Psychology says people choose to be sick (this sure is not the same as pretend to be sick)…they hold on or attract certain sicknesses because if offers them preferential treatment…even logic and evidence based medicine recognises “psychosomatic illness”(the origin of the illness in the mind)
Now which parent would yell at a sick child for low grades…even adults are judged more lovingly when sick…so holding on to sickness can be emotionally comforting to people…pschology calls it “the hidden gains”.
I never fall sick actually thanks to Timboo,my family and friends…who make sure I dont have to be sick to feel special
I hate it when mom calls herself an asthamatic or a patient of mine says he is a diabetic…by identiying ur whole self with a diseased condition arent u holding on to it!!!!I refuse to give any prefential treatment to a sick person…I do not wish to pamper the sickness I say..my family hates this approach of mine..they sometimes even accuse me of being too insensitive for being a doctor…
once someone questioned so “what about the tender loving care that is most imporant in sickness they talk about???”and I said “It is like the cliched they say about valentines day…why wait for something for TLC…rnt we supposed to be loving everyday!!!”
Now I am thinking if I was as loving as they needed me to be….maybe they wouldnt fall sick to get my attention…time for some introspection……
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I dont agree with you. I am suffering from panic attacjk cum anxiety neurosis and belive me when the attack comes it is painful. Ypu will not understand all these —– My psychiatrist also agrees with me.
did i understand this blog?
u”re a doctor with a positive outlook
nice thoughts…compelled me to think… really sometimes we tend to give over importance to diseases…
Hi Shweta……..Your blog opens another issue…….May people try to sustain the sickeness for :THE HIDDEN GAINS”……But what do they gain……..”THE LOVE”, which is in scarcity now…….If I can be loved only when I am falling sick…….why not……..A different perspective……have a good day…….
you are not wrong, but never so right neither. long way to be a psychatrist, but a good start indeed. Bottomline is everyone likes to be loved. Rationale does nt work everytime
I have a lot of people working with me … those who enjoy their work are seldom sick or tired…reckon it all has to with attitude… and the way we look at our own lives… those who are happy … the best thing they have is … they are alive…
its not that one wants to be sick…some are born sick…now whether to get attention or pamper if someone becomes sick..thats sick mind…the ones who catch sickness (contagious diseases) that has a scientific answer…many times the news of being sick is not shared with everyone…its only with those whom you can share with or feel some good faith…there are things beyond the science which makes one sick…check the aura of your patients and not their psychology
I”d definately like a doc who is a lil sensitive… and i usually dont feign an illness
..but what u say is so true… if people have to feign an illness to get your attention then something is definately wrong. Nice one shwets 
well, i always feel better going to a doc who says kind words to me(along with treating me, of course) rather than the one that just treats my disease. I do agree with you when you say one shouldn”t really identify oneself with an illness…but yeah, being loving helps!
goodpost.. and after along time.. wow.. wher hav u been?
don tel me u wer sick!! hehe.. now i shudnt b commentin on this one, right? i mean i`ve no right.. hehe.. i aint a doc 
Wel shweta,urs was one side f the argument…..trely agree wid u to sum xtent…….but dere r ppl who dnt fake arnd lyk dat for attention..especially d poor ppl…coz one sick day,wud cost dem two days f deir bread……they ll thnk twice b4 they consult a doc….but as u say…introspection required………………..sid.
:)…i find doctors insensitively sensitive….ha ha ha
very well said…………;-)) wish people realise dis………..gud one…buddy…;-))~~GIFT~~
wot? i just cant believe that ppl feign sickness.. until i read a blog by another doc-iLander friend wrote about it. good blog.. but since i havent come across such cases.. or seen it around me.. i wont be able to comment properly.. and as Babu says below.. wot happens if there is genuine problem? and also, u sure know how to love and be loved to a great extent.. so no issues with u or ur family or timboo… ”appy bloggin”
but what if the person is actually sick…lets say he’’s got a broken limb…thats definately not by choice isn”t it !!!!
Its very much true that many people want to be sick so only they are sick!! I read in 90% of the cases (patients), disease can be cured without any medicines or doctor!!
Disease is also one of the forms of escapism…..if there is no pressure on people that they should do this or that or they should be like this or that….and they can be just what they love, there is not much need for escapism and so to invite the disease!!
Yaaa………….u r right!! U r not as loving as they needed u to be!!! But u r much more loving and caring than that can be knowned to or that can be expected by them!!! They should really feel great to have u!!