Why do I, choose the things I choose,
Why do I, always find some lame excuse,
Why do I, not realize what I could do,
Oh, I wish I knew the reason why,
Why do you, get that sad look on your face,
why do you, pull away from my embrace,
why do you, see all my faults and my mistakes
Oh, I wish you knew the reason why,
Why do we, treat each other like we do,
It’s like we never even try,
Why can’t we, get back to the love we knew,
Oh why oh baby why,
Why do we, have to play those same old games,
Why do we, run away from who’s to blame,
Can’t they see, to lose this love would be ashame,
oh I wish we knew the reason why,
oh I wish we knew the reason why.
Posted in Life.
By Wise Donkey
– January 12, 2007
The last week of the previous year was an exceptionally fruitful one. not just because I was not in office but because it gave me time to clear my mind and do some much needed thinking.
I learnt that no matter what you do you can never be quite sure if the grass it truely green on the other side of the fence,
That being polite does not quite work in this day and age,
That true friends are an almost extinct species,
That it is better safe to stay away from the other sex for reasons of the heart,
..and most importantly,
The bigger the fool,the harder the fall!
PS.: Please pardon the grammer of this post..the punctuation is all over the place!!
Posted in Life.
By Wise Donkey
– January 3, 2007
As I sit in silence and start my last working day of the year, i contemplate on the goings on around me. The festivities and celebrations are overwhelming.The papers are almost full of ads for the “New Year’s Bash”. It seems wonderful.
There’s nothing wrong in working hard and partying harder, I think when you work yourself to the bone you definately deserve to relax and unwind.But stop for a moment and think…
Think of the many people who wont have that lovely dinner on New Years’ eve,the many children who beg each day for a variety of reasons, the aged who have no one to care for them in their twilight years.
Think,also, that you can make a small difference in someone’s life. It may not be possible for one individual to make a difference for everyone..but if you do succeed in bringing a smile to one single face i think you’ve had a wonderful year behind you and genuine wishes for the next one.
Here’s wishing all the ilanders a Happy and Prosperous New Year 2007.
Posted in Life.
By Wise Donkey
– December 22, 2006
A few months ago I was chatting with a good friend and a fellow ilander. I began by asking her “Howz life?”. I had intended for the conversation to be a banal one. Her answer though caused me to think.
She replied by saying “Well it just rushes past on it’s own..whoosh…..i dont dont do much with it :)”.
Another year draws to an end. It may have been eventful to some while listless for others.As I sit and contemplate on the year gone by, i ask myself… did i get where i wanted to at the beginning of the year? Did I meet my goals? Remember I set goals.. i dont make resolutions..one is different form the other.
It’s wonderful to have a plan in mind… Making those plans reality is a different ball game altogether.It has been a mixed bag in my case.. I won some I lost the others. I also failed more this year…. which probably is a good thing because it just indicates I tried to do a lot more than i did the previous year. (It’s the way you look at it, is’nt it? 
)
The one thing i’ve realised is that the small changes work wonders… grandiose plans are not the ones that usually bring in the best of results. Perhaps I must start making those small changes..perhaps i must start living, ‘coz if you dont take charge of your life it has a way of taking charge of you.
Posted in Life.
By Wise Donkey
– December 18, 2006
“I’m pretty much doomed”, he said. He used to accompany me to a coaching class in the weekends. Today, as our classes were almost over we decided to chat over a cuppa.
“Hmmm…and why would you say that?”, I said. “Well, I’m not going to make it through this exam,my current job is a pain..and well, honestly, I dont have any weekend company either !!”
He stuttered as he ended that sentence.Our weekend classes were such a break from the mundane lives we led. The ‘back to school’ feel was so refreshing…and yes it did give us something to look forward over the weekend.
Now all that was over. We’d get back to the same routine.I’d get back to reading books, listening to music and ranting on this isle!
He….well, he’d have to find something to do..he’d have to make a new beginning. But like he said, “ordinary guys usually don’t do anything interesting over the weekend “. I smiled.
Posted in Life.
By Wise Donkey
– November 15, 2006
I dream of a golden moon and silver stars
When first we met and danced to sweet guitars
Music that breaks my heart bringing me dear…
.. golden memories and silver tears
Golden memories and silver tears are my lonely heart’s suvenirs
All that you’ve left me are memories dear
golden memories and silver tears
And now dear my golden moon pass and turn to blue
And all those silver stars are gone with you
Old memory of love bringing me pain oh how sad to love
…….and love all in vain
Golden memories and silver tears…
- Jim Reeves
Posted in Love.
By Wise Donkey
– November 7, 2006
“You dont try ashte!” she said. (’Ashte‘ is kannada for ‘period’). We were leaving after what was a wonderful get together of friends. It was one of those comments that would haunt me for quite a while….
In an attempt to get her perspective on this, I called her at the end of a busy work day. I guess i was only abdicating my duty to do some introspection on the same. She did give me some song and dance about womens’ sixth sense. She also said something which was very true..” You are the kind that wont run behind women… You’ll fall for one in a million..ask her, and if she declines you are quite happy to carry on,on your own” I decided not to push the issue further.
As I dwelled on this single comment while I drove to work the following day, it dawned on me that she may have indeed been right. Maybe I dont try at all. Which caused me to ask “Why?”
Friends keep saying..WD.. you know you’ve got to start looking…”lotsa fish in the sea”. I’d nod my head, knowing fully well that I would not so much as lift my little finger in an effort to do so.
So…why the hesitence?? Was it the fear of hearing a “no”? Was it that I was an introvert?…Or was it simply that memories simply do not die?
Wise people have always said that one who dwells in the past has no future..and I fully subscribe to that adage.
I guess it is a herculean task to “try harder” when all you have left are golden memories and silver tears… I guess i’m better off this way….
Posted in Love.
By Wise Donkey
– November 3, 2006
A fellow ilander..Saayaa (http://saayaa.rediffiland.com/scripts/xanadu_diary_view.php?postId=1161777815) had written a blog on being single at 30 and how people reacted being in that situation.
Among other things mentioned in that blog was that if you wanted something you would have to work towards it. Which begged the question…how do you measure your progress given a goal?? We no longer are in school and exams are passe. Life is a different ball game altogether.
I reckon, one’s schedule should be a good indicator of how much one is doing in achieveing a goal. There is simply no point in saying i’m single and not doing anything about it. Similarly no point is saying ‘theres no balance in my life’…. The question is..”How much time do you spend in a day to get what you want that badly??”. I dare say the answer will be “nothing al all!”.
It’s surprising when we do that small “review” of our schedules each day…It’s seriously shocking to discover that our daily actions are actually at odds with what we hope to strive for in our lives.
Always remember…your schedule never ever lies!!
Posted in Life.
By Wise Donkey
– November 3, 2006
He settled his lanky 6ft 4 inch frame onto our sofa and said “I’m getting married”. The line was delivered in much the same fashion as one would, while conveying the sudden demise of someone dear.
He was a good friend, someone who knew my family well too.so mum brought out the cookies and we settled ourselves in. I was getting ready for some good humoured ribbing of the poor soul. After all, one does not get to put a good friend on the mat with regard to “bal” and would be “bachche” 
He, though was not in the mood for it.The girl, he said, was 5ft 5…she too would have to look up to him…literally..in much the same way that I do!! His mum adored the girl, his sister doted on the girl and his father already thought of her as his (the dad’s) daughter.
The question begged to be asked and so i said “hmmm…ok…so how do you find the girl??” After a long considered silence…he said “she’s ok i guess…. all i want is for her to get along with my mum and dad”. That was perfectly fine..except one small detail. He …not his mum or dad, was marrying the girl!!!
She had, he said, never owned a pair of denims…her grandmother would have none of it. She had completed her engineering in Bangalore…and the denium story just seemed a little too much to digest….. I guess the fundamentals of a relationship needed to be built on trust.
I suggested he might do something a lot more often… take her to some coffee shop. The ones where you pay 5 bucks for the coffee…90 bucks for the amibiance, 10 bucks in tip and 12.5% VAT!! Get her to talk was what I said…give the girl a chance..u’ll like her..
A long time ago a noted kannada writer Kuvempu wrote “volidu madhuveaguvudaa…madhuve aagi voliuvuda?”…Which would be better to fall in love and get married or to marry and then fall in love? …I’m guessing my friend will soon know the answer to that question.
Posted in Donno where to put it.
By Wise Donkey
– October 26, 2006
This was quite a while ago…almost a couple of years back. It was a time when I was finding my footing in a corporate world. It was also a time when I came across this wonderful girl.I was the obvious donkey and so after a while of running around coffee shops and ice cream parlours (not trees..please!!) I asked this gal if we could take this further.
Long story short, it was not happening…. which was fine..except the “sign off” speach she gave made no sense. After an hour of basically saying no in different ways..she says “you are one great guy!!!” I, obviously did’nt think much of it and life went on. ..Truth be told, i was really appreciative of her..never knew the word “No” can be said in so many ways..each being distinctly creative!!
A few days ago I ran into a long time friend and he narrated a similar incident. Guess what…. he too is apparently a “Great Guy”!!!
What is with the “Great Guy” theory? Methinks it’s just another euphisim for my nome de plume….er..”pen name”. So after much thought we came up with a conclusion of sorts.
Great + Guy = Donkey 
I guess my friends and I are a class apart…we are a bunch of “thorough bred” Great guys!!
Cheers 
Posted in Donno where to put it.
By Wise Donkey
– October 23, 2006
