Archive for January, 2009

Please don’t laugh………….it really happen

January 31st, 2009

A man and his wife had been arguing all night, and as bedtime approached neither was speaking to the other. It was not unusual for the pair to continue this war of silence for two or three days, however, on this occasion the man was concerned; he needed to be awake at 4:30am the next morning to catch an important flight, and being a very heavy sleeper he normally relied on his wife to wake him. Cleverly, so he thought, while his wife was in the bathroom, he wrote on a piece of paper: ‘Please wake me at 4:30am - I have an important flight to catch’. He put the note on his wife’s pillow, then turned over and went to sleep.

The man awoke the next morning and looked at the clock. It was
8:00am
. Enraged that he’d missed his flight, he was about to go in search of his errant wife to give her a piece of his mind, when he spotted a hand-written note on his bedside cabinet.

The note said: ‘It’s
4:30am - get up.’

THE TOUCHSTONE……………

January 27th, 2009

The Touchstone

 

When the great library of Alexandria burned, the story goes, one book was saved. But it was not a valuable book; and so a poor man, who could read a little, bought it for a few coppers.

The book wasn’t very interesting, but between its pages there was something very interesting indeed. It was a thin strip of vellum on which was written the secret of the “Touchstone”!

The touchstone was a small pebble that could turn any common metal into pure gold. The writing explained that it was lying among thousands and thousands of other pebbles that looked exactly like it. But the secret was this: The real stone would feel warm, while ordinary pebbles are cold.

So the man sold his few belongings, bought some simple supplies, camped on the seashore, and began testing pebbles. He knew that if he picked up ordinary pebbles and threw them down again because they were cold, he might pick up the same pebble hundreds of times. So, when he felt one that was cold, he threw it into the sea. He spent a whole day doing this but none of them was the touchstone. Yet he went on and on this way. Pick up a pebble. Cold - throw it into the sea. Pick up another. Throw it into the sea.

The days stretched into weeks and the weeks into months. One day, however, about mid afternoon , he picked up a pebble and it was warm. He threw it into the sea before he realized what he had done. He had formed such a strong habit of throwing each pebble into the sea that when the one he wanted came along, he still threw it away.

So it is with opportunity. Unless we are vigilant, it’s easy to fail to recognize an opportunity when it is in hand and it’s just as easy to throw it away.

 

VERY TOUCHING…………..U MUST READ

January 24th, 2009

 

 

MOTHER…………….

Mother is the best People Manager in this contemporary world I have ever seen. She manages everything in the house for fulfillment of children’s need. While doing these activities, she was never found getting stressed or tired. Despite this hectic mundane schedule, she could always find more time for her children. Her joy knew no bounds when she sees her children in more happiness and joy.

Here is a beautiful story and I am sure you will like it.




My mom only had one eye. I hated her… she was such an embarrassment.
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me.
I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me?
I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out.

The next day at school one of my classmates said, “EEEE, your mom only has one eye!
I wanted to bury myself.
I also wanted my mom to just disappear.
I confronted her that day and said, ” If you’re only go make me a laughing stock, why don’t you just die?”

My mom did not respond…
I didn’t even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger.
I was oblivious to her feelings.

I wanted out of that house, and have
nothing to do with her.
So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study..
Then, I got married.
I bought a house of my own.
I had kids of my own.
I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts. Then one day, my mother came to visit me.

She hadn’t seen me in years and she didn’t even meet her grandchildren.

When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at her for coming over uninvited.
I screamed at her, “How dare you come to my house and scare my children!”
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!”


And to this, my mother quietly answered, “Oh, I’m so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address,” and she disappeared out of sight.

One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.
So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip.
After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.
My neighbors said that she died.
I did not shed a single tear.
They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.

My dearest son,
I think of you all the time. I’m sorry that I came to your house and scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion.
But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you..
I’m sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up.

You see……..when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye.
As a mother, I couldn’t stand
watching you
having to grow up with one eye.
So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.

With all my love to you,
Your mother.

 

 

That’s the spirit of life…………….

January 24th, 2009

 

 

 

ONE PARAGRAPH THAT EXPLAINS LIFE!

Arthur Ashe, the legendary
Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983.
From world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: “Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease”?
To this Arthur Ashe replied:
“The world over — 50 million children start playing tennis, 5 million learn to play tennis,
500,000 learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand slam,
50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi final, 2 to the finals,
when I was holding a cup I never asked GOD ‘Why me?’.
And today in pain I should not be asking GOD ‘Why me?’ ”

“Happiness keeps you Sweet,
Trials keep you Strong,
Sorrow keeps you Human,
Failure keeps you humble and Success keeps you glowing, but only Faith & Attitude Keeps you going…
.


NICE ARTICLE…WORTH SHARING

January 23rd, 2009

Recently I came across a wonderful article,,,,,,,,,and I am sharing the same with you ..

A Life That Counts Is Determined By:

1. The Relationships That I Form

Relationships help us to define who we are and what we can become. In my own life, I can see how relationships have shaped my character, values, and interest. I consider relationships to be my greatest treasures in life and an immense source of joy.

Most people can trace their failures or successes to pivotal relationships. That’s because all relationships involve transference. When we interact with others we exchange energy, emotions, ideas, and values. Some relationships reinforce our values and uplift us; while others undercut our convictions and drain us. While we cannot choose every relationship in our lives, on the whole, we get to select those who are closest to us.

Relationship Rules :


1. Get along with yourself

The one relationship you will have until you die is yourself.


2. Value people
You cannot make another person feel important if you secretly feel that he or she is a nobody.


3. Make the effort to form relationships
The result of a person who has never served others? Loneliness.


4. Understand the Reciprocity Rule
Over time, people come to share reciprocal, similar attitudes toward each other.


5. Follow the Golden Rule
The timeless principle: treat others the way you want to be treated.

2. The Decisions That I Make :

Good decisions sometimes reap dividends years into the future, while bad decisions have a way of haunting us. Consider diverging decisions made by Johnson & Johnson and Phillip Morris.


In 1982, Johnson & Johnson faced a dilemma when seven people died from cyanide poison placed inside of Tylenol bottles. Johnson & Johnson’s reaction? The company pulled its product from the shelves, invested in tamper-proof bottling, and emerged as a paragon of corporate responsibility. To this day, Johnson & Johnson remains one of America’s most admired companies.

In 1999, Phillip Morris, in an attempt to counter antismoking measures in the Czech Republic, commissioned an economic analysis to look into the “indirect positive effects” of premature deaths to smokers. The purported “benefits” to Czech society included savings on health care, pensions, welfare, and housing costs for the elderly. After word of the study began to circulate, public opinion forced Phillip Morris to issue a sheepish apology. In light of clear evidence showing the health detriments of smoking, Phillip Morris’ decision to justify cigarette sales has contributed to the “Big Tobacco” image as an object of consumer scorn.

legendary basketball coach John Wooden, encourages leaders to, “Make every day your masterpiece.” Two ingredients are necessary for each day to be a masterpiece: decisions and discipline. I like to think of decisions as goal-setting and discipline as goal-getting. Decisions and discipline cannot be separated because one is worthless without the other.

Good Decisions - Daily Discipline = A Plan without Payoff
Daily Discipline - Good Decisions = Regimentation without Reward
Good Decisions + Daily Discipline = A Masterpiece of Success .

3. The Experiences That I Encounter

In addition to relationships and decisions, our lives are shaped by pivotal experiences. Whether triumphs or tragedies, our lives are molded by a shortlist of prominent experiences. Perhaps we receive a long-awaited promotion or we’re suddenly let go from a job. Perhaps a loved one passes away, or a newborn baby enters our lives. These experiences immerse us in emotions and challenge our convictions. They may even reveal our purpose in life.

Oftentimes, we’re defined not so much in the moment of experience itself as in our response to the experience. Do we quit or rebound? Do we harbor bitterness or choose to forgive? Do we blame or improve? Whatever the case, the experiences in our lives profoundly touch us.

The life experiences we encounter are broad and varied, but here are a few brief pointers on gaining the most from them.

1. Evaluate experience
Experience isn’t the best teacher. Evaluated experience is the best teacher. Learn from mistakes and victories alike. Draw upon experiences to grow and gain wisdom.

2. Manage the emotional aspects of experience
Pivotal moments come with a flood of emotions - at times positive, and at times negative. Teach yourself to counteract negative feelings and learn to harness the momentum of positive emotions.

3. Share them through storytelling
Experiences are my richest repositories of teaching material. Make a habit of sharing the lessons learned from the experiences that have shaped your life and your leadership.

REVIEW.

Living a Life That Counts Is Determined By…
1. The Relationships That I Form
2. The Decisions That I Make
3. The Experiences That I Encounter

FINAL THOUGHTS .

If you’re not doing something with your life, then it doesn’t matter how long you live. If you’re doing something with your life, then it doesn’t matter how short your life may be. A life is not measured by years lived, but by its usefulness. If you are giving, loving, serving, helping, encouraging, and adding value to others, then you’re living life that counts.

No Need to cry for me ….when I am gone

January 21st, 2009

LOVE STORY FOR EVERYONE

Apparently, they are there to file a divorce. Lawyer was very puzzled,

after having a chat with them, he got their story…

This couple had been quarreling all their 40 over yrs of marriage nothing
ever seems to go right. They hang on because of their children, afraid that it might affect their up-bringing. Now, all their children have already grown up, have their own family, there’s nothing else the old couple have to worry about, all they wanted is to lead their own life free from all these years of unhappiness from their marriage, so both agree on a divorce….


Lawyer was having a hard time trying to get the papers done,
because he felt that after 40 yrs of marriage at the age of 70,he couldn’t understand why the old couple would still want a divorce..

While they were signing the papers, the wife told the husband..

“I really love u, but I really cant carry on anymore, I’m sorry..”


“Its o.k, I understand..” said the husband. Looking at this, the lawyer

suggested a dinner together, just 3 of them, wife thought,
why not, since they are still gonna be friends..

At the dining table, there was a silence of awkardness.

The first dish was roasted chicken, immediately, the old man took the drumstick

for the old lady..”take this, its your favourite..”

Looking at this, the lawyer thought maybe there is still a chance, but the wife

was frowning when she answer..”This is always the problem, you always think so highly of yourself, never thought about how I feel,
don’t you know that I hate drumsticks?”

Little did she know that, over the years, the husband have been trying

all ways to please her, little did she know that drumsticks was the husband’s favorite. Little did he know that she never thought he understand her at all, little did he know that she hates drumsticks even though all he wants is the best for her.

That night, both of them couldn’t sleep, toss and turn, toss and turn…after hours,
the old man couldn’t take it anymore, he knows that he still loves her, and he cant carry on life without her, he wants her back, he wants to tell her, he is sorry, he wanted to tell her “I love you”.

He picks up the phone, starting dialing her number….ringing never stops..he never stop dialing….

On the other side, she was sad, she couldn’t understand how come after all these years, he still doesn’t understand her at all, she loves him a lot, but she just cant take it anymore….phone’s ringing, she refuses to answer knowing that its him…”whats the point of talking now that its over…I have ask for it and now , I wanna keep it this way, if not I will lose face..”she thought…still ringing…she have decided to pull out the cord… Little did she remember, he has heart problem…

The next day, she received news that he had passed away…
she rushed down to his apartment, saw his body, lying on the couch still holding on to the phone…he had a heart attack when he was still trying to get through her phone line….

As sad as she could be…she will have to clear his belongings.. .when she was looking
thru the drawers, she saw this insurance policy, dated from the day they got married, with the beneficiary being her… And together in those file, there was this note ..

“To my dearest wife, by the time you’re reading this, I’m sure I’m no longer around,
I bought this policy for you, though the amount is only $100k, I hope it will be able to help me continue my promise that I have made when we got married, I might not be around anymore, I want this amount of money to continue taking care of you, just like the way I will if I could have live longer. I want you to know I will always be around, by your side… I love you”

Tears flowed like river….
When you love someone, let them know… You never know what will happen the next minute….

Learn to build a life together.. Learn to love each other. For who they are.. Not what they are…”

SIEZE PRESENT MOMENT……

January 19th, 2009

 

NEVER COMPLAIN ABOUT GROWING OLD…………BCOZ SO MANY NEVER GET THE CHANCE…..

 

“The great paradox is that the mystery of death can teach us, here and now, how to fully appreciate and live life.”

 

 

“Sometimes God just throws one of those big roadblocks in your way and it totally ruins everything. It’s kind of hard, sometimes, to believe that those roadblocks actually have a reason for

Being there. For all you know, it could saved you from driving off a cliff.”

 

Death opens our eyes, showing us that the only time that matters is right now. Death teaches us a simple lesson: Forget about yesterday-it’s over-and tomorrow may never come, but we haven’t seen today before, so live it as well as you possibly can. Stop putting things off. The only people who should be afraid of death are those who haven’t lived, those who say, “I’ll do it when I get around to it,” “I tell him I love him tomorrow.”

If you don’t live today, your “tomorrows” will to run out. Live life now, tell people now, when their eyes are open, “I love you.” Tomorrow it might be too late.

 

ONLY GOD KNOWS

January 17th, 2009

Dear Lord,

Help me understand why my loved one had to die.
Help me to quit asking you “why?”

Forgive me for all those times I blamed you.
Help me understand that only you know why things happen
the way they do.

Help me understand that only you can heal my broken heart.
And that one day we’ll meet again to never part.

Help me understand that for now I just have to let things be,
But that you will always be there to comfort me.

And though I may be living my worst fears,
One day you will make sure there are no more tears.

Help me be patient with those that do not understand my pain.
Help me to accept that this is my great loss,
But also your great gain.

Help me see through my blurry eyes,
All the love and mercy you have shown.
Help me to see that really,
You just called my loved one home,

And though it hurt deeply, you really did no wrong.
Help me to know that only my faith in you can keep me strong.

Lord, please carry me through this,
So that one day, when I see my loved one again,
I too may have eternal bliss.

From,

Your child

GRIEF OF LOSING YOUR LOVE FOREVER…

January 16th, 2009

I am scared of so many things that I never was before
I wish I could go back in time- I couldn’t ask for more
I miss the wonderful plans we made
The memories we shared could never fade
But where do I go now? What do I do?
How do I continue to live without you?

Others may think I can continue where I was before I met you
They don’t understand that it’s impossible to do
Having you in my life, was the best dream come true
But since you’ve left this world, the sky is a different blue
Words can’t describe the emptiness inside
I get so lost without you here, I need you as my guide.

You can no longer be seen, by the human eye,
But your soul and love that you gave so many, will never ever die
Sometimes I wish I could tell myself that you’ll be back someday
If I could make just one wish right now, I’d wish you back to stay
I guess this is the way life goes, and God’s will we must accept
But I hope you didn’t feel this pain or weep the way I’ve wept

I miss a million things, every detail of who you are
I miss your mind, body and soul- I pray that heaven’s not too far
I still say I’m one very lucky girl to have been given the gift of you
Love like ours is rare these days;
I guess this earth can’t handle things so pure and true
People who knew us as a couple saw the happiness perfect love brings
So many people in this world care too much more
About less valuable things.

You taught me so much in the short time we spent together
You taught me the value of the truest of loves
That I’ll carry it with me forever
I know that I shouldn’t question God
Because obviously he knows more than I
But I can’t help constantly asking myself
“Why did he have to die?”
Why can’t all your dreams come true?
No one deserves them more than you.

I look around and see so many mean people who get to keep living
Why did God take you if He is just in His giving?
I have thought maybe He chose you
Because you were better than the rest
I pray everyday that heaven is as perfect as you;
You only deserve the absolute best
They say that only the good die young, never were words so true
I wonder if I had lived the way you did, if God would have taken me too?

REMEMBERING YOU ALWAYS

January 15th, 2009

I thought I saw your face today, in the sparkle of the morning sun.
And then I heard the angel say, “Their work on earth is done.”

I thought I heard your voice today, and then laugh your hearty laugh.
And then I heard the angel say, “There’s peace dear one at last.”

I thought I felt your touch today, in the breeze that rustled by.
And then I heard the angel say, “The spirit never dies.”

I thought I saw my broken heart, in the crescent of the moon.
And then I heard the angel say, “The Lord is coming soon.”

I thought that you had left me, for the stars so far above.
And then I heard the angel say, “They left you with their love.”

I thought that I would miss you so, and never find my way.
And then I heard the angel say, “They’re with you every day.”

The sun, the wind, the moon, the stars, will forever be around,
Reminding you of the love you shared, and the peace they’ve finally found.

Remember that even if a loved one is lost they will always be around you and remember that when you lose that special person God gains an angel.

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