“Unconditionallove” is one word she used to say…unconditional is redundant shwets…if it is conditional it isnt love!!!’
Anushka was every mans dream come true I thought cos that deep was her beleif in unconditional love and aceptance..what more did anyone need in a relationship
Gaurav was the one for her she felt…she told him how very much she loved him..and how she beleived in being with him unconditionally..nothing to hide or manipulate,I accept you in totality…forever..
Anu shared her whole world with him…her hopes,dreams ,insecurities,strengths,weaknesses,mistakes,her past,her friends..every little detail..her entire world…
Gaurav was different …yes he valued her too….doted on her…yet was not comfortable sharing…even months later Anu felt he evaded many of her questions and she didnt know ‘everything’ about him…
“Shwets,I cant continue with gaurav” she soon told me midst sobs…”When I love him so unconditionally ,what stops him from telling me all?He doesnt trust my unconditionality ..and where there is no trust how can there be love !!!”she declared
“But I loved him absolutely unconditionally” she kept saying
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Unconditional love only belongs to baby girls she plays ,feeds and sleeps with the doll she loves …without ever expecting anything… thats unconditional love… can any one adult come near to it…???
To each his own…….Confess I”m confused…..if her love is unconditional …Why does she expect unconditionality from him too….should she not accept him the way he is and not make his love being unconditional as a condition?Guess I have confused you too………
hmmm….well i am confused after reading this….ha ha ha ha ….
In life you dont get everything you wnat..perhaps it’’s better to make do with what you have…..
Men are from mars- got to live with their quirks of secrecy at times.
a simple case of a mistaken conditionality.. don worry.. she jus needs to condition herself.. mi thinks she didnt understand the meanin of the english word
2 much has been written already.. nothin more to dissect…he he he..
Most people decide to fall in love. Not rise in love. Anu should have checked her premises. She believed in the unconditional. Expecting a bare all Gaurav is a condition.
saying all these things, shweta, I can understand Anushka, she is right in every sense except that she is thinking her love as unconditional…..leave that unconditionality, but what she expects from her spouse is just and right!! But instead of forcing hime to reveal about himself, let her listen to him fully whenever he wants to open up…………..once his comfort levels and confidence levels increase, he may naturally open up more and more…that all happens naturally…………if he is still evading some questions, it is simply because, he is feeling them not so worth of telling anyone!!!
I just agree with FG, and wish to add a few more lines!!! Even in between parents and children, the unconditionality is only one sided, from parents to children and even that too only at the childhood days of the children, after wards, even that changes slowly!! and from children to parents, it is never unconditional……..no one loves their parents without their parents loving them!! so unconditional love is far from reality!!
SI…besides my mom and my cats…unconditional love is a chimera…
If she loves him REALLY unconditionally, then she”ll stop applying the condition of reciprocality. She”ll let him love her exactly the way he wants to, and not the way she wants to be loved. If she loves him unconditionally, she will never be unhappy with anything that he does. That said, let me add that I don”t believe love between husband and wife can never be unconditional. Between parents and children, maybe possible, but between man-woman, very unlikely. Your friend seems to be deluding herself. Warm Regards, Ghost
How did that stupid woman know that he has not told her everything? What does it matter if he did not tell her his whole past? For him it does not exist, so it does not matter at all and so does not deserve to be told or as she sees it confess. Why does one expect a confession from the spouse? Why cannot he/she be accepted as he/she is? Why probe into the past? Are there no private things, private moments, private feelings in life, in a marriage? Would she be happy if he told her that he had a serious affair in the past, now long forgotten, with her close friend? Some secrets should remain secrets, that is part of civilisation.
This is an example of oxymoron. How can unconditionable love demand of another for unconditionality. Inherent contradiction. Rajesh Vora has summed it in a nutshell.
she must be one hell of a confused person…… imposing conditions that he should share everything with her…… and then telling that i cant continue anymore…. even though she loved unconditionally…
Swets…i cannot agree more with you on this…. infact i always say this to my friends as well that love as if you are never hurt…..coz its pure andits unconditional…..and they laugh…..i can”t agree more with you on this…..
I agree to what sudaman said..an ideal love is a feeling that just doesnt have any grounds for any conditions……..Expecting unconditonal love is also a CONDITION……. what say?
It is exceptionally s … otherwise it is normally conditional to what and the extent one is useful to another in whatever sense … emothional, mental or physical or financial.
And Shwets, Love, a decision, when made by a complete man or woman, will never cease to exist. Just in case, if it does, then, there was never a LOVE in the first place or the decision was never made. All around me i can see just adjustments…mutual arrangements…and very rarely do i see LOVE. All i mean to say is, there is no past tense to the word LOVE…It is always and all ways I LOVE YOU and never I LOVED YOU.
Have you ever heard people talking of Wild Sex Shwets…I have always given a thought on that. How can making love be wild and still people like only that….How interesting? People love being wild….And this my friend is just not a possibility in a space that isnt provided by LOVE. And still if you want to perform the act of sex as wild as you can get just to prove yourself that it is ofcourse a space provided by Love, then it is a feeble try to prove the equation from the left side. Well, this isnt mathematics you see…but this is nature at its perfection…
Three strong comments…I love spending my minutes as deep as i did just now…Thanks for this…just start reading my comments as the bottommost as first…
Unconditional…or…Conditional…there is no debate Shwets…In my opinion, an ideal love is a feeling that just doesnt have any grounds for any conditions…It is purely personal and it is purely YOUROWN or MINEOWN emotions and you are selfish enough for your emotions. Anu, in my opinion, was not highly selfish because she wanted to be selfless….she wanted to know Gaurav and the motivation to know Gaurav is nothing but a thought in Anu that it might comfort Gaurav. You can teach a selfish need to know Gaurav…but when Gaurav wouldnt want to do that and if you still want it, then it can never be a selfish reason….May be insecurity creeped in…(what stops him from telling me all?) And slowly a doubt along with that…(Was that really a Love?) And in a space that is provided or made by true love, trust is never searched for…it just belongs there.
It seems the clock is running back in rediff!!! 3 minutes after 10:02, it is 9:59
ha ha ha……………hilarious!!!!! sarcastic in another sense!! What is unconditional then in this!!!!
Some people are just not comfortable in sharing !! thay are just scared of intimacy!!! may change in course of time but!! loving unconditionally should include respecting others space as well, i think!! entering into their space only when they invite u there!!