In Praise of Joy and Passion
The eyes roll. The arms cross. The mind wanders. When we hear platitudes about being joy-filled and staggeringly passionate while we do the work that we get to do (and lead the lives we’ve been blessed to lead). But don’t joy and passion matter? Absolutely they do (in my mind).

On a Continental Airlines flight from Newark ( Near New York) to Rome. From the moment i stepped onto the plane the crew reminded me what Merchants of Wow look like. The lead flight attendant, with impeccable manners (remember those?) introduced herself, shared that the flight would be 8 hours and told me she and her colleagues were at our service. The whole crew offered smiles (remember those?). And they genuinely seemed to be happy-as they helped the passengers who put food on their table (rare in the airline business where poor/apathetic service is the normal).

Twenty minutes into the red-eye flight the meal service began. Best meal i’ve had at 40,000 in years (since the Pakistan Airlines flight where the food seemed to appear fresh out of a Tandoori oven). Please don’t tell me “airline food” is an oxymoron-this stuff was brilliant. Fresh fruit, excellent chicken, superb salad. Delivered with the same manners, smiles and passion.

In my own personal development, I’m working on gratitude more than ever before. So one of my new best practices is to voice thanks at every possible opportunity-whether that means telling a grocery clerk he’s amazing or reminding my executive assistant she’s world-class or complimenting a chef in a restaurant for sharing her creative gifts with me and those i love.

So I pulled out a piece of paper and scribbled out a thank you note to the crew (remember those). I wrote it sincerely-with zero expectation of any type of a reward (I used to get a little upset in the past if I’d do something nice like this but received no real acknowledgement in return; I now get that that wasn’t a real gift I was giving - it was only a trade. And trades don’t matter much to me anymore).

I handed the paper to the flight attendant as she passed. “My gift to you all,” i simply said. She smiled.

Then something remarkable happened. One by one, each of the crew members appeared from behind the curtains and paid me a little visit. I could tell they had been moved. Reminded that they were appreciated. Reminded that their hard work mattered. Reminded that joy and passion still count. In business. And in our lives.

Source Robin Sharma writer of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari

Habits of highly creative peopleIf they work for them, they can work for you too!

“There is no use trying”, said Alice.

“One can’t believe impossible things.” “I daresay you haven’t had much
practice,” said the Queen.

“When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” - Lewis Carroll

Many people believe that creativity is inborn and only a chosen few are creative. While it is true that
creativity is inborn, it is not true that only a chosen few are creative.

Everyone is born creative. In the process of growing up, educating yourself and adapting yourself to your environment, you slowly add blocks to your creativity and forget that you had it in the
first place.

The difference between a creative person and a person who is not so creative is not in the creativity that they were born with but in the creativity that they have lost.

How can you enhance your creative ability? One possible way is to observe the habits of creative people, identify the ones that you feel will work for you and then make a plan to cultivate them.

Here are 16 habits of creative people. If you cultivate some of them, you

will feel an increase in your level of creativity. In the process, you will also feel tickled by life!

1. Creative people are full of curiosity.

Creative people are wonderstruck. They are tickled by the newness of every moment. They have lots of questions. They keep asking what, why, when, where and how.

A questioning mind is an open mind. It is not a knowing mind. Only an open mind can be creative. A knowing mind can never be creative.

A questioning stance sensitizes the mind in a very special way and it is able to sense what would have been missed otherwise.

2. Creative people are problem-friendly.

When there is a problem, some people can be seen wringing up their hands. Their first reaction is to look for someone to blame. Being faced with a problem becomes a problem. Such people can
be called problem-averse.

Creative people, on the other hand, are problem-friendly. They just roll up their sleeves when faced with a problem. They see problems as opportunities to improve the quality of life. Being faced with a problem is never a problem.

You get dirty and take a bath every day. You get tired and relax every day. Similarly, you have problems that need to be solved every day. Life is a fascinating rhythm of problems and solutions.

To be problem-averse is to be life-averse. To be problem-friendly is to be life-friendly. Problems come into your life to convey some message. If you run away from them, you miss the message.

3. Creative people value their ideas.

Creative people realize the value of an idea. They do not take any chance with something so important. They carry a small notepad to note down ideas whenever they occur.

Many times, just because they have a notepad and are looking for ideas to jot down, they can spot ideas which they would have otherwise missed.

4. Creative people embrace challenges.

Creative people thrive on challenges. They have a gleam in their eyes as soon as they sniff one. Challenges bring the best out of them ' reason enough to welcome them.

5. Creative people are full of enthusiasm.

Creative people are enthusiastic about their goals. This enthusiasm works as fuel for their journey, propelling them to their goals.

6. Creative people are persistent.

Creative people know it well that people may initially respond to their new ideas like the immune system responds to a virus. They'll try to reject the idea in a number of ways.

Creative people are not surprised or frustrated because of this. Nor do they take it personally. They understand it takes time for a new idea to be accepted. In fact, the more creative the idea, the longer it takes for it to be appreciated.

7. Creative people are perennially dissatisfied.

Creative people are acutely aware of their dissatisfactions and unfulfilled desires. However, this awareness does not frustrate them. As a matter of fact, they use this awareness as a stimulus to realize their dreams.

8. Creative people are optimists.

Creative people generally have a deeply held belief that most, if not all, problems can be solved. No challenge is too big to be overcome.

This doesn't mean they are always happy and never depressed. They do have their bad moments but they don't generally get stumped by a challenge.

9. Creative people make positive Judgment.

A new idea is delicate. It can be killed by a sneer or a yawn. It can be stabbed to death by a quip and worried to death by a right man's brow ' a businessman Charles Brower

The ability to hold off on judging or critiquing an idea is important in the process of creativity. Often
great ideas start as crazy ones ' if critique is applied too early the idea will be killed and never developed into something useful and useable.

This doesn't mean there is no room for critique or judgment in the creative process but there is a time and place for it and creative people recognize that.

10. Creative people go for the big kill.

Creative people realize that the first idea is just the starting point. It is in the process of fleshing it out
that some magical cross-connections happen and the original 'normal' idea turns into a killer idea.

11. Creative people are prepared to stick it out.

Creative people who actually see their ideas come to fruition have the ability to stick with their ideas and see them through - even when the going gets tough. This is what sets them apart from others. Stick-ability is the key.

12. Creative people do not fall in love with an idea.

Creative people recognize how dangerous it is to fall in love with an idea. Falling in love with an idea
means stopping more ideas from coming to their mind. They love the process of coming up with ideas, not necessarily the idea.

13. Creative people recognize the environment in which they are most creative.

Creative people do most of their thinking in an environment which is most conducive to their creativity. If they are unable to influence their physical environment, they recreate their 'favourite' creative environment in their minds.

14. Creative people are good at reframing any situation.

Reframes are a different way of looking at things. Being able to reframe experiences and situations is a very powerful skill.

Reframing allows you to look at asituation from a different angle. It is like another camera angle in a football match. And a different view has the power to change your entire perception of the situation.

Reframing can breathe new life into dead situations. It can motivate demoralized teams. It helps you to spot opportunities that you would have otherwise missed.

15. Creative people are friends with the unexpected.

Creative people have the knack of expecting the unexpected and finding connections between unrelated things. It is this special quality of mind that evokes serendipitous events in their lives.

Having honed the art of making happy discoveries, they are able to evoke serendipity more often than others.

16. Creative people are not afraid of failures.

Creative people realize that the energy that creates great ideas also creates errors. They know that failure is not really the opposite of success.

In fact, both failure and success are on the same side of the spectrum because both are the result of an attempt made. Creative people look at failure as a stopover on way to success, just a step away from it.

Source => tickledbylife.com

Person/kid selling flower etc on traffic signal , have smile always even they listen more “NO” then
“YES”…. Hmmmm……..

What you think ??? …….. some time, it look likes, we forgot, how to smile
……..probably for the sake of getting a living forget to live. perhaps we don”t appriciate what we have

Peace of Mind

If you were to ask your neighbor,”What would give you peace of mind?” he might tell you,
“A vacation in Bermuda!” or
“An extra hundred grand would give me peace!”, or
“A new Ferrari would make me content!”

But going places ' and getting stuff ' is usually a temporary solution …

Let”s say you buy a lottery ticket and by some miracle you win your dream Ferrari.
Today you are content.
Tomorrow you are saying,
“If I could just catch that little punk who scratched it in the car park!”

Peace of mind rarely comes from getting more stuff.
Getting more stuff usually leads to wanting even more stuff!

Peace of mind starts with being grateful for what you have right now.

GRATITUDE is POWER, and here”s why …

When you are thankful for what you have -
for the friends you have, and for the things you”ve got,
you attract more good people and good things.

People who always complain about what they DON”T HAVE, stay stuck.
Complainers attract more things to complain about!

It is a law of life.
It”s hard to explain, but you can observe it around you.
We get more of what we dwell upon.

That”s why all the spiritual masters have taught the same lesson …
“Start by being thankful. Be happy with what you have now,
and more will come your way.”

It”s practical advice.

NUTSHELL ( received via email long back from saeshell)

Every time you say a silent “thank you” you become more peaceful ' and more powerful.

Rage!

These days getting angry is all the rage!We”ve got road rage, air rage, phone rage, supermarket rage …

Here”s what”s interesting about rage:
it”s usually not what happens to us that makes us angry.

It”s when we expect one thing to happen '
but something else happens …

EXAMPLE:
You are driving on the highway and you decide to change lanes.
You EXPECT the guy in the next lane to make room for you '
but he doesn”t!

You EXPECT him to be considerate ' but he isn”t.
So you get mad.

The problem here is not the other driver.
It is your expectation that he should be nice!
Expectation sets us up for disappointment and anger.

Most people in the world won”t think like you
and your plans will often go wrong.

So the less expectations you have about the world '
and even the weather ' the better life gets!

Three more tips for keeping your cool:

1. HUMILITY HELPS!

Angry people tend to believe that:
a) they are more important than everyone else, and
b) that they are always right.
When they don”t get what they want, they get angry!

Relax a little. Allow for others to sometimes get what they want.

2. DECIDE WHAT IS REALLY IMPORTANT.
Rank events in your life, say, on a scale from one to ten:
You might rank having enough food to eat at 9 out of 10.
You might rank having a job at 7 out of 10, idiot drivers at 2 out of 10,
and slow elevators at zero.

When you have things in perspective,
you don”t get upset over details.

3. ACCEPT WHAT IS.
Angry people love to argue with reality!
They say things like, “It shouldn”t be raining!”
or “Thieves shouldn”t steal!”
It is a waste of energy.
When you argue with reality, reality wins!

IN A NUTSHELL

There are six and a half billion other people on planet earth.
For them to sometimes get what they want,
we sometimes need to go without.

Magic question that cool down you :

When you get anger/ irritate / frustrate - Ask you self ” Is this really important ????”

“Holding onto anger/ irritate / frustrate/ unforgiveness is like grasping onto a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who gets burned.”

#"Want to control anger/attitude ? Try this PTR - Pause , Think and then Respond
( not react ) . Result of anger is more painful then reason for anger , Never forget this , if you wanna lead a peaceful life.

# “There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.”

#"The greatest discovery in my generation is that a human being can alter his
life by alerting his attitudes of mind” - William James

#"I have learned that you can”t have every thing and do everything at the same time”- Oprah Winfrey

# if you surrender completely to the moments as they pass, you live more richly those moments- Anne Morrow

The Art of Possibility
“The Blind Leading the Blind”
“If your jurney to nowhere your life will nowhere”

Read this :-

The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable man persist in trying to adapt the world to himself - Bernard Shaw

In first instance you will think , this unreasonable man is stupid, try to change world according to him. Okey

Now again read this :-

The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable man persist in trying to adapt the world to himself, there fore , all progress depends on the
unreasonable man - Bernard Shaw

Now what you think it is unreasonable man , who make the differences . You noticed how , your frame of reference in mind changed  toward unreasonable man
Another thing , you noticed that when things said by Great Person we don”t apply our mind / filter, we try to accept things in absolute manner usually

Same in life, how you think make big difference. How you think about certain incident / situation make big difference.  So think Constructive, not destructive.

**Love While You Live**
Realize things before its too late.
Accept things rather than deny them.
Love people before you loose them.
Life comes just once.
Love it while you live it.* * *
~~~ Try to create balance always , extreme of any thing is always bad ~~~

 We all know this all saying , still why  certain situation happen again and again  , how things creep into your life without you notice it

It all happen because behind the scene there is unconscious mind working and giving instructions

Every day we have about 50,000 thoughts.
Our thoughts determine our actions ' and our actions create results.

Here”s the problem

when you keep having the same thoughts - you keep getting the same results!
You stay trapped in an endless circle of

Your old thoughts are like roadblocks.
The only way to enjoy more success and  more happiness is to break the cycle!

Most successful people are self-directing and self-managing. They take initiative, they know what they want to achieve, and they have discipline. They have self-knowledge and know their strengths and weaknesses. They have action plans to follow in order to avoid procrastination and keep on track with goals.

Then why would successful people seek out the services of a coach , why they need to change , when theyare already successful man ? Why do so many executives ' who are already in top positions ' demand an executive coach as part of their benefits package? Because they know from experience that even their highly refined ability to see what is needed is limited by their own assumptions and beliefs. It is like the blind leading the blind when you only have yourself to turn to.

The problem is that we all use our inner assumptions and beliefs to make decisions. We are driven by motivations and values that are outside our own awareness.

What are we talking abouthere? Surely, age and experience provides self-knowledge and a certain wisdom. Most people know themselves pretty well and are able to set goals and make decisions that are in line with who they are. Well, most successful people have this ability, at least part of the time and therein lies the problem. Sometimes our beliefs and assumptions are faulty or out of date. Yet we rarely take time
to update our assumptions and beliefs 'they are too ingrained. Let's define
further here what we need to discuss:

Beliefs

Beliefs are the assumptions we make about ourselves, about others in the world and about how we expect things to be. Beliefs are about how we think things really are, what we think is really true and what therefore to expect as likely consequences that will
follow from our behavior.

Values

Values are about how we have learned to think things ought to be or people ought to behave, especially in terms of qualities such as honesty, integrity and openness.

Basic Assumptions

Basic assumptions are our automatic responses and established opinions. We are almost always unaware of the nature of our own basic assumptions, but they are enacted through our behavior ' what we say and do. Basic assumptions are usually rooted in infancy and early family and social life. Assumptions shaping our behavior also come
from cultural context.

Attitudes

Attitudes are the established ways of responding to people and situations that we have learned, based on the beliefs, values and assumptions we hold. Attitudes become manifest through our behavior. There are two kinds of beliefs that operate behind the scenes, so to speak:

1. Empowering beliefs:
these are related to excellence and how it can be achieved.

 2. Limiting beliefs:

these are the beliefs that limit you; even though your behavior is not what you
want, you don't believe you can change.

Many of the situations that block us in our daily lives do so based on a framework of assumptions we make. Draw a different frame about the same set of circumstances and new pathways come into view.
 

Have you ever tried to draw or paint a self-portrait? Even if you are artisticly talented, this is a difficult task. To take a look at your assumptions and beliefs by yourself, and to explore them ' examine them for their usefulness and value, is even harder to do ' if not impossible.

A coach can help you see what you can't see yourself.

A good coach will ask the right kinds of questions
' the kinds you can't answer right away, the ones that make you think.

The Questions that Challenge

One of the best ways to surface underlying assumptions and beliefs with your coach is to drill down with a series of questions. You make a statement, and your coach asks,

"What's important about that to you?" You answer.

The coach continues to ask, "And,

until you surface the most important and essential beliefs about yourself and your world.

To explore further, the coach would ask about how you formed that belief,

where it comes from ?

This exploratory discussion usually reveals an experience in childhood or early on in a career. There is a history around every belief, both the empowering ones and the limiting ones. But we rarely examine them to see if they are appropriate for what is going on in the present.

Both our social and work habits have been built on these assumptions. Even our relationships and marriages operate on beliefs formed from our early histories. And while circumstances change, their continued use reconfirms the old beliefs ' they
often still feel right to us. We keep on doing what we have always done, and expect
different results.

Examining your assumptions and beliefs with your coach requires trust and confidence in your relationship. First, you must be able to examine and explore without judgment. Next, you need a safe conversational environment to creatively explore and invent new beliefs.

It's All Invented Anyway Invent new beliefs? Yes. According to authors Ben and Rosamund Zander in The Art of Possibility, our beliefs are all of our own construction.

"It's all invented anyway,

so we might as well invent a story or a framework of meaning that enhances our
quality of life and the life of those around us."

Here is what they suggest
you ask yourself: What assumption am I making,

That I'm not aware I'm making,
That gives me what I see?

When you have an answer to
that question, ask yourself this one:

What might I now invent,
That I haven't yet invented,
That would give me other choices?

Here's a story to illustrate:

A shoe factory sends two salesmen to Africa. One sends back a telegram:

SITUATION HOPELESS STOP NO ONE WEARS SHOES

The other writes back:

GLORIOUS OPPORTUNITY STOP THEY HAVE NO SHOES!

If you only have yourself as a coach, you may be missing an opportunity to explore beyond your assumptions and beliefs, both the limiting and empowering ones. In life  either you make mistake and learn , or you can learn from other mistake or you can take help from coach ( elders , successful man ….etc) .another way is to Read as much as Autobipgrahy of great people , it will help you to think diffrently and respond to situation properply.

Refrences :

The Art of Possibility :- Ben and Rosamund Zander , Harvard Press

What got you here Won’t get you there - Goldsmith

Part 1

Balance Sheet of Life (Thomas J. Watson)

Thomas J. Watson, founder of IBM, didn”t believe the road to happiness and
success was all that complicated. In fact, he often listed their components in
balance sheet format.

“Liabilities:

Reactionary Ideas! Love of money! Unwholesome companions! Lax character!
Lack of love for others! False Friends

Assets

Vision Unselfishness Love Good Character Good manners Friendship (Real)”(1)

To Watson Sr., life was like a balance sheet. And in life, as in business,
building assets and reducing liabilities makes for good progress.

Part 2

1. Our Birth is our Opening Balance !Our Death is our Closing Balance!
2. Our Prejudiced Views are our Liabilities
3. Our Creative Ideas are our Assets
4. Heart is our Current Asset
5. Soul is our Fixed Asset
6. Brain is our Fixed Deposit
7. Thinking is our Current Account
8. Achievements are our Capital
9. Character & Morals, our Stock-in-Trade
10. Friends are our General Reserves
11. Values & Behaviour are our Goodwill
12. Patience is our Interest Earned
13. Love is our Dividend
14. Children are our Bonus Issues
15. Education is Brands / Patents
16. Knowledge is our Investment
17. Experience is our Premium Account
18. The Aim is to Tally the Balance Sheet Accurately.
19. The Goal is to get the Best Presented Accounts Award.

Part 3

Work Life Balance: Take Time to Create a
Life Balance Sheet for Success

It's important from time to time that we sit down and honestly assess our lives.  Doing so allows us to make an honest determination about where we are now and where we want to be in the future.  When we're assessing our finances, we prepare a financial balance sheet.  On it we list our debits and credits so that we can determine our bottom line.  What if you wanted to determine the state of the life you lead?  How is it, or is it not, serving you?  The answer is simple ' prepare a Life Balance Sheet.  Much like a financial balance sheet, list all of your lifestyle debits (choices that detract from balance) such as the following:

• Maintaining relationships that drain you
• Constantly whining, griping, or complaining       
• Inability to say no      
• Always expecting the worse       
• Being ungrateful       
• Unwilling to listen effectively       
• Forgetting to mind your manners
• Taking others for granted

Next list your credits ' ways you live your life that support and honor you.  Anything positive you count as a credit ' no action is too big or too small.  Below are a few credits that add to your life's bottom line. 

       1.      Smile ' not just at people you know, but especially at those you don't
2.      Give to others without expecting anything in return
3.      Do one thing outside of your  comfort zone that improves the quality of your life
4.      Allow someone to merge into traffic ' even if they didn't wait their turn
5.      Compliment a salesperson/clerk on a job well done
6.      Use the good crystal and china other than for a holiday
7.      Be honest about what you need to be happy
8.      Read to a child
9.      Dance to your favorite music
10.  Place your neighbors' newspaper right outside their door
11.  Call someone just to say "hello" and to see how they are doing
12.  Buy a co-worker a cup of coffee or ice cream cone
13.  Walk barefoot in the grass
14.  Tell someone "I love you"
15.  Learn one new thing every week
16.  Every day acknowledge at least one thing in life for which you are grateful

At least once a month, create a Life Balance Sheet.  Take a look at your Life Balance Sheet at
least once a day.  This will empower you, at a glance, to realize how wonderful life can be and allow you to make lifestyle adjustments as necessary.  Remember, a great life is yours to create.  Go create a
fabulous life!

Some very Good and Very bad things …

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out”

One of my old friends came to my city. He is the friend who stand by me, when I need him , when I have trouble ,when I have short money to pay collage fee, when I have big fight in collage days (Come on it all happen in collage days).

So I was too happy and want to take him all the place in city, all the restaurants in city.While going to one of good restaurant, I saw poster and it has definition of success

• Start with your dream - then start working
• Understand first, then be understood
• Create your own opportunities
• Courage, character, caring, communication
• Embrace challenges, expect no less than your best
• Simplify and maintain focus
• Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.

Some more formula for success:

1. "If A is a success in life, then A = X + Y + Z. where Work is x; y is play; and
   z is keeping your mouth shut." - Albert Einstein
2.  "If you want to succeed, double your failure rate." - Samuel Butlen
3.  "People always told me that my natural ability and good eyesight were the reasons for my success as a hitter.  They  never talk about the practice,
   practice, practice." - Ted Williams
4. "Eighty percent of success is showing up." - Woody Allen, American actor
5. "Success is made of 99 percent failure." - James Dyson, British entrepreneur
6. "The three P's of success: Passion, Persistence and Patience."  - Doug BronsonIf

Wait wait ….. don”t cariied away with above formula and success. Always remember Success is not equal to happiness, success is just one ingradient of Happiness.

"Success can only be one ingredient in happiness, and is too dearly
purchased if all other ingredients have been sacrificed to obtain it."

Things turn out best for those who make the best of how things turn out. - Bertrand Russell

Happiness can only be achieved from within.  No amount of success can bring us happiness or satisfaction if we do not have inner peace. - Mridula Agarwal

Power Mantra

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