome line… but comin back to real life u need to talk, gurl. the real keysare patience n willingness to understand n b understood.. ur line is not somethin one can agree with esp in d early stages of a relationship.. once u really know a person, then, may be…
Well said. Autobiographical? Warm Regards & Happy Diwali, Ghost
Silence always is a better friend than words when it comes to love…doesnt it? good one shweta
yes, sometimes silence speaks louder . the strength of the bond between two also matters in those silent moments
A few things came to mind 1. silence sometimes is more comforting than words. 2. when ppl,truely love each other..sometimes silence is preferable to words….lovely one shwets
Wow.great work.I personally think you should start writing a novel …one thought which strikes me is maybe you can compile your entire blog collection for one..!!!!
And by the way as far as formatting for the novel is concerned maybe you leave that job to a speacialised person who can take care of it…
Keep the good work going
duh? ok.. shweta i play by ur game.. now do u want me to eat my words.. or let them be there…. with the faint hope that they will nag u a bit and someday… u will sudhrofy……….. he he he….. do let me know.
I have read somewhere, ur friendship is matured if the silence between u is not a problem……….something like this………dont remember exactly!! U can say any relationship got matured when u can understand the others silence. But i wont agree with “U cant understand their words if u cant understand silence”…….it takes really long time to understand the silence………but u can make others understand by words much easily!!
No probs shweta………we got habituated anyhow!! I used to always think i”m very lazy in these matters……(but trying to improve now!! )So after seeing ur blogs, i was thinking mine was not that bad!! so feel more happy to see ur blogs like this only!!! ha haha ah ahhaah ha
hey guys…thanx for the trble u take to read my unformatted blogs…but thats me…hate a very few things in life and on top of the list are rule bound,ritualistic and discipline…dont ever preview or edit…dont even have a rough draft…i justify it as have big things to think about so dont waste time on mundane stuff…knw i shud work on it…but yaar it is too much of an effort foe me…actually it is just not me…pl lemme be!!!!
nicely written shwets….
One more nice topic!! and true!! why dont u format ur blogs just a little bit better. and i”ll come here again after some time!!
btw, do get ur typo and formatting correct…. wud definitely bash ur head without ur permission if u compose another blog like this.. i mean about the misplaced spaces (or the lack of it) and wrong spellin” ……. and no punctuation.
once again at it shwets?.. but then it really is true. .. u know.. listen and silent are two words formed from the same set of letters. if u arent able to listen to silence then u aint knowing it at all.