Virag’s blog

A LONG time ago there was an emperor who told his horseman that he would give him the area of as much land as he covered on horse- back in a day Sure enough, the horseman quickly jumped onto his horse and rode as fast as possible to cover as much land as he could. He kept on riding, whipping the horse to go as far as possible. When he was hungry and tired he did not stop because he wanted to cover as much area as possible. By evening he was dead of exhaustion. The only land he needed was six feet, to bury him in.

In our day-to-day life, many of us push ourselves very hard to make more money, possess more real estate, to gain power and recognition. In the process we neglect our health, family and our surrounding beauty And one day when we look back, we realize that we don’t really need that much, but then we cannot turn back for what we have missed.

Greed and desire cloud our mind. We do not see inwardly but crave things outside ourselves. It’s hard to accept that beyond a wholesome limit, life is not about making money, acquiring power or recognition. Life is definite- ly not about work alone, work is only necessary to keep us living so as to enjoy the beauty and pleasures of life. Life is a balance of work and play, family and personal time. We have to define our priorities.

 The greatest wealth is to live in contentment for there is never want where the mind is satisfied. No doubt wealth is power, but it is power that can easily blind us to the pur- pose of life. We need not renounce the world, but our scriptures warn us against greed, this being the greatest vice and the root of all other vices. The Gita (16.21-22) clearly say that lust, anger and greed are the three gates to hell and those who escape these gates, perform acts conducive to self-realisation and attain the supreme destination.—–
 innervoice - hindustantimes

Two of my good friend fall in love and got married

One day, I was asking my friends wife , who you handle my friend ( her husband ) because some time he seems to be very egoistic. She say simply by "acceptance" , acceptance is power. I oppose and said that mean  you compromise too much and it look unfair. She just say no .

She keeps explaining me, See ego is like hunger and everybody has ego (little or more). Until unless you don't feed hunger s/he will not think any thing else. If you say your problem is that you thinking too much on stomach. It is no use.  So feed hunger, once s/he satisfy , then tell what we think is right and what is wrong again make no demand just tell preferences. If you demand and keep thrashing,
it will increase his/her ego/hunger and make person more demanding. Once her/his hunger is satisfy, s/he ready to listen (that is important). In bottom of mind and heart every egoist person know what is right and what is wrong. It is his/her ego(=hunger ) that keep them away from wisdom/truth/understanding. Once his/her ego/hunger is satisfy, s/he able to concentrate on wisdom/truth and will behave more understanding way. Give person there space so he/she able to
analyze them self other wise s/he keep repeating.

Again if cup is full of tea and if you pore more tea , it will fell down. Same bubble of ego ( = wrong belief/image ) occupy all space in cup(= mind). Once ego / hunger is satisfy , bubble bust and there is enough space to occupy new thought / belief / wisdom / truth.

I oppose again and said , this way you will make person more demanding , every time his/her ego grow up. She Said use this formula AAA, ego will never grow up. AAA means

A ' Acceptance
A ' Approval
A ' Appreciations

She future said gratitude is power. First Accept what you have , Approve what you have and appreciate what you have. End of the day stability in life and peace of mind is more important then any other things.

She further explain relation between belief system and ego. ..
She is from Big metro city and her husband is from Small town and how she handle belief system clash  and culture differences  clash .. very peace fully ..with AAA