“She is such a b***h”, he said. Now, Arun was not someone given to using foul language, but he did, on this occassion. I’d been in the same situation once and knew he must hurt. As I sipped on my Blue Granita in a comfy coffee shop, I looked at Arun and thought “It will be ok…the first time always hurts the most”.
She was also an aquaintance of mine.5 Feet 5, unimaginably fair,brown hair,deep brown eyes and always well dressed, with matching footware and ear rings to boot.She was what a guy would call a “good catch”. Arun though was not a “player”. He did not believe in playing the field, going out with a million girls at the same time. He believed in a utopian concept called “love”.
She did not share his beliefs though.
Here he was, telling me, how “his girl” used to go out with other guys, frequent pubs, had atleast two relationships going at the time and was still in touch (romantically) with her very first boyfriend.With all of this happening she’d tell him how much she loved him…..It did not take too much of an effort to see the pain in his eyes. He’d stumbled upon her other “friends” and had called the relationship of over a year off.
“Never fall for a good looking girl.Thay have way too many options, they are human, and they definately give all options a shot”. I must admit i agreed with him, although I never was in the same position, I did come pretty close to his state of affairs.
“Sometimes..”, he said,”..it’s better to find an ordinary looking girl, who will give you all her love and respect you for what you are, not what you have in the bank or what’s in your pants”.
I concurred.
I hope you seriously do not believe in all that you wrote here! Simply because that’’s not true. Every person is different & you just cannot catagorise them like that.
I agree, cannot really generalize. People can be unfaithful, whether they are physically attractive or not
its hardly abt looks pal, one has to see what lies within. And for most, that doesn”t change either with looks or with the availability of options..You are what you are,,so better be careful what you are looking for ”inside” not outside
Care for some basics here …… When two people are in an association of some sort and there’’s difference in expectations among them from the association, one of them ends up feeling hurt at some point of time or other. So, if you are unsure of the expectations from the other side, don”t get into a relationship.
As regards to generalisations about attitudes related to the sexes i tend to refrain from such an attempt as the world has shown me the unexpected.
I agree totally, but women on the average, whether good or bad looking, do not cheat, unless its really important for them. Most of us men can switch tracks at the drop of the (top), but for the chance of us getting caught. Or may be I havent met ladies who have multipartner fantasies about sex. Also, we tend to notice the affairs that “beautiful” people have. The plan-JaneJohn affairs go unnoticed, I wonder who is having more sex, the beautiful or the not so beautiful or the downright ugly? I think it’’s also a class thing, me thinks us “middle class” are very conservative stuck in Victorian times, and that there are much more cross connections in Upper and the very-lower strata of Indian society.
I strongly disagree that beautiful gals ain”t loyal, on the contrary jus coz they have so many men running after them all the time, they crave for true love more than people think they do. Once they find smone who loves thm not for the looks but for wht they r…there’’s no looking back. Yup! exceptions are there everywhere.
I wish this guy would be a little less jealous, and enjoy is life a bit more. His girl clearly was enjoying here… so why not live and let live?
looking good lies in the eyes of the beholder. Why fuss over it.Treat it as one of those reactions that comes out of frustration, and a lapse in time may change the perspective. It is better to be loved and then reciprocate, and that way the world including the one in love will look good to each other. And not all the girls chase money and u can say, they are a bit unfathomable.
my dear friend….u are sayin dat beautiful girs are not trustworthy….i dn wanna say dat i am beautiful but yes i had lot many options…but still i am very happy with my bf since 2 years …n 1 more thing its true dat boys run behind beautiful girls but u should always give prefernc to 1 who have same feelings for u….n all girls are not same….so my best wishes are with him…
ordinary looking girl?? Me thinks all girls look extraordinary. No one looks ordinary. But still…bummer for your friend. feel bad for him
hmmm well for someone to stay in a moogamous relationship in today’’s times is difficult and such a person can”t be called “ordinary” i guess!
u have to be good enough for the good looking girl…or then ofcourse the grapes are sour
same happens with men too. if he is good looking enough to get a better option (looks wise) then y he will go for ordinary looking gal? life is like that only pal. think practically. every men no matters how he looks want to marry aishwariya, and every gal want to marry John. its quite natural and i dont think anything wrong in it
Hmmm… buthey not all gals are you know!
What one jilted frog goes through in a well doesnt hold true for the world outside. A person enters into a relation based on what he wants. Sometimes he himself may not be aware of what he wants and jumps from one point to another till he discovers this is it. for others its all arranged. there are many a way to get entangled and untagled in relations. and in this we cant blame anyone. just remember to enter one with eyes open.
Well great post , but i guess its quite difficult to generalise this way .but yes these days many females are of this mentality that if they beautiful enough n have many suitors , even for something as deep as falling in love , they try to try options!!!
Wisdom is so useful but just like all the useful ones, its not so beautiful…. :(…good post
true….though the he must be really bitter…I think the thing about pretty girls is mostly true. good post. regards….ZEUS.
I must forward this one to my guy!!! Lol…short but hit me hard! Loved it.
Love,
Angel
Dude ! jst imagine being two timed by an ordinary looking girl. tht would make Aruns story absolutely depressing!!
its not about what you catch its who u catch tht makes a difference
may be it is not all about looks and money - may be the girls have a different view on men , how do u know? dont look at girls thru ur eyes..then u will read only what u see, but not what they are !It sounds as if men dont get frnds with many women .. a few of both men and women r like that and the rest few are different . wait for ur right one
we good looking gurls beg to differ!!!
Depends too on how you define physical beauty. Some men like “fancy” gals whereas others find a more natural look their turn on.
Are relationships so easy to develop or understand and can we generalize on gender basis. I am not sure. My experience is good looking or not every human being wants importance and time. True Love develops over a period of time after sharing good and bad times, otherwise it is infatuation. You cant demand faithfulness, you have to earn it I guess.
hey lets not get gender biased here … or looks for that matter… there are just people who are that crappy. period.
There as many guys who do the same to girls buddy….. It all evens out in the end….
good looking girls….r u listening ??????simple looking girls….u have all the great future……good post
good catches have their own catch…
very well said by p saint…am a simple looking girl too but a little bit of fault lies with men too…..beauty is their preferance over simplicity always…sorry for generalizations but his is my personal experience not once many a times……
reminds me of an archie comics gag thingee. chuck clayton is dating an ugly girl. archie asks him why and he says that he feared the good looking girls turning him down. archie reasons that ugly girls could turn him down too. chuck gives an amazing classic response “yeah! but who cares then.”
Providence intervenes at the right time.. thats why i have begun to believe that these so called “good catches” never fell in my hands :P…
I”ve been hearing the same things!! But then its not true with smart guys like you n me.So i guess,its better not to generalize.