Sharing with you…..some random thoughts……. Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are; Who is earning almost as much as you do; One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are; One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven’t, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life; One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn’t want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won’t like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you; One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities; Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won’t, simply because you won’t like it, even though you say otherwise. One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met; One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her; One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it. But not many guys understand this……… * pic source- internet
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Came across a thought provoking article few days back;
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen.
Archive for June, 2010
Soul Mate ~ Bas itna sa kwaab hai….
June 26th, 2010RIP Papa *23.07.47 ~ 24.05.10*
June 15th, 2010
Reposting an old poem….I wrote this poem in 2001, when I was getting married, At that time I was in college….my father read this poem after my marriage when he found it in my college diary….my mother called me up in the night & asked me what have U written in your college diary? your dad is crying… never ever thought that one day I will lose him like this. In a girl’s life two relationships are very important, her father & her husband, and destiny snatches both of them away from my life…..sharing this with all of you….
I wonder amidst tears
Which down my cheeks flow
Who was it, who decided
That daughters must go
I am God’s gift to you
I hope your heart remembers
Father! How can you send me away where my feet would tread on embers?
I was born out of love in your home
Which I thought was ours
Can’t you stop me from going
Is everything out of your powers?
Till yesterday I was your little girl
The apple of your eye
Papa! You need a heart of stone
To say Good Bye.
I don’t know when the change came
This bud blossomed into a flower
Pray, tell me Father
The year, the day, the hour.
It’s hard to reconcile
To come to terms with reality
Can’t you hear my pleas
And have a little pity.
I hate the world for doing this
For telling you I have come of age
Your house is the only safe place
The world is a lion’s cage.
When I was little
You held my finger
And taught me how to walk
How will you feel when you see me
As down the aisle I stalk?
I try not to think of the
Lovely years gone by
A mammoth effort does it take
But the memories go on increasing
Like the candles on my cake.
You said I was your pearl
Your precious one
Giving their treasures to others
Since when have people begun?
You shouldn’t have loved me so much
If you had to send me away
I can’t bear the thought of parting
So forever let me stay.
All along you shielded me
From storms & all sorts of dangers
How can you send me among aliens now
And marry me off to a stranger.
I have never been out in the world
Without you there beside me
Who will be there with a lantern now
Show me the way & guide me.
I was always believed that I was yours
I just can’t think of someone else possessing me
No matter how much I try to understand
That it is for the better
And that GOD is blessing me.
Why do relationships change in life
Round each blend,
I wish each one had one family
From the beginning right to the end.
How soon will you forget me
When I left the town?
In winters will you remember
The little girl
Who forced you into the gown.
Will you ever think of me
And miss having me around the house
Papa will you remember the little girl
Who was scared by a mouse?
Father with those old times,
Will you ever think of catching up
Our quarrels the cold wars
And finally the happy patching up.
I will miss hugging you
And sitting on your knees.
You can keep all my toys & books
Each one has a story to tell
Which will take you down memory lane
And in your mind ring a bell.
Who will show me the brightest star in the night sky?
Who will make his arm a pillow for me
And sing the lullaby??
Papa! I want you to know
That this lady in the eyes of the world.
Will always be your little girl
Always full of love for you
And looking up to you.
THE DARLING FATHER OF THE
* Pic source - Internet
