SOME SMALL GESTURES WHICH WE MISS IN OUR DAILY FAST LIFE:
Once I asked my friend (stupid question though) after listening to her for around 15-20 minutes,
"How much do you love him?" When she was telling me tales about her love life. Well, she had a friend whom she loved a lot.
A bollywood reply came "A lot I can't live without him"
"And what about him"
"He too is crazy about me. We cant live without each other plan to get married soon"
Don't know why but being honest I got a grin on my face hearing this (just don't know why) but sensing her uncontrollable reaction, I asked her " Sorry to raise a personal question, seems you too are too close to each other, have u been intimate with him?"
She didn't say anything, simply nodded her head in affirmative.
I then asked her "when was the last time you people had hold hands of each other?"
Instant reply came "we were together a few hours ago, walking hands in hands"
"How does u feel when you hold each others hands?"
Instant reply again with a shying smile this time, "bahut accha lagta hai" (feels too good)
"Is that all?" I asked
And reply disturbed me "What else!!!!!!?"
So she went off leaving me with a thought to ponder upon. For me, it was more then a shock to realize that a person who has gone through the extent of intimacy doesn't even knows what holding hand provides. My thoughts started wandering; I was forced to ask myself, "Is holding hands merely a physical act?" or there are feelings beyond that too. I really pity her and all those with the same thoughts, perhaps they don't even know as to what holding hands does to them, don't even realize the power of it. And when you don't know what you are missing, how can you be warm and receptive towards it.
Usually, holding hands is the first thing in any relationship. A time when nothing appears to be better than that. But as the relationship progresses, unfortunately, the intensity and frequency of holding hands decreases, substituted by other gestures. To me it appears more like a first gear of a vehicle. To gain initial acceleration, we put the car in first gear and once the momentum is attained, gears are switched over with first gear never put back unless the vehicle is stopped. Same way, I feel, the concept of holding hands has become. In the beginning it seems like worth a treasure, as time passes by, this treasure decreases. God knows, may be we all wait for the car to stop to get it refueled and then re-start putting the first gear. Whatever, the crux is that the concept of holding hands in true sense is diminishing day by day.
When we are together with our beloved, I feel, holding hands is the best thing we can do, it provides us so much sense of security and warmth. It really is a mode of conversation with closed lips. Hold hands, look into each others eyes, just drown in each other; perhaps you would realize what you are getting. This so-called simple act of 'holding hands' can become a strong catalyst for an enduring relationship. It really conveys a lot.
And when in distress, nothing can be more effective than this, just forget about everything in the world, hold each other's hands, and close your eyes for a while, fingers entangled, believe me, it's medicated, it's a therapy, and you would really feel the flow of energy, transmission of positive vibes. It's magical, it really is magical. It provides so much assurance, so much comfort, which is beyond anything in the world. And soon you would realize that your problems are vanishing (no literal meanings please) and even if not vanishing, you would feel so much internal strength within yourself, which would make you capable of coming out of problems in a much positive manner. A few watery drops flowing down your eyes would signify the attainment of optimism.
Unfortunately again, now, the concept of holding hands is limited to when two persons are in a public place or in the middle of a small group of people. And that too, not because they know what it provides, but simply for the reason that nothing else can be done. Otherwise if today, you leave a couple alone, I feel, holding hands would be the last thing on the agenda, in fact no wonder if it isn't there even.
In fact, why talk of holding hands in case of 'love' relationships only. This deed can work wonders in any existing relationship, be it friends, be it spouse, parents, kids, or any relationship, all what is desired is intense feelings. You find your friend disturbed; a simple gesture of holding hands looking eyes to eye, conveying them that you are with them under any circumstances might put them back on feet. You find your parents disturbed, believe me, this act infuses energy into them. You find your kids coming home crying, this deed along with a warm hug can make them forget all worries in the world. And for a little child, no need to say anything, just feel the grip of his soft fingers around your fingers, you would feel heavenly. Now if a single medicine leads to so many cures, don't you feel we all are fools, as we don't even know how and when to use it?
Friends, Intimacy is enjoyable, no doubt about that but if we were practical, as we grow in age in our lives the frequency of getting intimate decreases. (Though sad)
On the other hand, holding hands is a medication, which comes in a very ordinary pack, many a times acting like a life saving drug with absolutely no date of expiry. It can be used 'SOS' and like wine, it improves in its effect, with time. Unfortunately as it doesn't come in a fancy pack, it doesn't catch up in sales in the market. People don't know what it provides.
And yet another beautiful facet of holding hands:
A little girl and her father were crossing a flimsy bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, "Dear, please hold my hand, so that you don't fall into the river."
The girl said, "No, Dad, You hold my hand please."
"What's the difference?" asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference", replied the little girl. " If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go, But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matters what happens, you will never let my hand go.”
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, age or caste or creed, but in the bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love, rather than expecting them to hold yours.
Friends, gestures speak, they communicate, and they really communicate in their own ways. Each and every gesture has so much to offer. We don't need ears to listen to them or eyes to see them; all what is desired is a warm and receptive heart to gather what all is being offered. These small gestures may at times sound meaningless, but at the end, it's these so-called small gestures, which have an unending ability to convert our lives into an eternal bliss.
Unfortunately we all do not realize what we are missing in our lives
In silence also we can communicate with each other
How????
Just by holding hands of each other
& just feel that feeling
For me it's beyond this world .
This one is a sms which I have received which is as follows:
Sometimes the smallest gestures go right 2 the heart
* A smile from a stranger when you are lost in a crowd.
* An old friend call you from a distance land just to say
"I MISS U"
* The touch of the mothers hand when you are unable to sleep
* A message from a friend asking whats went wrong when
U thought no one could notice
* A hand on your shoulder when it feels like the world
is against U
* Unexpected hug sometime it's the tiniest of things
that bring a smile in hard times
I'll try to post something on other gestures in my future post [hope so] till then
“HAPPY HOLI”
